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π Trans Sisters Attacked β Need Urgent Help
Hey friends π We were attacked in our camp just for being trans. Our shelters burned, and some of my sisters were hurt. We covered hospital bills, but now we really need help finding a safe place to stay in Juba.
Weβve raised $102 so far, but still need about $700. Any share or donation means the world to us. Thank you for being here. The mutual aid Link is in my profile.thank you for taking time to read this πππΏ....
How do I motivate myself to start cardio so I can loose weight?
Does my brain have a switch that i need to press?
"consistent mediocrity" is the key. don't push yourself hard every day, just make sure to go out and do it to some level you can reasonably meet every day (or every other day). I'm able to go jogging 3.5 - 4 miles every day if I really try, but I just make sure to do at least 2 miles every time I go out, and I'll go for more on days where I feel up to it. If I did that 3.5 - 4 miles every day I'd quit in a week, but I've been able to stick to the routine for 2 months so far because I'm not too hard on myself.
Imo, working exercise into your daily life is the easiest way to keep at it. Things like active commuting to work. Sometimes, I find something I enjoy as a hobby and can be physically active regularly for a little bit, but then it falls off. Of course even with commuting, I sometimes fall back into passive commuting habits.
Also, exercise frequently leads to just eating more if you aren't watching food intake as well. Certainly are ways to do that without counting calories and exercising can help accomplish it imo, but its also easy to gain weight by excusing overeating.
my deepest darkest wish fulfillment fantasy
i need the fucking Vitamin to fix me
I mean not to give you false hope, but I know someone this happened to lol. Bro literally just had a B12 deficiency and his entire life and personality turned around after getting on it. Not saying this will happen to you, but will say that this does in fact happen
cw: relationship sadposting
so it's been a year since I started HRT and my wife and partner of 25 years has not warmed up to me being a woman. To the contrary the softer I have become the less interested she is in sharing affection. My irl cis friend says that i need to stick a fork in this relationship and when i told the wife she didn't argue she admitted that it's gotten harder not easier. But she doesn't want to split up, we are co parents and i'm the house wife!
But i'm so alone, i had a gf for a while (poly not cheating) but that fizzled out so i'm gonna just have to try again. I don't have any family and few friends and im desperate to be squeezed and feel connected. I downloaded a new trans dating app with a dumb name and there's so many cute girls in my area and while I may never pass and I may be old I'm still cute and i'm super soft now and i like myself so that's gotta help.
I don't really want someone else i want my wife but the spells i tried didn't work and i can't really think of anything else to try. Sometimes you make mistakes. The worst part is i feel like i stole something from her by killing off her husband. blah blah blah thanks for letting me vent kiddos. i love you bears so much :)
i woke up today ready to have a tough talk with her and she was cuddling me and being super sweet. I said my piece anyway, not really an ultimatum just communicating that i have sone basic needs that aren't getting met and that i need to move on very soon if this isn't going to work out before i age out of the dwindling dating pool. she listened and apologized and admitted that things were hard but she still wanted to be with me and try to make it work. She said the boobs, which i have been extremely fortunate to have the right genetics for, are really tough to deal with and we talked about ways to try and mitigate the issues.
I remain an optimist because I sure do love that woman.
probably doomed but i'm still in girls. I got a kiss :)
I've used the word "catastrophic" too much these days, but like, I took my hormones to my parents, only to find out that the safe deposit I had booked cancelled on me. Now I have a ticking time bomb in my backpack.
Amazon delayed my delivered so it came after I left for my parents. By the time I will be back, the return period will have been expired.
Ali express decided to send my swimsuit to my address and not my parents. I don't have a body of water where I live :)
would it really be too hard to keep it hidden in your backpack while staying with them?
I hope I'm doing this right, sorry if I'm not
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So my egg cracked about a week ago, my partner has been really supportive and I am so much more emotionally available, which is obviously great. Though 20 years of pent-up stuff has me crying every time I think of how greatful I am. I'm posting because I want to get used to talking about being trans since I definitely have a bunch of internalised transphobia (yay...) and I think talking about it will help normalize it for me.
I do have a few supportive friends that I want to tell, but it still feels kind of cringe..... So if anyone could, I would be so happy to have someone ask a few questions.
ask a few questions or answer a few questions?
Sorry I meant ask me a few questions. I don't really know tbh lol. I'm just trying to find a productive way to work through my anxieties.
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For example just saying I want to use she/her pronouns is hard even though its true. I've been taking baby-steps towards presenting more femme, pushing myself up to and slightly past my comfort zone but in safe spaces.
I'm a tired millennial and really don't want to keep waiting until someone finds out or I'm 100% ready. I have too much else to do. I do have an appointment with a therapist, but I don't want to just wait until then to try and work through my stuff
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So I'm gen z, so my headspace may be a little bit different, but I'd say come out as soon as you know and are comfortable doing so. It's never too early to come out. You are trans when you say you are. Anybody shaming you for not being femme enough to be out is just an asshole.
For me personally, I started presenting outwardly when the discomfort of hiding myself surpassed the discomfort of the transphobia and stares. I didn't really get much from therapy when it comes to my trans journey, I just kept throwing myself out there repeatedly until it became more uncomfortable to boy mode than to be myself. I still get dysphoria about not passing occasionally, but honestly I feel way better about not passing now than I did a few years ago.
Thank you <3
It really helps to hear this. Especially where my thoughts and feelings are all over the place day to day.
Do not, my friend, become addicted to boy-moding. It WILL ruin your life. Just fucking send it. Stay vigilant. <3
Lol thank you, it is a weird brain experience
I donβt really know tbh lol. Iβm just trying to find a productive way to work through my anxieties.
Makes sense to me. When I came out to my brother, I'm glad he asked pushed me to express myself more. Not sure what you want questions about though.
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For example just saying I want to use she/her pronouns is hard even though its true. Iβve been taking baby-steps towards presenting more femme, pushing myself up to and slightly past my comfort zone but in safe spaces.
Iβm a tired millennial and really donβt want to keep waiting until someone finds out or Iβm 100% ready. I have too much else to do. I do have an appointment with a therapist, but I donβt want to just wait until then to try and work through my stuff
Its hard changing when you are so used to hiding things, not just from others, but primarily yourself. So many coping mechanism unconsciously formed. I can't provide much help since I've been taking things far slower than I'd recommend to anyone.
What are the things you are feeling most anxious about? Coming out to specific people? General treatment by public? Facing your own thoughts? Figuring out what you want?
Been spending most our lives
Living in a gooner paradise
Been stroked now once or twice
Living in a gooner paradise
I read a book written by a yogi, he said you should fill your space with flowers & look upon them.
The other day had my hard hat on, my safety glasses kinda low, hair little messed up and the top buttons of my shirt were undone because of heat. Went to the bathroom to wash my hands then pee and wash hands again and I looked real damn slutty in that look 
I don't understand it but it's fine maybe it was the ppe 
I definitely been feeling 
it's like my brain has the friends and potential love interest in a circle and while I do think it's fun the amount of times it's picks people incompatible is annoying. I think my main course now is to digest the feelings and work through them as I dive into my new 
special interest HVAC
What brought this up was a my increasing dreams of my classmates that involve either us trying to kpop dance to recently being quizzed on refrigerants etc. I think my main solution would just to try dating people already but I feel my 32 yo virgin ass might be past due by now 
it's also probable that my new interest might be a means to distract myself from this issue 
everything sucks and we are tired 
that is all
did you ever paint your nails? i like painted nails but I'm also extremely lazy and low rizz so am low key vicariousin thru ya
@mendiCAN@hexbear.net I've negative rizz but also yes I did
@bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net also forgot to show off last week was busy with my epa thing (got my universal). I originally picked this because it said gel like shine and it was black with sparkles but the sparkle ain't there it's just black which looks cool but I was promised sparkles 
i love black nails! i usually either lean into it and pair them with a full black outfit or alternate it with red/pink. i think i have some polish that has glitter mixed in but it's always finicky as hell so i agree with @MoonElf@hexbear.net , i think doing another coat with some clear sparkles is where it's at. i'll try to see if i have any nice sparkly stuff next time i do nails, my last application has all come off except for the ring/pinky fingers lmao
My outfit been mostly construction gear rn if I'm being real, gotta wear my PPE so they covered sadly but this weekend I wanna get out. Probably gonna take them off and go with a dark red with some blue sparkles. If I'm really feeling might go with the or 
colors who says pride ever ends 
ooh the shiny is nice though!
I'm a sparkle fan too here's my last:
i like to do a solid base layer and then some shimmery stuff on it
Pretty also this is they way, no longer will I be tempted by the ease of supposive sparkles in base paint, "all that glitter's isn't gold" 
I think my fave sparkle was the gold color one I had but I'm running low on that one and the dollar store doesn't have that one no more. I do have a similar one you got there but I need to pair it with a good color for it to pop
We had two guys from warring gangs sat next to each other lol, I had to convince them the hospital is a truce zone and to leave the fights and taunts for when theyre patched up
I went on a date with a reaaaaalllyyyy cute guy last night. We talked for like 3 hours and he kissed me goodbye. So forearms were like double the size of mine I was in a puddle at the end, this is my first time that Iβve had a guy make me feel this way and Iβm like what the hell, how have I missed this my whole life π
I feel like Iβve always been attracted to men in kinda a different way, like they were my friend and we were the same, while women were like this other species, but i really like it flipped around lol. π
on a serious note: holy shit that sounds incredible and i can't even pretend to hide my jealousy. I'd die on the spot as a happy woman if that were me
i really want to try dating men but i keep getting terrified that they won't see me as a woman. I see myself as a woman but I'm never confidence that anyone else will. I'd sell my soul for a man to let me be the girl on a date though π
ChatGPT, give me a girl name!
I looked through the most common dog names list and me and all of my transfemme friends had names in the top 100 for girl dogs lol
So, pick one of those ones apparently
What kinda name you want? Cool, cute, goth?
can you think of something that's primarily unisex but also vaguely goth
not necessarily unisex, but vaguely goth: russian/greek, so here you go
nikita, vika, sasha/alex, arianne, jules/julia, serafima, olya/olivia, anastasia/nastya, sabine, nerine.
also talia and nisrine, but those are neither greek nor russian
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This whole thing sucks and I hate it but I'm trying not to make another I hate being trans post. Its a constant source of pain and alienation and I don't really have hope that will change.misgendering
Getting misgendered by my friends every time we hang out hurts every time but I don't wnat to ask them to change, I know it'll be super awkward and I don't want to push them away.
I think about how happy so many people were as I was figuring myself out, this must be such a disappointment. :::