General trans community.
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All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
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Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on
Isn't a slur a term used in a derogatory sense? Intentions mean everything. If the intention is to try and define, they can be corrected. If the intention is to shame or ridicule one's existence, it is a slur.
Anyone that uses 'futa' to describe a trans woman is very poorly informed.
what makes something a slur is the history of violence behind it and the systemic backing it receives in the present for said violence. having good intentions doesn't stop words being harmful
Personally we have a hard time seeing it as a slur on the level as other ones used for queer or trans people, though feel free to clarify on this.
However, it is absolutely wrong both morally/ethically and scientifically most of the time and it bothers us to no end, because for most people it just doesn't fit the lived reality or if it does we apologise but it is absolutely fetishising those of us who are trans femme and/or intersex and that therein we feel lays the crux of the problem — fetishisation.
Those who are trans femme and/or are intersex do not exist just for others to get off to.
We also notice it is a problem in a misogynstic sense too as porn artists choose to do it in some cases to characters who have certain gentials in canon and are fine with those genitals but the artists do not think that those people, especially those presenting as femme, can have those genitals and be powerful or in wlw relationships or relationships with femme presenting people, other people with those same genitals or perhaps just in general if they are strong, not submissive or confident in some way.
Please let us know if anything we have said here isn't understandable or crosses some line.
I'm not saying it is on the same level, just that it's a slur, it is used to objectify and dehumanize trans people, usually trans women, by reducing them to their genitals and a sexualized stereotype. So while it isn't the same level as tr*nny or f*ggot or groomer, it's still very bad in a different way.
Gotta escape those asterisks with a \
Aaah I wish there were fancy pants editor in Lemmy like they added in Reddit. I always forget those funny markdown things and end up messing up my comments and need to edit them later.
Wait tr*nny is a slur...? Why?
Huh... Some friends have been calling me tranny granny for a while now...
Maybe they don't know how bad it is or maybe they think slurs are funny and edgy.
We understand now, we're going to process this. Thanks for clarifying!
Why are you speaking in the plural? Who else are you speaking for?
We are plural as it says on our profile.
Probably a hot take but I disagree, it's the same issue as the whole "trap is a slur" situation that I also disagree with.
The issue is that, if the word is used against a trans woman without bottom surgery, it's a term that might not fit or be appropriate. With trap, it's just straight up misgendering, but it might fit someone who still identifies as male. With futa, (if I underatand your point) it might carry a lot of sexual meaning with it which could be inappropriate.
It's an issue with "who uses the word to describe who", and therefore isn't in my eyes a slur.
Edit: clarification
When one is using it on themselves like you describe it is a form of reclamation. Same goes with trap.
Though I disagree with you and find "trap" to be uber offensive even as someone who is also a femboy, because it implies I pretend to be a woman to trick people, really gross.
You are spot on that these words are mainly offensive when used against people pejoratively, in that context they absolutely are slurs.
it implies I pretend to be a woman to trick people, really gross.
Best argument I've heard as to why it's a slur. Honestly thank you.
The term is rooted from "entrampment" referencing a legal defense where straight cis men would seek a lesser charge than murder because the victim "tricked" them into being into the situation.
The trans panic defense is a closely related legal strategy applied in cases of assault or murder of a transgender individual whom the assailant(s) had engaged with, or were close to engaging with, in sexual relations, and claim to have been unaware that the victim was transgender, producing in the attacker an alleged trans panic reaction. In most cases, the violence or murder is perpetrated by a heterosexual man against a heterosexual trans woman.
Oh my god, that makes it even worse, WTF? Seriously how can femboys want to call themselves something that has such an awful connotation to it.