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[–] Droggelbecher@lemmy.world 56 points 1 week ago (2 children)

For better or worse, if you weren't fat they wouldn't diagnose you properly either. I've been diagnosed with:

•Too skinny (this is particularly funny bc the complaint was fainting and both the low weight and fainting are from hyperthyroidism as I now know)

•Too tall

•'this is normal for young women' (if it were they'd all be unable to work traditional job)

•Psychosomatic ailment (depression on my medical record is the bane ofy existence)

•Just unlucky

•'this must be an unknown symptom of your existing illness'

•Lacking exercise (I do 2 hour long swims a week and walk 3-5k every weekday)

•Probably lying about the amount I drink (both water and alcohol)

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago (4 children)

Is this problem with only having male doctors, or do women doctors pull this bullshit too?

[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 17 points 1 week ago

I got kind of the opposite of that at the hands of a male doctor. "You can't have Long Covid, only women get it."

But the female doctor I got after that wasn't much better. Third female one is at least taking me seriously.

To have the fun of experiencing what doctors are like when you have a chronic illness play You're Just Imagining It.

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I had a female doctor, when told my joints hurt so much I couldn’t use my hands for basic tasks, say to me “Well what do you want ME to do about it??”

[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

Lol I swear to God I've told doctors my symptoms before and their face looks like they're thinking "Holy fuck, you should tell a doctor about that."

[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

I had a female doctor who loved to tell me I was too young to be experiencing the things I was experiencing. Like I had neck pain from an incident at work (which has been ongoing for like 10 years now) and she said "oh young people just look at their phones too much". I also had a reaction to a piercing and she was insistent that the problem was "piercings and tattoos are bad for you", yet when I swapped the ring out for a hypoallergenic one (no thanks to anything she had to say to me), it cleared up extremely quickly.

But anyway, she was at least able to diagnose my PCOS, which a male doctor had prematurely diagnosed as "pregnant" so that was nice.

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[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Women doctors have NEVER given me real pain control for endometriosis pain, even in the ER. After my surgery (which I woke up during and literally it was as painful as the periods I'd been having), I was given 3 days of opiates and then nothing (took 2 months to fully heal, was extremely painful for 2 weeks).

Meanwhile, one male ER doctor DID give me Robaxin one time as a muscle relaxer, and it was AMAZING. It took off that sharp edge of pain. I think he was very concerned about undoing stereotypes of male doctors and women's health. Love him, he is a good guy

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[–] chloroken@lemmy.ml 38 points 1 week ago (5 children)

This is gonna hurt someone's feelings, but doctors don't call people fat unless they're overweight. It's just that, as a society, we are fucking delusional about obesity and lie to ourselves and others constantly, distorting what a healthy weight even looks like.

[–] Mesophar@pawb.social 25 points 1 week ago (18 children)

Sure, but sometimes (a lot of the time, from the experiences of multiple women in my life) doctors use "you're overweight" as a thought terminating phrase and won't even begin to look at other possible illnesses or treatments other than "you're overweight, you need diet and exercise".

By all means, if obesity is impacting their health it is something that needs to be addressed as well. That doesn't negate other health issues that happen to be comorbid with obesity, though.

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[–] LustyArgonianMana@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Okay, but being fat isn't relevant to someone's broken arm or many other diagnoses, the point is that they act like it is the only thing when it is clearly not that.

[–] Liz@midwest.social 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (10 children)

Being fat is a risk factor and a complicating for an alarming number of ~~considering~~ ailments. There's a reason why fat people get hammered at the doctors office about losing weight.

HOWEVER, the obesity epidemic in the US and other Western countries is a result of a fucked-up food system and an urban planning system that encourages a sedentary lifestyle. Like, individuals can choose to be less fat on their own, yes, but we're not going to make progress on this issue as a society unless we agree to change the fundamentals causing the problem.

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[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 37 points 1 week ago (2 children)

“Anxiety” is the 21st century hysteria. Then it goes into your record so other doctors can summarily dismiss you as “difficult.”

[–] FundMECFS@quokk.au 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This. It’s literally what most people who report physical symptoms but the doctor can’t find anything get diagnosed as.

I usually hear "stress"

[–] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com 31 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (15 children)

That was the 20th century that they skipped I guess. We as a whole got so overweight that by the 21st century we just started defending it.

I feel bad posting that recognizing your name also runs a wholesome community..

Haha it's fine

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

A friend of mine, who is just at the border of “normal” and “overweight” on the BMI scale, had a doctor refuse to remove a shard of glass from her hand until she lost 20 pounds. He said the surgery was too dangerous at her weight. There could be complications.

She ended up cutting her hand open and doing it herself.

[–] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That seems strange, although depending on how tall she was weight diffentials get pretty small. Like if you are 5'5 or below the difference between obese and normal is under 25 pounds (small window for overweight) It's only 40 pounds at 6'5. People are always built differently though so it's weird. When I was in my best shape I was always considered overweight according to the BMI chart because I was between 5'10/5'11 and was always around 187 pounds. No doctor would have called me fat at that time because I ran 5-10 miles a day and could dunk a basketball with both hands, I was lean but density was just high. I don't know anything about surgeries but I would figure they have to do with blood pressure and clotting habits maybe? The doctor likely was just an ass, hopefully her hand healed up well. Pain in the ass medical field we have here.

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Yeah, bmi is a terrible measure of health. If you’re at all muscular it’s just going to say you’re fat.

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[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago (8 children)

I get why doctors go straight to, "It's the fat." It's not fair, but it's understandable.

Put yourself in the doctor's shoes. The majority of people they see are fat. Don't believe it? Look around the waiting room. First time I realized this was a revelation. My old doctor serves almost exclusively senior citizens, who got to be seniors by not being fat. Now I go to other, closer offices and I'm often the only person in the room who isn't overweight. And there's always some morbidly obese person with a cast on their leg. Wonder how that happened?

Imagine how many cases they get in a week that are due to obesity, or aggravated by it. It's kinda like doing tech support where you think you already know what the problem is because you see it every damned day. "sigh... another one". If you're sincerely listening, you'll often catch yourself out! But docs now days gotta run us through the office like herding cattle.

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[–] IvyisAngy@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago

Oooh that hits.

I went to a doctor for a refill on ear infection medication. That's right a REFILL, for something that had been previously diagnosed by another doctor. I told him this, so many fucking times.

Nope. I had Covid.

"Sir, I just need a refill."

He just screamed at me, in broken English. "NO, YOU HAVE COVID. GO!"

I did not have Covid. I didn't even have a cough, a sneeze, or anything. My ear was in pain, and I couldn't hear hardly at all... and yah know... it was fucking bleeding.

I did not get the medication he prescribed me. I got ear drops from behind the counter and took allergy meds and then hopped for the best.

Brother, you didn't even have to examine me. I told you what was wrong. You could've gone home early!

[–] reev@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Therapy today is expensive and taxing, Not having to work on yourself sounds relaxing. Instead of evolving and changing your ways, You go to the doctor, they make you come and then your husband pays!

Source: Hysteria by Riki Lindhome

Ah, one half of Garfunkel and Oates. She is excellent!!

[–] XTL@sopuli.xyz 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

They diagnose everyone as fat, though. Unless you're a smoker or drinker in which case that gets the mark first. Unless there's any hint of "drug use" ever.

[–] DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Unless you're underweight, in which case the solution to everything is to eat more. Yes, doctor, I am skinny, but I don't think has anything to do with me asking to get on minoxidil.

[–] very_well_lost@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

To be fair, poor diet can contribute to hair loss.

[–] plzExplainNdetail@slrpnk.net 4 points 1 week ago

But unless the doctors run tests to find out what they're deficient in, eating more of what they are already eating will simply exasperate the deficiency as they're not getting what they need it in the first place.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Don't forget that in the 14th century if you fixed what the doctor couldn't diagnoses you are called a witch. Usually by telling people to eat their vegetables instead of live entirely off of organ meat

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Organ meat is actually kinda good for you if it's varied.

Like, if you're doing full carnivore, that's how you avoid dying long term. But you need to be really deli;erate about it, like going vegan.

[–] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I was just saying that telling someone to stop eating only liver and kidneys and instead eat something green to cure their gout would likely get you labeled a witch.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Telling people how to improve their QOL with everyday changes, or just how to not die, always gets me called something like that.

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Find a doc like my old one. She's 65 and talks like a burnt out, grizzled cabbie. Listens close, takes questions seriously, isn't afraid to give you her "stupid look" if you deserve it.

Her clinic got bought out by the giant regional health gangsters, so she can no longer make decisions according to her professional opinion, gotta go with the gangster's policies. Had to quit going.

But hey! We got Obamacare yesterday! Now if I can find a new doctor...

[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I get the point but...

When you're a woman and well over 100kgs, don't complain about your doctor telling you that you need to lose weight.

It's not sexism

It's not discrimination based upon your weight

Nobody is telling you that you're ugly

It's not a macho thing where only skinny women are desirable

It's about your life, how long it will last and how much you'll be able to enjoy it. It's about your own health, please listen to your doctor and try to lose weight.

[–] Alcoholicorn@mander.xyz 7 points 1 week ago

That's not what OP is criticizing, heavy women come to the doctor with genuine health issues (which may be exacerbated by weight), and instead of addressing the actual problem, the doctor just tells the pt it's caused by weight.

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