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If I delete a comment it is because it was an attempt to share something and it didn't go well. if I've said something revealing and the megathread marinates and nobody replies, it makes no difference if the comment is there or not, and depending on what I've said, I may not be comfortable leaving it out there unanswered. To me, successful engagement leads to conversations that are ongoing and come from a place of mutual understanding. I just wanted someone to talk about gender and life with so it didn't hurt so bad, I don't see how that's intense or unclear or inconsistent.
have you tried the matrix chats? they might be more your speed if replies are what you're looking fer. the vast majority of my comments here don't get replied to.
i wouldn't say deleting your comments is intense but it's def different than what I'm used to people doing on these boards. not to say it's wrong or anything but i often respond to people days after they post and if you're deleting em, well, i can't
at this point who cares. i'll stop deleting comments but it's also just like, a comment from 2 days ago doesn't necessarily reflect how i feel today. i feel a lot of guilt when i blow up and ruin the megathread. so i delete the comment. if i post with the intent to converse and it doesn't happen, i feel rejected. you want to read two days from now about how i wanted to cast a spell on this website, or something arguably nsfw? some of my comments are me slurring at myself, which is why i delete them. i could leave them up as reminders of my failures, though
the matrix chats moved too fast for me the last time i tried. and i joined with a different username because i hate this username so people pressured me to change it which i felt weird about. my impression was that they were all mostly on the same page in terms of what to talk about, and i didn't really know how to get my footing or what to say.
i wish i weren't reacting to observations i've already made when trying to socialize. i've listed specific concerns and people still are like "what a tough egg to crack, this guy's good, he's so good, i have no idea what he wants in this situation"