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Just came across this question on reddit and tbh....i don't know

People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don't know how to speak, i don't smile often, i'm shy, i look very judgemental or i'm just too egotistic....so i don't know if i'm actually someone worth hanging out with

And no i didn't make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.

I don't know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don't really hold back against me

So what about y'all?

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[–] sparcipx@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago

No. I can be a bit of a jerk and would probably say something to piss myself off.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 52 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I would date, fuck, marry & kill myself

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)
[–] Empricorn 10 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I don't see how "kill" could be in any other place than last.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 weeks ago

That's a good sign.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 50 points 2 weeks ago

Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.

[–] Stillwater@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 weeks ago

You mean after the sex?

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

Probably not. I don't really want to be around people who act like me. I've done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.

On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I'm doing a good enough job.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project

The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.

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[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 weeks ago

I Hang out with myself all the time. It's fine.

[–] unicornBro@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We'd code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.

We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

I've never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.

[–] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 weeks ago

We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

You've revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.

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[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, I'd hang myself.

...

Oh "hang out".
No.

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

One-on-one? Sure, I'm hilarious.

In a group? No. I'm an attention hog, I don't need the competition.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I'm super friendly and fun and loving.

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[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 8 points 2 weeks ago

Oh yeah for sure. I'd have sex with myself too

[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah. I would. I've been asking myself that for a long time and I've tried to become someone I would get along with.

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[–] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

I have met a person nearly exactly like me, and they make a great friend

So yes, I'd love to hang out with me, at least I'll finally have someone that doesn't keep deliberately misunderstanding my words to have an excuse to harass me

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

I would love to hangout with myself. I'm quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.

I don't have any friends because I'm disappointed in people my own age. I'd hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they're all dead soooo....

[–] LilB0kChoy@midwest.social 5 points 2 weeks ago

No. Spending time around people different from myself offers me different perspectives, interesting conversations etc.

Hanging out with someone exactly the same would be like living in an echo chamber with a yes man.

[–] thisisdee@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

I would have an orgy with myself if I had a cloning machine.

I would try out for RLCS with my 3-me-team in Rocket League.

I would never wonder where my team mates are in The Finals, because now they are also me.

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[–] piskertariot@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

No. I get introduced to people who are "like me" and I don't like them off the hop.

I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.

People like me. I have friends. I like my friends. But I do question their judgement being friends with me.

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[–] Triasha@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

I would hang out with me. I would play boardgames and learn about obscure subjects that I am interested in.

I would have trouble coordinating schedules with myself.

[–] Pika@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

I would hang out with myself, but I feel like it would be a very quiet meeting because we both would just be doing our own thing because unless someone else is spearheading the conversation or as a topic that I'm passionate about, I generally stick to myself anyway.

[–] andybytes@programming.dev 3 points 2 weeks ago

Antisocial is like killing stray cats and cutting off their heads and putting them in your sock drawer. "Weird people" are Interesting to those who don't smell their own brand. The infrastructure and the culture makes it hard for people to connect. You might have issues but other people are stupid. Two things can be right at the sametime. The world is on fire. Who is to judge really. It not like the collective contributions have led to anything constructive in the dum dum world of the lowest common denominator. https://youtu.be/MEL06Crmw8g

[–] pan0wski@infosec.pub 3 points 2 weeks ago

Yes, but I wouldn't want to spend too much time because I'm very annoying.

[–] NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Depends on the day. Sometimes im fun, sometimes im not so fun. Like anybody, I have days where im in a decent mood, got plenty of sleep, and then other days, I slept like crap, im cranky, and im just trying to keep my head down and get through the day.

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[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 weeks ago

Lmao all the people in the thread saying they'd have sex with themselves.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 3 points 2 weeks ago

I would totally sit quietly in a room with myself as we both played single player games, occasionally making recommendations to each other.

Good times.

[–] goofystench@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago

nah. that bitch depressing asf

[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

It would be on sight.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Hell yes, I'm my best friend.

[–] Outwit1294@lemmy.today 2 points 2 weeks ago

I would marry me if I could

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

When I was hanging out I think I would but im just sorta a boring, depressed old person at this point watching the world crumble around me. I would probably chat with myself at chance meeting like walking the dog.

[–] gon@lemm.ee 2 points 2 weeks ago

Well, that's a complicated question.

On one hand, I do already hang-out with myself basically all the time. I talk to myself a lot and I'm my own wall to throw stuff at.

On the other hand, I'm also very antisocial. I would definitely not enjoy spending this time that I spend with myself with another, physical person.

So, that.

[–] archonet@lemy.lol 2 points 2 weeks ago

I'm apparently best enjoyed in small doses; nobody else really seems to enjoy my company long-term, so why would I be any different?

[–] callyral@pawb.social 2 points 2 weeks ago

assuming this means hanging out with an exact clone of myself:

we would play a game of chance to see who gets the laptop and who gets the pc, then we would play minecraft together.

we could also play card games, chess, or some board game, although i wouldn't really talk to the other one since there wouldn't really be a point or anything new to learn that i couldn't learn by just thinking (as we would be the same person).

oh, we could also watch shows or a movie but i dont think it would feel like hanging out since we'd both just sit quietly and watch it.

so yeah, i would hang out with myself, and i wonder how rock-paper-scissors would go

[–] kepix@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

i would probably hate myself

[–] scytale@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 weeks ago

I would definitely jam in a band with three of my other selves. We'll be able to make music pretty quickly because we literally have the same minds.

[–] missingno@fedia.io 2 points 2 weeks ago

A worthy opponent for all of my favorite niche games that I'll never convince my IRL friends to play.

[–] bizarroland@fedia.io 2 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah. I do cool shit all the time.

Wanna come over and have a fire in the backyard and do a barbecue, drink a few beers, play some games, watch some movies, play some music, record an album, build some shit in the garage, work on cars, write stories, play with electronics, do some computer shit, like, what's your flavor, pick your poison, I'm down for fucking anything, and if I had another me to do it with, all the fucking better.

[–] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I would absolutely hang out with myself often.

I would help me get unstuck, and encourage my crazy projects to go even bigger.

I would run interference for myself when my social battery is low.

I would make collaborative art with myself, and try to outdo myself at stupid jokes.

Oh, and since I guess the question is implied, since everyone is answering - of course I would fuck myself. I have heard that I'm good in bed, and if I was bad at masturbating, I suppose I would do it much less often.

Edit: To respond to the downvote - you're right. I'm not actually all that great at masturbating. But I'm practicing as often as I can make time to! I'll get better!

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