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For what reason would men randomly approach women? Women online have made it clear that doing so results in being made fun of, that women hate the features of testosterone-having men, and they've made it clear there is a long list of "icks" that you can't have.
The only dating i do is within the circles of friends.
Currently working on an absolute package, btw. Funny, fun, beautiful, sheeeeeesh.
The heart flutters at the thought.
women online have made it clear
Have you ever asked a woman in real life?
Hard to believe, i know, but i have actually dated women IRL. lol
Maybe because they are getting advice from other men how to trick a girl into giving them sex, this why alot look to pickup artist, it involves manipulation and tricks. They got so used to it, they don't even ask people
For the same reason we don't have productive political debates anymore, people don't have productive interpersonal relations anymore. Everyone withdrawing to their internet safe spaces has made a whole generation of men and women who instead of talking to each other, read horrible stories from other men and women and retreat further and further from actually talking to each other.
Now when you put a young man and woman in the same room together, they're both on edge because both their minds are consumed with anxiety about what the other is "planning."
So... Over the phone doesn't count? Texting doesn't count? Email? Those don't count? I would think that in this day and age texting would be the normal way to ask a girl out for a first date.
You know it's REALLY hard for someone not super social to ask a girl out in person. I'm 50 and i think I've never asked a girl out for a first date in person.... But then again, I am an introverted nerd so that's probably to be expected. Hell, I asked the girl I ended up marrying out over email....
Yeah i read this and assumed it meant more people were using dating services or something
These types of posts always get so spicy, and not in a fun way.
Disclaimer: I'm not 18-25.
I have a ton of women friends (more than men ATM) and have solid evidence that I am a significantly attractive man. I'm also bi so my options are a tad more broad than average.
Even with this I can say that dating is unpleasant and I have never asked for one and barely do them (women are rarely bold enough to be the initiator). It feels like a socially awkward job interview where I have to spend money I don't have and I fucking hate job interviews.
Admittedly, I also am autistic, socially anxious, and sexually repressed (American sex culture sucks).
I am just a regular 62 year old dude and I have not had a date in 12 years and the one I had 12 years ago was a fucking nightmare. I do not miss it.
Admittedly, I also am autistic, socially anxious, and sexually repressed
Same here. That's the 21st century everyman.
Same, I guess? Mildly autistic according to psychologist and general practitioner, whatever that means. Taking sipralexa for my overactive amygdala.
Getting into relationships was easy as fuck. Never asked a person out in my life. Just talked to them and then basically went over the barrier of bf/gf naturally. Then she'd ask if we're together and I'd say of course lol
I'd say it's because of my looks cuz I've been training my physique since age 18. But honestly my core strength is that I love analysing/understanding people, and girls love it when a guy is that interested in them.
This thread is an example of why men aren’t dating.
“I’ve had painful lived experiences and faced unbalanced and unfair expectations, so I’ve decided dating isn’t worth my time right now”
“You’re an incel”
It doesn’t really matter what you say, it’s the fact that you said it as a man that will garner disrespect from some regardless.
The common denominator in all of this is the fucking internet.
We didn't have the internet to give us opinions about men and women before. Most relationships were formed with existing social circles and friend groups. People hung out and had fun and talked to each other until they started getting frisky and then we had babies.
Now when someone wants to go get it on, they start reading the internet stories and arguments and roleplay issues, and they get tense and worried and then have no idea what to do or say when they're in the same room with a potential partner.
We HAVE to kill off the reliance on the internet if we want people to start liking each other again, which I don't know how to do since we're only getting more and more locked-in to our isolated routines.
It's like us men are immune to trauma and if we bring up any valid concerns or criticism, it's either we're incels or homosexual.
Our society and the double standards we place on ourselves as men or women is absolutely ridiculous.
It's incel to think you believe you're the shit and why isn't any woman coming to you. That's incel thought.
Dealing with depression, lack of job opportunities, isolation among men as society pushes us to keep our emotions on the backburner, etc. aren't incels, it's whats happening with men right now. Men have little to no support group compared to women and for that, I am envious.
As a dad:
I get weird looks when I'm with my child, am told "doing daddy duty huh" when I'm more involved than his mother, am expected to be stoic, can't sit at the bench to waych my child play as some other individual will think I'm a creep as I'm a single dad, can't wear dope/unique patterns due to others perception of it being "flamboyant" while women will compliment other women for what they got on.
Toxic masculinity is intertwined with incels and it's absolutely rampant in society.
stop caring about what other people think. hard to do sometimes but worth it. wear the bright colors, watch your kids, stand up for yourself and take up your space. fuck haters and people who live in the worried thoughts inside their head.
Oh for sure I stopped caring. I wear my crocs with an unique pattern nearly everywhere I go as an example. Just airing grievances and observations
i’d say incel is when you blame women as a group… basically misogyny….
i guess, i’ve seen incels blame society as a whole… and have a few valid observations mixed in with a bunch of insane beliefs. i suppose any good cult has that.
but, if you say dating culture sucks and you’re not playing the game, that’s not incel but is disenfranchised… or disgruntled….
if you say society has programmed you to need a barbie doll girlfriend/servant and you deserve it and hate everyone, refuse to work on yourself at all, and bitterly polish your gun, that’s incel….
it’s possible to not fit in mainstream society without being completely antisocial…
toxic masculinity/machismo is a thing, and it’s reinforced by everyone who’s been indoctrinated… that doesn’t mean every individual is a horrible piece of shit, but it also doesn’t mean you should try to emulate some macho ideal to compete.
the guy who gets all the interest at the bar is probably not going to be very attractive at the open mic or event feeding homeless people or whatever… everyone is an “alpha” in different situations, human groups overlap, and incel is a direct result of autistic people thinking PUA culture is the base level of society and human interaction….
Do people ask each other out or do they just hang out?
before the advent of dating apps, 2/3 of all relationships were formed through existing social circles and friend groups. People don't connect easily with strangers, but having a social group means that people feel safer reaching out or making the first move, they feel comfortable sharing more of themselves and being compromising so they don't create negative ripples in their shared groups.
People who are scared to socialize now tout dating apps as the way most relationships are formed, which is true, but dating and relationships have fallen to an all-time low so that even though dating apps "work" that's just because the other avenues are dead or dying, and people still absolutely haaaaate the dating scene, apps and all. It's not better, it's not enjoyable, it's just that most young people think it's the only option.
You want better results? Return to tradition, make friends, be a social person, force it until it becomes real and natural. Have interests that take you outside of the house and find even a tiny spark of passion for life, and you will have friends and relationships no matter how "anti social" you think you are.