everything sucks and we are tired 
that is all
this post was submitted on 30 Jun 2025
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We had two guys from warring gangs sat next to each other lol, I had to convince them the hospital is a truce zone and to leave the fights and taunts for when theyre patched up
did you ever paint your nails? i like painted nails but I'm also extremely lazy and low rizz so am low key vicariousin thru ya
@mendiCAN@hexbear.net I've negative rizz but also yes I did
@bolshevikLovelace@hexbear.net also forgot to show off last week was busy with my epa thing (got my universal). I originally picked this because it said gel like shine and it was black with sparkles but the sparkle ain't there it's just black which looks cool but I was promised sparkles 
ooh the shiny is nice though!
I'm a sparkle fan too here's my last:
i like to do a solid base layer and then some shimmery stuff on it
Pretty also this is they way, no longer will I be tempted by the ease of supposive sparkles in base paint, "all that glitter's isn't gold" 
I think my fave sparkle was the gold color one I had but I'm running low on that one and the dollar store doesn't have that one no more. I do have a similar one you got there but I need to pair it with a good color for it to pop
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I went on a date with a reaaaaalllyyyy cute guy last night. We talked for like 3 hours and he kissed me goodbye. So forearms were like double the size of mine I was in a puddle at the end, this is my first time that Iโve had a guy make me feel this way and Iโm like what the hell, how have I missed this my whole life ๐ญ
I feel like Iโve always been attracted to men in kinda a different way, like they were my friend and we were the same, while women were like this other species, but i really like it flipped around lol. ๐
on a serious note: holy shit that sounds incredible and i can't even pretend to hide my jealousy. I'd die on the spot as a happy woman if that were me
i really want to try dating men but i keep getting terrified that they won't see me as a woman. I see myself as a woman but I'm never confidence that anyone else will. I'd sell my soul for a man to let me be the girl on a date though ๐ญ
ChatGPT, give me a girl name!
I looked through the most common dog names list and me and all of my transfemme friends had names in the top 100 for girl dogs lol
So, pick one of those ones apparently
What kinda name you want? Cool, cute, goth?
can you think of something that's primarily unisex but also vaguely goth
not necessarily unisex, but vaguely goth: russian/greek, so here you go
nikita, vika, sasha/alex, arianne, jules/julia, serafima, olya/olivia, anastasia/nastya, sabine, nerine.
also talia and nisrine, but those are neither greek nor russian
Hmm, maybe Ash? I can't think of anything else that fits
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Jeanis
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This whole thing sucks and I hate it but I'm trying not to make another I hate being trans post. Its a constant source of pain and alienation and I don't really have hope that will change.misgendering
Getting misgendered by my friends every time we hang out hurts every time but I don't wnat to ask them to change, I know it'll be super awkward and I don't want to push them away.
I think about how happy so many people were as I was figuring myself out, this must be such a disappointment. :::
Shout-out to the people who encouraged me when I posted in the trans megathread when my egg was cracking like 7-8 months ago. 6 months on hrt now and Im so much happier :D
oh hey look it's where i was like 8-9 months ago. the E is great, isn't it?
Also I remember you saying to me before that my post could have been from you 7 months earlier,since you are clearly my future self you should tell me what I have in store the next 7 months, and maybe the winning lottery numbers
uhhhhhh... this is the bit of your life when you realize that although transitioning was an immense step in self improvement, there's still a lot wrong with you internally and you still have a lot to work on. You get angry and frustrated by this until you start "talking with" ancient gods in a rhetorical sense until it stops getting rhetorical and starts getting literal. you'll then have a moment with what feels like talking to someone/thing supernatural and dive head first into some obscure quasi religious practice
you'll also come out at work, which you'll be going into expecting one hell of a fight but being pleasantly surprised with how relatively easy it was. customers will still misgender you regularly for an unfortunately long time, despite your best efforts
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guy who thinks juice wrld is lucky for dying right before the world went insane in 2020
(it's me)
Deepseek, tell me I'm pretty.
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Yesterday
Yesterday was upsetting. I'm done spending 2+ hours typing comments. It's literally not good for my psyche to spend this much time focusing on this site, this problem. It's amounting to its own internal issue for me.
Right now this site is acting like a Demon Pit for my Gender Thoughts that spits them back out as terrible monsters meant to horrify me.
I thought talking would make it better. It has not. I thought I could make friends by being genuine. I have not. I'm surprised that you all are so comfortable with someone getting worked up this often, if I'm being honest.
There's probably some other thread where you all exchange Cool Trans Secrets anyway. It is what it is. I'm not worthy.
As someone early in their transition, I am filled to the brim with questions and concerns and thoughts about gender and sexuality. I don't know if this is normal. I've been single for years, no sex life to speak of. I'm a blank slate, I am so eager to learn.
But you all make me feel like I should keep these things to myself. There's no discussion to be had, I guess. I should just read old Reddit threads where someone else describes what I'm talking about.
I'm putting a few ventilations in one comment. I literally have to limit my screen time or else I'll post all day until I get a response. This isn't how I wanted to be. People can stop this by helping.
gender envy
It's frustrating dealing with gender envy with one of my friends' girlfriend. Her fashion, the stuff she posts is very much my vibe.
So it's weird because she graduated, I don't see her anymore, but the connections are mutual enough that I'm just aware of this person and have no idea how to have friendship, or even a conversation with her.
I think I'd faint if she talked to me. I know that's pathetic. I feel this way about a percentage of the women I go to school with. It's envy, attraction, then shame, then I am invisible. Like a woman would laugh me out of the room for thinking I could ever look like her, be like her.
It's hard. I shut down because I'm like, "well she sees me as a guy, and she has a boyfriend, so she probably isn't going to want to talk to me because she sees me as a guy so she assumes I'm a horndog because straight men only reallybefriend women for sex and I'm not a man so I don't know how to befriend women"
I think we could've been friends. Unless she's still in town it's probably too late.
couples
I just want for a woman or someone to teach me how to be more feminine. I'd be so willing to learn. I'm like a blank slate. I can barely function as a guy. I don't know if anyone has ever been as ready as I am.
I'm also jealous of literally every couple I see. Any time I see two women especially I'm like "WHAT DO THEY KNOW THAT I DO NOT" and I think this comes from the fact that I think people who are able to have friends and keep people around do know something that I don't.
Like you, reading this, if you have someone you just casually text and don't ever really wonder about the consistency of the back and forth, congrats, I'm jealous of your ability to keep people around. You are a social Adonis as far as I'm concerned.
If I'm out and I see two people, my mind is immediatelywondering how they know each other, how long they've been together, how much fun it must be to be together.
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The problem I've had with you with respect to engagement is that you've deleted your comments a handful of times after I thought I had been respectful and thoughtful. I dont even know if what I did hurt! Sometimes you get the engagement you seem to want, and then delete the comment which to me suggests you were in pain or embarrassed or didnt like the replies. You also seen to be crying out in tremendous pain for a social life but hexbear just isnt that - this is like the social equivalent of trying to survive off bread and water - great if youre starving, but no replacement for a full meal. You also have to deal with what I assume is quite intense social anxiety, which in your case seems so crippling you cant actually speak to strangers and if one spoke to you - you wouldn't know how to respond. There is no short cut for dealing with that level of social anxiety, Im sorry. You also at some point have to deal with how you shut down for being perceived as a dude, you will almost certainly feel better being open and out as enby or vaguely trans instead of this creeping horror you get in the back of your mind and thought loops when it comes to how you assume other perceive you.
When you post, Im never sure what you want because you say one thing but act contrary too that. I feel I respond to you, I've seen others, so you do in fact get engagement. Yet this does not seem to fill your proverbial cup - you've posted things like the above quite a few times. The things you need to do to get a handle of your mental health isnt wearing the right clothes or styling your hair just so (although, Im sure it'd help your dysphoria at least a bit). Im happy to share what I know but the huge hole you feel and the despair and the pain needs some actual real life supports and not just us. You have to keep attending trans or LGBT support groups, you have to keep searching for therapy especially if you can get it through your college instead of paying a lot after you graduate. IRL trans support groups can help you figure out how to femme up way better than us - because we dont see you!
I know you feel this is like pushing away (because I can see your history), let me assure you that I would be happy to continue seeing you post and comment and I missed you when you left. You can absolutely keep venting and asking for advice and all of that. This isnt pushing away, this is triage - you need serious irl supports and not just the hexbear trans megathread. That's why I've kept suggesting you get real help.
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One of my nipples grew bigger than the other since starting MTF HRT half a year ago. How long until they become the same size again? The areolas are the same size.
My right got bigger than left but evened out over about a year. They aren't matchy-matchy, but close to the same size.
As someone who has seen a lot of boobs (I helped breast feeding mothers you sicko) some boobs have different nipple sizes and its really not a big deal. As someone who's loved people with boobs, you dont really care about aereola being exactly the same when it comes time to paw at em and lick em and bite (gently)
gently
they are "sisters, not twins", is how this was explained to me.
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Got a few web friends to use my real pronouns and my new name. It just makes me feel euphoric, but somehow still feels wrong. Maybe some internalized transphobia or just the disphoria (probably because I haven't started any part of the transition yet). But I'm happy anyways for getting some validation.
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Am I crazy or is allergy season getting longer every year holy crap I want to call in sick and I'm on antihistamines
You're not it's climate change