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Thank you for enjoying the Frida Kahlo mega

“I am not sick. I am broken. But I am happy to be alive as long as I can paint.”

Biography of Frida Kahlo

Considered one of Mexico's greatest artists, Frida Kahlo was born on July 6, 1907 in Coyocoan, Mexico City, Mexico. She grew up in the family's home where was later referred to as the Blue House or Casa Azul. Her father is a German descendant and photographer. He immigrated to Mexico where he met and married her mother Matilde. Her mother is half Amerindian and half Spanish. Frida Kahlo has two older sisters and one younger sister.

Frida Kahlo has poor health in her childhood. She contracted polio at the age of 6 and had to be bedridden for nine months. This disease caused her right leg and foot to grow much thinner than her left one. She limped after she recovered from polio. She has been wearing long skirts to cover that for the rest of her life. Her father encouraged her to do lots of sports to help her recover. She played soccer, went swimming, and even did wrestle, which is very unusual at that time for a girl. She has kept a very close relationship with her father for her whole life.

Frida Kahlo attended the renowned National Preparatory School in Mexico City in the year of 1922. There are only thirty-five female students enrolled in that school and she soon became famous for her outspokenness and bravery. At this school she first met the famous Mexican muralist Diego Rivera for the first time. Rivera at that time was working on a mural called The Creation on the school campus. Frida often watched it and she told a friend she will marry him someday.

In the same year, Kahlo joined a gang of students who shared similar political and intellectual views. She fell in love with the leader Alejandro Gomez Arias. On a September afternoon when she traveled with Gomez Arias on a bus the tragic accident happened. The bus collided with a streetcar and Frida Kahlo was seriously injured. A steel handrail impaled her through the hip. Her spine and pelvis are fractured and this accident left her in a great deal of pain, both physically and physiologically.

She was injured so badly and had to stay in the Red Cross Hospital in Mexico City for several weeks. After that, she returned home for further recovery. She had to wear full-body cast for three months. To kill the time and alleviate the pain, she started painting and finished her first self-portrait the following year. Frida Kahlo once said,

I paint myself because I am often alone and I am the subject I know best".

Her parents encouraged her to paint and made a special easel made for her so she could paint in bed. They also gave her brushes and boxes of paints.

Frida Kahlo reconnected with Rivera in 1928. She asked him to evaluate her work and he encouraged her. The two soon started the romantic relationship. Despite her mother's objection, Frida and Diego Rivera got married in the next year. During their earlier years as a married couple, Frida had to move a lot based on Diego's work. In 1930, they lived in San Francisco, California. Then they moved to New York City for Rivera's artwork show at Museum of Modern Art. They later moved to Detroit while Diego Rivera worked for Detroit Institute of Arts.

In 1932, Kahlo added more realistic and surrealistic components in her painting style. In the painting titled Henry Ford Hospital(1932), Frida Kahlo lied on a hospital bed naked and was surrounded with a few things floating around, which includes a fetus, a flower, a pelvis, a snail, all connected by veins. This painting was an expression of her feelings about her second miscarriage. It is as personal as her other self-portraits.

In 1933, Kahlo was living in New York City with her husband Diego Rivera. Rivera was commissioned by Nelson Rockefeller to create a mural named as Man at the Crossroads at Rockefeller Center. Rivera tried to include Vladimir Lenin in the painting, who is a communist leader. Rockefeller stopped his work and that part was painted over. The couple had to move back to Mexico after this incident. They returned and live in San Angel, Mexico.

Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera's marriage is not a usual one. They had been keeping separate homes and studios for all those years. Diego had so many affairs and one of that was with Kahlo's sister Cristina. Frida Kahlo was so sad and she cut off her long hair to show her desperation to the betrayal. She has longed for children but she cannot bear one due to the bus accident. She was heartbroken when she experienced a second miscarriage in 1934. Kahlo and Rivera have been separated a few times but they always went back together. In 1937 they helped Leon Trotsky and his wife Natalia. Leon Trotsky is an exiled communist and rival of Soviet leader Joseph Stalin. Kahlo and Rivera welcomed the couple together and let them stay at her Blue House. Kahlo also had a brief affair with Leon Trotsky when the couple stayed at her house.

In 1938, Frida Kahlo became a friend of André Breton, who is one of the primary figures of the Surrealism movement. Frida said she never considered herself as a Surrealist "until André Breton came to Mexico and told me I was one." She also wrote, "Really I do not know whether my paintings are surrealist or not, but I do know that they are the frankest expression of myself". "Since my subjects have always been my sensations, my states of mind and the profound reactions that life has been producing in me, I have frequently objectified all this in figures of myself, which were the most sincere and real thing that I could do in order to express what I felt inside and outside of myself."

In the same year, she had an exhibition at New York City gallery. She sold some of her paintings and got two commissions. One of that is from Clare Boothe Luce to paint her friend Dorothy Hale who committed suicide. She painted The Suicide of Dorothy Hale (1939), which tells the story of Dorothy's tragic leap. The patron Luce was horrified and almost destroyed this painting.

The next year, 1939, Kahlo was invited by André Breton and went to Paris. Her works are exhibited there and she is befriended with artists such as Marc Chagall, Piet Mondrian, and Pablo Picasso. She and Rivera got divorced that year and she painted one of her most famous paintings, The Two Fridas(1939).

But soon Frida Kahlo and Diego Rivera remarried in 1940. The second marriage is about the same as the first one. They still keep separate lives and houses. Both of them had infidelities with other people during the marriage. Kahlo received a commission from the Mexican government for five portraits of important Mexican women in 1941, but she was unable to finish the project. She lost her beloved father that year and continued to suffer from chronic health problems. Despite her personal challenges, her work continued to grow in popularity and was included in numerous group shows around this time.

In the year of 1944, Frida Kahlo painted one of her most famous portraits, The Broken Column. In this painting, she depicted herself naked and split down the middle. Her spine is shattered like a column. She wears a surgical brace and there are nails all through her body, which is the indication of the consistent pain she went through. In this painting, Frida expressed her physical challenges through her art. During that time, she had a few surgeries and had to wear special corsets to protect her back spine. She seeks lots of medical treatment for her chronic pain but nothing really worked.

Her health condition has been worsening in 1950. That year she was diagnosed with gangrene in her right foot. She became bedridden for the next nine month and had to stay in hospital and had several surgeries. But with great persistence, Frida Kahlo continued to work and paint. In the year of 1953, she had a solo exhibition in Mexican. Although she had limited mobility at that time, she showed up on the exhibition's opening ceremony. She arrived by ambulance, and welcomed the attendees, celebrated the ceremony in a bed the gallery set up for her. A few months later, she had to accept another surgery. Part of her right leg got amputated.

With the poor physical condition, she is also deeply depressed. She even had an inclination for suicide. Frida Kahlo has been out and in hospital during that year. But despite her health issues, she has been active with the political movement. She showed up at the demonstration against US-backed overthrow of President Jacobo Arbenz of Guatemala on July 2. This is her last public appearance. About one week after her 47th birthday, Frida Kahlo passed away at her beloved Bule House.

https://www.fridakahlo.org/frida-kahlo-biography.jsp


The Wounded Deer, 1946


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[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Hey loves,

I just had to come here and share this amazing update with you all, we did it! We got the full amount to cover my sisters’ hospital bills. Thanks to your support, donations, shares, and kind words, they’re safe in the hospital now and getting the care they need.

I can’t even explain how much this means. It was such a scary time, and you all showed up for us in ways I’ll never forget. Your love and solidarity honestly saved lives, and I’m so, so grateful for this community. 🙏🏿

Right now we’re focusing on helping them heal and trying to find somewhere safer to move so we can start to feel okay again without living in fear.

If you still want to support, my mutual aid link is in my profile but today I just wanted to celebrate this big step forward with you and say thank you from the bottom of my heart. 💜

Seriously, thank you, thank you, thank you.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

Last day of pride month :/

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 10 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Thank you to everyone who took the time to appreciate the artwork posted throughout the week

I hope everyone enjoyed

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago

end of June thoughtsSomehow I'm never in town for the queer meetups. If I didn't know any better I'd assume they're scheduling things when I can't go, but it's just a really annoying coincidence every time.

Gonna try again to find an in-person therapist. One place just has an intake form on their website, and it feels sketchy to fill it out and input all my info without like, talking to someone I guess?

I can also go through my university I'm pretty sure. It's annoying because obviously there are resources, but they're just elusive somehow? And there are queer people around but like, I just don't see all that many events that appeal to me?

Other people appear to be meet up with people they already know. I don't know a single other queer person on campus. I don't see an obvious opportunity to meet people.

I also know that I'm fucking weird in that I'd be way more likely to go to more things if I had one person. I need to be made to socialize, frankly.

I'm using Tinder again because I don't know where or how people meet around here. I want a relationship, but I also have zero friends, and I don't know what I want or who I want to be when I'm in a relationship.

might post this in the new mega too idk.

[–] 0x2640@hexbear.net 2 points 1 day ago
[–] semioticbreakdown@hexbear.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

dysphoria & sexualitythe bottom dysphoria has been honestly fuckin crazy lately, wish i had a therapist to talk to about this but I need insurance first. But damn I guess I never realized how badly it affects me because i just shoved it to the back corner of my mind and lived my life in a putrid haze. Sucks!

also i'm bisexual in some capacity because i have been with men post-coming out and enjoyed it but i've gotta be real, i dont think its the same way as women and you could delete being attracted to men from my brain and i wouldnt care nor do I see myself exploring that side of me ever again intentionally. Like i do not cry just from the thought of loving and being loved by a man romantically and i definitely dont spend my time pining for men in the abstract or find myself in near tears when i look at media of straight people having a normal relationship for more than 30 seconds. so idk. ofc none of this matters bc i rarely date and dont plan to do so anytime soon but it's been bothering me because i'm like a lesbian but i feel like i dont get to call myself that!

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

You can call yourself whatever you want and identify with tbh! It's your identity after allcat-trans

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Definitely just going to repost this in the new mega, so congrats everyone here for getting to read this twice

Fucking ridiculous how much I cut myself shaving. New razor, used on my face twice. Cut my legs 3 times. My legs have a bunch of scars from shaving now. I've been doing this for like a year and still can't get it. Genuinely just stupid or something.

dysphoriaLow key knew with how bad I was feeling I shouldn't shave but letting it grow out is so disgusting and vile I genuinely can't.
Genuinely can't even get the easiest shit down that even children can do. Dunno how anyone expects me to be able to do anything actually hard like voice training. Not built for ts. Yes I'm crashing out over cutting myself shaving fight me. It happens all the damn time and I'm tired of it.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 3 points 1 day ago

Take a shower you'll feel better after taking care of yourself

-my lying inner voice. What a fuckin bitch

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Had a guy with a White Pride tattoo in big letters along with a few other nazi tattoos on em. That was a fun test of if I can care for someone I really dont want to

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

He should die

Also why can't they make someone who isn't you take care of him that seems like bs to me.

Also also nazis deserve literally all the pain they can get. If the revolution happens I call dibs on executioner.

Its team nursing (Im not alone), guy had been assaulted pretty bad. He almost did.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 1 day ago

holy shit I'm still so pissed this cannot be good for you

[–] yewler@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I like not being aromantic. It's nice. I think I can officially call myself panromantic

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

is amerikkka in the get tf out stage yet

my ex moving in w me in a couple months to escape it gulp

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I mean if you can I would. I can't so I'm just waiting for the fash to make it unlivable :shrug-outta-hecks: I don't really see a point to sticking around longer then you have to. I don't really see it getting better here. No need to wait for them to start sending us to camps.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

spoilerAngry. Bitter. Dysphoric. Mostly angry in a way I can't quite describe though. Very strong and in a way that makes me want to hurt myself (although the actual anger is directed at others which makes it harder to explain). Staying safe though.

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago

Happy pride, ya’ll leslie-shining rosa-salute

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

4chan/ttttover the last few months i messaged/got messaged by a few trans women off tagmap/boymoder.network in my country, and it really made me not want to get trans woman friends... I know it's like looking in the sea and being surprised to see fish, but legitimately i can't overstate that this is literally a monkeys paw curse situation: i have no idea how else to find them except by using this one website that was made to find them (but they're 4channers).

[–] thoughtful_poster@lemmygrad.ml 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

literally everyone I know I met on 4chan. it's worked out pretty OK. I'm just very upfront with my boundaries, my bestie I found on a random 4chan thread, one of the first things she said to me was abt brown ppl, I said I'm not OK with racism. she was like oh I'm brown or middle eastern or whatever I don't really remember sorry im drunk

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 1 points 1 day ago

i think the religious element in my country makes it harder. like i'd be afraid that at any moment any trans friend i make will suddenly find god, out me, hurt me, and idk what. but I guess that has little to do with 4channers, and more just poorly adjusted people in general (pot, kettle...)

[–] SterlingPooper@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

finally back on self careI'm back in my apartment and getting adjusted to Adderall again! This week was rough, but I know next week will feel better.

I took it easy today and finally got around to shaving and using Nair as well. When I'm smooth I feel much more comfortable wearing tank tops, and I'm trying incorporate more of those and L/XL t-shirts.

All in all had a good week, was volunteering at my old school. Fun stuff!

[–] Zuzak@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

I just went thrifting for the first time in like 2 years. I was unemployed and on a spending freeze for non-essentials, and meanwhile the HRT was doing its thing, so I haven't been able to get new clothes to complement the changes (let alone changes in style). It's honestly incredible to be able to do that again now that I have a new job and an income, I really got some ~~nice stretchy tops that make my titties pop~~ affirmation and confidence out of it.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

Im gonna watch MCR soon~

[–] semioticbreakdown@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

accidentally deleted my memory card data. The real childhood gaming experience

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 8 points 2 days ago

A few Frida paintings

Moses, 1945

Frida in Flames, 1954

Roots, 1943

[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 22 points 3 days ago

Hey loves 💙,

Just wanted to check in since my last post kinda got lost in the megathread. Things are still really rough here in Gorom Camp we’re trying so hard to clear hospital bills and find somewhere safe after our shelters got burned down.

I’m gonna keep replying to folks here with love so people know we’re not just here asking, we care too.

We still need about $825 to cover what’s left for safety, food, and medicine. I’ve updated my profile with a bit about what’s happening + my mutual aid link if anyone wants to help or share.

Honestly, every kind word or share right now keeps us going. Thank you so much for seeing us.

My mutual aid link is in my profile if you’re able to support or boost.

Sending so much love and strength to everyone trying to survive another week. Solidarity always.

[–] CrookedSerpent@hexbear.net 15 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I just got "sir-ed" at work and that has literally never happened before in the 4 years of working customer service while being out. Now I'm paranoid that I actually don't pass and everyone is just being nice to me lol. I know cis women occasionally get misgendered and he was probably just stupid, but damn happy pride ig XD

[–] Dort_Owl@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)
[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

meow-hug four years is a long time for people to consistently just be nice imo. probably not the most comfort after it happened, but it really does sound like someone's brain malfunctioning

[–] WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Once in four years just sounds like someone made a mistake. Like, sometimes I mix up up terms randomly for cis people whom I've known for a while.

And about 50% of the time I use the wrong name to refer to someone (if your name doesn't start with a J, you have a chance of me using multiple wrong names first! No exceptions for anyone).

[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Who else crashing out but still vibing?

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I am actually just really afraid of being vulnerable (I know how cliche it sounds).

I don't know how many years of introspection it took, but yeah, I'll admit it. If I strip away all the excuses and blaming other people, and focus solely on my own behaviour, then that's the conclusion I come to.

Are other people at fault for the problems in my life? A little bit. But that just doesn't matter. Do I not have the kind of relationship with my parents where I feel I can be open to them? I don't. And yet, I still just have to admit that I have a loser mentality. My current strategy is to just delay, delay and delay, cause I don't want to come out to my parents. This just won't cut it.

At some point I need to bite the bullet and accept that some people will be in the position of hurting me, and some will definitely hurt me. There is a limit to the distance I can maintain with my parents, unless I am willing to cut ties and basically be stranded in a foreign country.

Same. Was why I waited so long to say anything to my parents and why I still haven't said anything to my best friend (despite him trying to start the conversation repeatedly!). Although I think in both cases, I also just felt/feel bad for waiting so long to say something. Like, its particularly stupid with my friend, since he obviously knows at this point.

Best of luck with your next visit with them.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 5 points 3 days ago

I have to go through my teenage years again doggirl-gloom.

I thought I was done with that shit.

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 14 points 3 days ago (2 children)

It's bad. The doctor diagnosed me with cringe.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

hit me up if you ever need advice living with this condition, I've got experience with it

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[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

my pronouns are she, but not her because i am not a filthy capitalist who possesses things

[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

Haha I love this, sis! You’re iconic 😂

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