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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (12 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

the list as it stands:

Disaster_of_Passion (7/7 - 7/13)
sodium_nitride (7/14 - 7/20)
peanutbuttercupola* (7/21 - 7/27)
BountifulEggnog* (7/28 - 8/3)    
oscardejarjayes* (8/4 - 8/10)
Seryph (8/11 - 8/17)
Shaleesh (8/18 - 8/24)
GayTuckerCarlson* (8/25 - 8/31)
Eco* (9/1 - 9/7)
nemmybun (9/8 - 9/14)

​ * after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 4 points 32 minutes ago

Got a few web friends to use my real pronouns and my new name. It just makes me feel euphoric, but somehow still feels wrong. Maybe some internalized transphobia or just the disphoria (probably because I haven't started any part of the transition yet). But I'm happy anyways for getting some validation.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 1 hour ago

transphobiaImagine deadnaming someone in your birthday message to her

I wish I could thanos snap these people into a pocket dimension so I don't have do deal with them. Fucking hell

Up with trans. Down with cis

In other news I got invited to a thing on Friday that I'm suuuuuper excited about. I'm going to get to flex my gay muscles

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 5 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

wtf... someone keeps peeing in my bed while i'm sleeping. what the fuck

[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 6 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

Is there a way to buy estrogen online (in the US) that doesn't involve having to use crypto?

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

prescription, or get a friend to buy it with crypto, and reimburse them with cash

but seriously, dragon ordnance (ships from china) accepts bank transfers from a service called wise, I've never used it so I don't know if it's a good option but if you really don't want to go through crypto, look into that

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 3 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

My partner had used wise to buy reproduction goods from China. Worked and got the stuff but our bank kept trying to block it early on.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 10 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (2 children)

Coworker gave me a hair tie and another put my hair up for me kitty-cri

Low key have shed a few tears about it... just really nice of them to help me and feels kind of like something women would usually do for other women. Not out to them or anything but still you know.. needed something nice to happen to me today too.

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 6 points 3 hours ago

this is sweet i have memories like this

I keep some hairties on me all the time (on my keys, in my wallet), gettining to help out someone, is a good feeling in return. I think i gave one to some random retail staff who were getting chewed out by a manager in front of me once

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 6 points 3 hours ago

that's really nice!

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 4 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Is Better Call Saul and Breaking Bad trans culture?

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 5 points 3 hours ago

maybe... tbh breaking bad is one of the few TV shows I've watched in its entirety, 3 times actually

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 3 points 3 hours ago

hot? yeah i guess it was a little toasty overnight now i've had to crack out my second blanket, its the middle of winter! This is southern hemisphere erasure!

im doing okay, someone in the vague 'activist scene' in my city is kinda making my life hell atm, theyre not well, but neither am i. So i'm fading out of existence. For how much people all talk about 'community', i'm yet to have many people check in with me.

Theyre going to be living in a worldwithoutlawyers.jpg now i'm gone. no one else is going to tell them to reexamine their preconceptions, theres going to be unexamined racist shit going down, i tell you what.

i kept being told 'well remember what you were like when you were young!', and i kept thinking, yeah damn, they should all be doing drugs instead of crowing themselves godking of the 'movement'.

this has all really destroyed my confidence i'm actually too anxious to even check replies here atm, for a while i couldnt even comment because i felt like everyone was so mad at me lol.

The 'scene' is good for them, but has been a disaster for my mental health. so i'm dropping everything so i can rekindle my energy and re engage myself with my union organising.

i dunno this feels like too much, maybe im too much. I'm getting echoes of an ex telling me 'i'm not availible to do emotional labour for you'. haha hehe hoho yes

if people are treating you like shit, you should leave, its not easy, but its for the best

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 6 points 4 hours ago

W I D E H A M S

I've been passing at work and wirh all my patients, weird feeling. Besides a little voice work all I did was move to a city.

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 4 points 3 hours ago

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! That is all.

Addendum:

screm-aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

O Jamesy let me up out of this pooh

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Male tomboy with a little bit of E busts it down agender style, are they goated with the sauce?

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 6 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

I tried the new blue monster after reading @Shaleesh@hexbear.net's comment and it is really good. Adding that to my rotation haha

+1 on that rec

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 1 points 21 minutes ago

I found a peach one the other day and I kinda like it. Ultra peachy or something, not too much sugar and tastes like peach

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 2 points 48 minutes ago

Will have to add this to my stash of pink and white ones. For cis reasons.

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

dysphoriaMy dysphoria is so bad. It might be the worst dysphoria I've ever had. I want FFS so bad. Maybe I should do FFS first instead of an orchiectomy. But the waiting lists are so long and I'm not hopeful it will happen soon.

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 3 points 2 hours ago

things that help me with dysphoriaThis felts really corny when i first tired it but doing some positive afformations in the mirror really helped me with this, little notes that say something like 'this is what a woman looks like', 'you are beautiful' etc, I've got an old crimethink 'beauty must be what we define it as, or else it is our enemy' poster too

i generally just avoid looking in the mirror tho tbh

i dont know how long youve been out to yourself for, but with time things like ffs and srs have become a lot less important to me, but it was a lot of mental work

once when i told my grandmother how depressed i was feeling she told me, whenever she's feeling really down she hops in the shower, puts on some nice clothes and does her make up (oddly affirming because she doesnt really get im trans), but self care really helps

also helpful to remember the way you see yourself is not how other people see you

be kind to yourself

spoilerI've thought that if where I lived offered FFS or SRS and they only cover one, I might have picked FFS to be honest.

As it is, SRS is covered so that's what Im getting. Im trying to save for FFS but its like... with that much money in the back I could also buy a house geez.

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 7 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (2 children)

Just get over your rejection sensitivity you dumb stupid bitch

Edit: Just.. press! the happy override button that all humans have! Get the fuck over it!

Edit 2: Why you having problems tho? Don't tell us! Don't worry, just calm down, right?

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 2 points 2 hours ago

I'm sorry your struggling, but I think itd be good to spoiler such negative slurfilled self talk in future <3

Oh, dear, youre so precious. I know how much you've struggled. It isnt as easy as a button, which on the one hand means you shouldn't be upset with yourself that it takes longer and more hard work - but on the other hand, that it will take a lot of hard work.

I do hope you can find your proverbial tribe, friends or partner(s) who have your back and can build you up. You do really deserve it.

[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 18 points 12 hours ago

Hey loves πŸ’œ

I wanted to give a little update, we made it through the hospital thanks to you all, but now my sisters and I are really struggling to find a safe place to stay. Right now we’re stuck somewhere temporary that’s not safe at all, and it’s scary not knowing what could happen next.

UNHCR told us to stay in Juba while they keep working on resettlement, but there’s no safe place here, and we can’t go back to Gorom camp because the host community doesn’t want us anymore. We’re trying to raise around $700–850 so we can get a small apartment for the four of us, with money for transport, rent, bedding, food, and the meds my sisters still need.

We’ve only raised $66 so far, so we still have a long way to go. If you can help us by donating, sharing, or even giving advice on safe places, it would mean everything to us right now. My mutual aid link is in my profile. Thank you so much for being here for us. Love you all so much. πŸ’™πŸ™πŸΏ

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 7 points 10 hours ago

Today I gave the birds some fresh corn. The pigeons were skeptical and afraid. The sparrows loved the corn, taking single kernels and flying off with them.

[–] other_platypus@hexbear.net 10 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

watching my gf play persona 5 for the first time and I'm just wondering if I could become the kind of person who drinks coffee in the evening, it sounds nice

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

you will never be a coffee at night

[–] other_platypus@hexbear.net 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)
[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

ok then drink a damn coffee ub

[–] other_platypus@hexbear.net 3 points 2 hours ago (1 children)
[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 2 points 2 hours ago

don't limit yourself

[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 9 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

I can drink coffee in the evening and go right to sleep, or stay up until 3am. Never sure which one it will be.

[–] other_platypus@hexbear.net 6 points 7 hours ago

yeah that's my fear that it'll be unpredictable

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 9 points 10 hours ago

Coffee that puts you to sleep is one of those signs of adhd

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