chapotraphouse

oh good i wasn't the only one incredibly concerned

maybe it's bc i've been on the receiving end of an unrequited crush from someone i barely knew but man that shit just reads as scary to me

"Socialist"

Incapable of healthy socializing

Back in the early days of this site the general megathread contained some of the most off-putting terminally online shit I have ever seen in my life. Fuckin weird ass cuddle threads and all kinds of baby speak. This place has grown for the better but I dont know that we'll ever be able to fully break away from our creepy ass roots. Sometimes that mega can still hit ya with some full force shit that just makes you close the tab and walk away.

DONT SHIT WHERE YOU EAT.

To elaborate for those who are going to "but ackshwally," yes there's some nuance.

If you're in a very large org with different departments, that's different as long as there's not power dynamics. So if you're sales and they're part of quality assurance, ok, fine. Be normal ask them out and move on. Don't carry a torch, that's the one way to really make what could otherwise be a very normal interaction weird.

Don't date your boss, don't date your subordinate, don't date your peers in your part of the office. If you absolutely have to, then BE NORMAL and just ask them out to get over it quickly and remember that the longer and weirder you make it the more likely you could lose your job in a worst case.

You're not Jim and Pam in some slow burn romance. Crushes are for people under the age of 18 (in which case, all the not having sex with coworkers goes out the window if it's not a real job. The amount of kids who hooked up at the pizza place I worked at... It was high).

To spell it out: you're going to have to maintain a professional relationship with this person if they're not interested OR if you break up. Is it worth it? There are probably many people out there you're compatible with. Work crushes are inappropriate, especially since they can't just leave (like, say, some person you hit on in a bar or something). They aren't there for romance either, they're there to work.

P.S. I speak from the fact that I'm at least somewhat socially awkward and the very thought of having to see someone who rejected me or dumped me daily was so crushing I fully embraced don't shit where you eat mindset. There have been a few coworkers I found attractive, but I never carried a torch or crushed on them since I would never be able to act on it.

sad and creepy hexbear posters rise up

vagueposting is cowardice and leads to a more toxic atmosphere on the site than just confronting ppl directly

i do agree with your overall point tho

Ok what thread are we vagueposting about

True but also Yoshikage Kira OF ALL PEOPLE would not fucking tell someone that

What about those of us that have unrequited feelings but don't post about it, huh

I once posted about my coworkers unrequited feelings for Beans from Rango. I apologize.

Oh no those socially stunted weirdos get weird about social stuff in our completely asocial society why can't they just be normal like me

Why does something happen every time I'm not on Hexbear all day?

Glad I missed whatever this is about

I haven't posted at all!

I actually haven't, but I did feel particularly attacked by this for... reasons.

Stop dating your coworkers and log into muggy

I thought this was a pride flag until I expanded the image.

Ok completely unrelated to the actual post, but the colour palette of this screenshot is the enby flag and that's neat.

i need a dang hair cut