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[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 9 points 19 hours ago (5 children)

One of my nipples grew bigger than the other since starting MTF HRT half a year ago. How long until they become the same size again? The areolas are the same size.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 7 points 17 hours ago

That's 100% normal, it might never, but that's being a woman, I guess

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 7 points 18 hours ago

They might never be the same size, unfortunately. Back when I had tits one of my nipples was bigger than the other (areolas were the same size) and the other never grew to match it. Tits are rarely entirely symmetric, so you're probably just going to have to deal with this.

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[–] Octagonprime@hexbear.net 20 points 1 day ago (6 children)

Shout-out to the people who encouraged me when I posted in the trans megathread when my egg was cracking like 7-8 months ago. 6 months on hrt now and Im so much happier :D

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

How could you get on HRT so quickly?

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 9 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

If she's in the US, there are states where you can just go to planned parenthood, say you're feeling gender dysphoria and want hormones, and they'll prescribe them for you.*

*May no longer be true with the damage the Trump admin is doing to trans healthcare.

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 17 hours ago

Here in the Netherlands you have to wait on year long waiting lists or start doing DIY HRT.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 5 points 17 hours ago (4 children)

Damn, wtf? I have to get 1 (one) whole year with a fucking endocrinologist to get a prescription

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[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 5 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

should i drive over to saudi arabia and see if i can meet any trans ppl there

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 9 points 23 hours ago (3 children)

I had two drinks over the course of several hours, how am i somehow drunkish? Like, im not drunk drunk, but im more than tipsy??? Granted, i havent had alcohol in weeks, but still two drinks (not even super heavy pours either, like an extra 20% cause the bartender likes meeee) shouldnt hit me like this???? New calibration point for alcohol ig?

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 8 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

If you started hrt semi-recently, it's probably that. I know when I started T my alcohol tolerance increased quite noticeably, so assuming the timing makes sense, you're probably experiencing the inverse of that

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 11 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Two drinks is usually what does it for me

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 12 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

two thimbles of water cider

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 9 points 18 hours ago
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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Got a few web friends to use my real pronouns and my new name. It just makes me feel euphoric, but somehow still feels wrong. Maybe some internalized transphobia or just the disphoria (probably because I haven't started any part of the transition yet). But I'm happy anyways for getting some validation.

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago

I have absolutely been there. In my experience is does get better the more you experience it

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Is it possible to do HRT badly enough that it permanently messes up your transition or is it a kind of thing where it would just mean it takes more time?

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago

just takes more time

unless u seriously mess up for like years n get osteoperosis

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 14 points 1 day ago

transphobiaImagine deadnaming someone in your birthday message to her

I wish I could thanos snap these people into a pocket dimension so I don't have do deal with them. Fucking hell

Up with trans. Down with cis

In other news I got invited to a thing on Friday that I'm suuuuuper excited about. I'm going to get to flex my gay muscles

[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

wtf... someone keeps peeing in my bed while i'm sleeping. what the fuck

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago

W I D E H A M S

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Is Better Call Saul and Breaking Bad trans culture?

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago

maybe... tbh breaking bad is one of the few TV shows I've watched in its entirety, 3 times actually

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Coworker gave me a hair tie and another put my hair up for me kitty-cri

Low key have shed a few tears about it... just really nice of them to help me and feels kind of like something women would usually do for other women. Not out to them or anything but still you know.. needed something nice to happen to me today too.

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago

this is sweet i have memories like this

I keep some hairties on me all the time (on my keys, in my wallet), gettining to help out someone, is a good feeling in return. I think i gave one to some random retail staff who were getting chewed out by a manager in front of me once

[–] MoonElf@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago

that's really nice!

[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Is there a way to buy estrogen online (in the US) that doesn't involve having to use crypto?

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

prescription, or get a friend to buy it with crypto, and reimburse them with cash

but seriously, dragon ordnance (ships from china) accepts bank transfers from a service called wise, I've never used it so I don't know if it's a good option but if you really don't want to go through crypto, look into that

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

My partner had used wise to buy reproduction goods from China. Worked and got the stuff but our bank kept trying to block it early on.

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I've been passing at work and wirh all my patients, weird feeling. Besides a little voice work all I did was move to a city.

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago

hot? yeah i guess it was a little toasty overnight now i've had to crack out my second blanket, its the middle of winter! This is southern hemisphere erasure!

im doing okay, someone in the vague 'activist scene' in my city is kinda making my life hell atm, theyre not well, but neither am i. So i'm fading out of existence. For how much people all talk about 'community', i'm yet to have many people check in with me.

Theyre going to be living in a worldwithoutlawyers.jpg now i'm gone. no one else is going to tell them to reexamine their preconceptions, theres going to be unexamined racist shit going down, i tell you what.

i kept being told 'well remember what you were like when you were young!', and i kept thinking, yeah damn, they should all be doing drugs instead of crowing themselves godking of the 'movement'.

this has all really destroyed my confidence i'm actually too anxious to even check replies here atm, for a while i couldnt even comment because i felt like everyone was so mad at me lol.

The 'scene' is good for them, but has been a disaster for my mental health. so i'm dropping everything so i can rekindle my energy and re engage myself with my union organising.

i dunno this feels like too much, maybe im too much. I'm getting echoes of an ex telling me 'i'm not availible to do emotional labour for you'. haha hehe hoho yes

if people are treating you like shit, you should leave, its not easy, but its for the best

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Male tomboy with a little bit of E busts it down agender style, are they goated with the sauce?

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!! That is all.

Addendum:

screm-aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 21 points 1 day ago

Hey loves πŸ’œ

I wanted to give a little update, we made it through the hospital thanks to you all, but now my sisters and I are really struggling to find a safe place to stay. Right now we’re stuck somewhere temporary that’s not safe at all, and it’s scary not knowing what could happen next.

UNHCR told us to stay in Juba while they keep working on resettlement, but there’s no safe place here, and we can’t go back to Gorom camp because the host community doesn’t want us anymore. We’re trying to raise around $700–850 so we can get a small apartment for the four of us, with money for transport, rent, bedding, food, and the meds my sisters still need.

We’ve only raised $66 so far, so we still have a long way to go. If you can help us by donating, sharing, or even giving advice on safe places, it would mean everything to us right now. My mutual aid link is in my profile. Thank you so much for being here for us. Love you all so much. πŸ’™πŸ™πŸΏ

[–] KrupskayaPraxis@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

dysphoriaMy dysphoria is so bad. It might be the worst dysphoria I've ever had. I want FFS so bad. Maybe I should do FFS first instead of an orchiectomy. But the waiting lists are so long and I'm not hopeful it will happen soon.

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago

things that help me with dysphoriaThis felts really corny when i first tired it but doing some positive afformations in the mirror really helped me with this, little notes that say something like 'this is what a woman looks like', 'you are beautiful' etc, I've got an old crimethink 'beauty must be what we define it as, or else it is our enemy' poster too

i generally just avoid looking in the mirror tho tbh

i dont know how long youve been out to yourself for, but with time things like ffs and srs have become a lot less important to me, but it was a lot of mental work

once when i told my grandmother how depressed i was feeling she told me, whenever she's feeling really down she hops in the shower, puts on some nice clothes and does her make up (oddly affirming because she doesnt really get im trans), but self care really helps

also helpful to remember the way you see yourself is not how other people see you

be kind to yourself

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