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I sleep in a hammock and so "making my bed" is just "shove all the blankets into hammock so they're off the floor. I'll have to rearrange them over myself when I go to bed, anyway.
Back when I slept in a bed I never made it, either, unless I was expecting company. If they were sleeping over I'd pull out fresh sheets. If we were just hanging out in my room, I'd pull the comforter flat.
Oh, and I never got the hang of flat sheets. I kick them off in the night, unless they're my only blanket.
What made you prefer a hammock over a mattress?
It's more comfortable and easier to clean. Comfort-wise, it cradles my joints so my hips aren't sore in the morning. Clean-wise, if, say, my dog wakes me up by vomiting on my chest (to pick a random example), I can toss the whole hammock into the wash and pull out my spare.
A decent hammock setup also cost me maybe $200, including the stand.
My room is really small, and I don't have space for a couch for example, so if I would want to lay down and I'm in outdoor clothes, I would rather kill myself than to lay down in unmade bed while wearing jeans that saw every sort of dirt and dust
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I prefer to air the bed during the day so I pull the covers down to the end and fold over once. Pillows are reset so they're fresh and comfy to start the night. Maybe later in the day I'll pull the covers up but doesn't later since it's all neat anyway.
None of that is performative, it's about freshness and comfort.
Generally I agree, and am so deep in the habit of not making my bed that it's never a thought in my mind. That said, if you or someone you might be sharing the room with is experiencing any kind of hard emotional state and feeling overstimulated, then making the bed as well as other general cleanup can make the space less noisy. In that context it can be therapeutic.
I like it to look nice and neat. Mess and disorder puts me on edge. I like the bed made with the pillows fluffed and throw pillows placed in a certain way. And I do feel like it's more comfortable to sleep in a bed that has been made, because the pillows are fluffed and all the sheets are smoothed out and evenly distributed between my husband and me. I do just get in bed and turn over, I don't rearrange anything, and instead of a blanket I have my hubby for knee support :)
I used to think like this but then at one point I looked at my bed and I can't stand it. It eventually reflects on how you treat the rest of your home and outside as well . If you find a 10 second task infuriating and pointless that's not too far off from thinking mopping , cleaning toilet , ironing clothes are a waste of time as well.
When I get the care to do it, its nice having a neat room.
It is also actually not healthy to make it right after you slept in it.
No matter how shitty my day is, at least the bed is made.
Also, the texture of the sheets on your body feels smoother if the bed was made hours before going to bed, than that feeling of untidy sheets. My sleeping position is sideways, the blanket below me, back is cold, feet over the edge, only one leg covered.
I air my bedsheets outside 3 days after changing them, I change them once a week. Also, my bed is for sleeping and the nasty only.
And from personal experience, partners who didn’t make their bed tended to not have their shit together, so I’m kind of biased.
The ritual of unmaking the bed can help some people, who experience difficulties sleeping, mentally prepare for sleep.
Most of our daily routines are.
Where it is nice is when you want to lie down you don't have to untangle the sheets.
You just lie down and the sheets are perfect.
Also its nice to tuck them in at least partially to make it easier to make.
I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.
I make my bed because my cats will absolutely shed all their hairs on my side of the bed that one time I forgot to do it. Slightly allergic, so I learned fast lol.
It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
More comfortable for the cat. She doesn't like it when it's a mess
Firstly, I respect your opinion as I probably shared it in the past.
Secondly, we're obviously talking about making the bed as in after you wake up. Making the bed as in fresh linen is an amazing feeling and absolutely worth while once every few weeks.
Now, to rebut your comments...
This is a silly reason, and I don't see how it's true.
It does however make bed time feel calmer and more soothing somehow. In my 20s I didn't care about quality sleep because you just bounce back from anything. In my 40s I do think about things like what might contribute to the perfect night's sleep. Having a shower, putting on clean pyjamas, and climbing into a nice bed in a tidy room just kinda sets the scene for a good sleep.
any task not worth my time to be a waste
this is subjective. Your whole argument may as well be "I don't value having a made up bed", which would be fine, but that's not an unpopular opinion so much as a personal preference.
Regardless, you don't "make" the bed the same way you make it when putting on fresh linen. You just flick the covers straight. It takes less time than scratching your ass.
It's kinda weird how often people do see our bedroom TBH. Usually it's someone using the toilet in the en-suite when the other toilet is in use.
There's no way our kids would keep a nice tidy bedroom if we didn't.
For me, I like to make it for t o reasons. First, in opposition to your first point, it does make the bed more comfortable. I can skip a day, but any more and the covers are too messed up for me to be comfortable. I don’t sleep like Lenin or Dracula. I’m a side sleeper and I roll around multiple times in the night, but I like the room cold at night, so I like the covers in place.
Second, I learned this from a grand parent I think, and I passed it on to my kids. If it’s the first thing you do in the day you’ve started the day on a good note. You completed something. Admittedly, when I was younger, this didn’t matter to me at all. As I’ve gotten older, it makes a little bit more difference.
I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.
I like to be able to sit or lie on my bed after a long day without it being lumpy.
shameful cleaning ritual is a bit of a harsh descriptor, but hard agree with everything you said.
I do it because when my house is neat and tidy, I'm motivated to do other things.
having a dirty room is a pile of work that goes on my backlog. if the backlog is too big, I can't get anything done.
making my bed is an easy way to knock things off my list and stay motivated.
For me, it's a huge headache saver. We have a 60 lb dog who likes to get into bed with us, along with one of our cats. If I don't make my side of the bed prior to my wife and the dog getting in, I'm probably not going to have usable sheets and blankets for the night. Wherever the sheets are when he decides to hop in, that's where they're staying.
So, I definitely make at least my side of the bed every day, at some point. Not usually right away in the morning, but it definitely gets done. I don't go all out on it, just get the sheet and blanket (and comforter, in winter) in essentially the right position for me. It's critical for a good night of sleep.
And, yes, we probably shouldn't have let him in the bed in the first place. Lesson learned. That's a whole other story. But the damage is done.