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[–] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (12 children)

hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!

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[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 3 points 44 minutes ago

butching the fuck out tn. my solovair leather boots arrived, drank some beers and put together an ikea shelving unit for my gfs with my drill. affirming as shit

[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 3 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (3 children)

I had to find a new roommate this spring because my old one moved in with his gf. I thought it would be cool to live with another trans women. It was going to be a good friend, but then she backed out last minute and I went with a stranger. It went well for a while tho, we were friends and would do stuff together, and she was clean and stuff.

But recently, she began trying to touch me. Like sayiyshe was anxious and wanted a hug, leaving me no space when we were on the couch, weirdly putting her head on me. Then she straight up asked me out on a date.

Now besides the obvious issues with dating a roommate, I am not even slightly attracted to her. I don't think we have that sort of connection at all, whatsoever. I guess normally that would be fine, like if someone asks me out but im not interested, I just politely decline. But for some reason, this whole thing has really bothered me.

Part of it is because she's my roommate, so it's awkward. But idk I've also spent a bunch of time helping her with stuff, like getting her on a better HRT regimen, or recommending a place to get her hair cut, or shopping together. I felt happy to do those things because I love helping out other trans women. But idk, now I just feel used I guess. I find myself feeling really annoyed when I see her, and I barely want to talk. I have no idea how to make things right, cause the last four days it has been very awkward.

I wish it was easier to make trans friends in general without there having to be gay drama involved. A good platonic friend seems to me to be worth so much more than another confusing situationship. It's often so hypersexual when I meet other trans girls. Like I wanna hang out and do normal woman stuff, and instead I get invited to the Discord with the NSFW channel, and I'm forced to learn everyone's kinks, and if they hang out it's to try and get in my pants.

It makes me want to only befriend straight girls, but the worst part is that im not even straight. Maybe I just hate myself? Idk I would still never ask out my roommate.

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 2 points 47 minutes ago

pushing the boundaries like that with a roommate is not something i would consider acceptable. sorry you had to go through that. it would be one thing to just confess her attraction in an honest and direct way but the touching is very icky. solidarity comrade, i hope you can push through this and get back to normalcy, although it's unfair that that responsibility is even on you at all. if you were made to feel uncomfortable you def need to communicate that even tho ik it might be mad awkward. wishing you the best with navigating this πŸ’œ

[–] onandrah1@hexbear.net 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Hey love , I’m so sorry you’re going through this ... that sounds so uncomfortable and frustrating. You deserve friendships that feel safe and supportive, without all that pressure. Please don’t blame yourself; you’re not wrong for wanting platonic connection. Sending you love and strength πŸ’™

[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 53 minutes ago

Thank you, that was a really nice thing to say. I honestly do have some really wonderful friendships with other trans women that mean so much to me, idk I'm not even sure why this thing in particular has made me so upset.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 2 points 1 hour ago (2 children)

Being LGBT is so confusing because we dont have any of the nice relationship stuff handed down to us anymore, its all in the air. One would think being polite and some common sense might preclude one from asking out a roommate - but roommates to lovers is a thing that sometimes happens. Its all in the air, especially a freshly cracked trans girl just starting out. I bet there's some crossed wires with specifically your roommate between platonic love and romantic love and the love we show the trans sisterhood in general, and hopefully she'll get a handle on it as hormones settle (dont discount the horniness of second puberty and the power of a crush towards someone who is nice and frankly life saving to them, I get it as a nurse too)

We so often had to repress and feel ashamed about gender feelings along with however much dealing with romantic feelings as an egg was. Its easy when its been repressed for a couple decades at least for it to come out way strong.

You didnt do anything wrong, she shot her shot and hopefully didnt let the hinting phase get too awkward. Embarassing lesson, but ideally the both of you can come back from this and settle in to just roommates. If not, you or her might have to figure out alternate housing arrangements (especially if she cant let it go). Im surprised you feel used - I think you should interrogate that and think about it, you've extended help with gender stuff like HRT and fashion, youre roommates, and you seem to have done that on your own. Why feel used when she asked you out? Im sure she would've needed the help if she was straight and not interested in you. I can appreciate you feeling used when she touched you, hopefully you shut that down then or will going forwards with others - and hopefully she learns to start asking for consent, although I know it feels weird and unusual

[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 3 points 56 minutes ago (1 children)

Imagine if my roommate was a man and you wrote that....

[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

dont discount the horniness of second puberty

What a gross thing to say. She's been on E for 3 years and is older than me btw.

I think you should interrogate that and think about it

I think you should interrogate why you think that was ok to say, weirdo

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 1 points 35 minutes ago (1 children)

Whoa clearly I had misread what you'd said, cause I thought this was a situation where you were like the trans sister helping someone out who'd just come out like just before moving in with you

I appreciate you feel used but I really don't get the hostility? I was honestly confused, I thought you felt used because you'd helped someone and then they asked you out - Im not aware of anything beyond what you posted, so if she was way creepier than what you wrote or did way more boundary pushing, I wasn't there physically. Clearly this was way more intense than what I had read.

[–] frankfurt_schoolgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 21 minutes ago

Im sorry I was hostile, but like the situation is that I'm living with someone older than me, who I don't know well, and who feels like it's ok to weirdly try to touch me and get close to me.

OMG you're so hot. I love it when you are that confidant, I love the way you love yourself, I love how optimistic you are even when things seem bleak

Everyone knows there's sexy stereotype of ladies wearing glasses, but its definitely cross gender cause some of these dudes look fine with glasses

[–] Mari@hexbear.net 0 points 1 hour ago

I miss having friends

[–] kristina@hexbear.net 8 points 5 hours ago

When the gay hits

[–] Mari@hexbear.net 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

I finally had rice on a Friday!

I also ate rice on Wednesday and Thursday and i will eat rice on Saturday too because i made it too spicy.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 5 points 4 hours ago

I eat rice almost everyday. Rice is really good

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 10 points 6 hours ago (1 children)
[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 6 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

What species? I love cactus

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 4 points 5 hours ago

there were a few packs in here, can't tell any apart yet. there was astrophytum (asterias, myriostigma, coahuilense), a mix of lithops, a mix of lampranthus. they're all in the tray, and i can't really tell them apart yet other than one i'm pretty confident is a lithops. i also have some spiral aloe seeds that i'm germinating in water

[–] Eco@hexbear.net 10 points 6 hours ago

friday? rice? friday. rice.

[–] SamotsvetyVIA@hexbear.net 4 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

im trying to translate a manhua but the scenes im more passionate about turn out not-very-accurate to the chinese wording, cuz i just translate it the way i imagine the interaction in my head, which i feel a bit bad about

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 10 points 7 hours ago

I used extra chili sauce in today’s Friday Rice doggirl-smug

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 6 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Ever since I started my training been noticing hvac things more often, playing yakuza and I see a mini split unit in the Earth Angel bar niko-wonderous the air handler does look to be higher than 8 feet up but still pretty cool.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 3 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

what yakuza game you been playing recently?

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 21 seconds ago

Took a break from kiwami 2 to go back to 4 to do all the substories. I kind of rushed through them for the main storyline and wanna make it up by doing all the Amon fights. I kind of wish I still had my saves so I could just do it all in premium adventure I guess because I pirated a different copy than the one I got on now I can't use it and thus started over.

[–] Ceres@hexbear.net 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I'm like this with a lot of things, but a big one is that after getting into astronomy I would see the moon in any piece of media and immediately start figuring out the rough time and date. In some episode of twin peaks s2 you see the moon and venus, and that was enough to determine the day of filming which was fun.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 2 points 5 hours ago

Yoooo that's so cool isaac-pog hex-moon didn't know it could work as a calender

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 5 points 11 hours ago

Back to dreaming of going fast and listening to no-copyright specifically secret rings ost. That game has so many artists like it's nothing new but I think the popularity of crush 40 kind of takes away from all the artists who've done sonic songs if I'm being real.

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 12 points 15 hours ago (2 children)

I would love to limit my dating pool to only trans people at this point, but there's just not many enough around for that to feel like a viable strategy

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 8 points 8 hours ago

I think I might only date queer people, but maybe a cool non-queer communist could do

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 8 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Depends where you live. Also gotta get used to dating your friends exes and your friends dating your exes, just queer things. My trans friend circle is composed entirely of people who've dated people, except for me and ONE other person lol

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 5 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Just become a polycule maybe?

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 10 points 7 hours ago

Exes for a reason~

[–] semioticbreakdown@hexbear.net 8 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

the guy jeans i still wear really arent doing me any favors but I dont know what to do about that without spending money on jeans I dont need in cuts I havent verified look good on me yet :/ wish i had skirts. I'm probably going to retire the current pair I'm wearing because I think they are just not flattering whatsoever.

[–] WoodScientist@hexbear.net 5 points 8 hours ago

Thrift stores girl, thrift stores!

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 6 points 13 hours ago

You have to try them out before buying

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