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some straight guy i was friends with was obsessed with me. he only cared if i liked men and had a bf for some reason, and would ignore that i liked women. he would act like i was straight and that if i dated women, that just meant i was single and obviously interested in him.

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[–] artificialfish@programming.dev 1 points 2 hours ago

I mean to me, if I’m trying to get with you, or while I’m with you, all I care about is if you like me or not.

I think a lot of guys think that it would honestly be perfectly ok for you to go on having gay sex in your straight relationship. They aren’t threatened by another woman because that woman isn’t fulfilling the role they fulfill: sex with a penis. They also probably think you’d be missing out not to have both in your life if you are bi.

Or they are just erasing. But sometimes the same behavior can come from completely different ideas.

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 13 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

It's 2025, yet I automatically assumed Dr. Bollocks was a male. Not because of the doctor honorific, mind you, but because of the testicles.

I will try to be more enlightened moving forward.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 hours ago

the character it’s based off of is male, it’s based on someone mishearing a name

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 15 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Bi erasure comes in all flavours. Gay guys around me also often don't believe guys can be really bi, just gay in denial, or closeted gays living a straight life. The B in LGBT+ might as well be the bigotry in the community for how prevalent it is.

[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 8 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Ironic because bi is the largest queer demographic but also the one that can blend in the easiest which hasn’t forced people to advocate for acceptance.

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

And is also a spectrum. Most people would probably be bi, if social pressure didn't exist. It's honestly weird to think that anyone would be 100.00% gay or straight.

[–] KSPAtlas@sopuli.xyz 6 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

If you think about it enough you realize that the labels aren't perfect and sexuality isn't split into neat labellable categories

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 9 hours ago

And on top of that, it's malleable, changeable.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 7 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

You make it sound like this is your first experience with human beings.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 9 hours ago

nah, just upset me a lil

[–] earphone843@sh.itjust.works 13 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

That's just narcissism. Can't comprehend someone not being into them.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)
[–] earphone843@sh.itjust.works 7 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

The funny thing is I bet he's also the kind of guy to call a straight woman a lesbian if she rejects him too.

But regardless, anyone who does what he's doing to you isn't a friend; they're a predator.

[–] yesman@lemmy.world 7 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Tell him he should smile more.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 11 hours ago (2 children)

he also told me “i love what females smell like, especially during sex. i bet you smell nice” or something like that :,)

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 13 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

That whole comment is creepy as fuck, but using the word "females" especially sets off my ickometer.

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 10 hours ago

oh yeah same!!

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

You should put as much distance from this fella as possible...

[–] drbollocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 hours ago

he’s blocked haha!

[–] JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 6 points 11 hours ago

Sounds like a combination of homophobia/gay erasure and misogyny (I know what women want, not them) to me

[–] xc2215x@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

Homophobic.

[–] Flagstaff@programming.dev 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

some straight guy

Based on everything else you said, I'm unsure about this.