Mental Health

Hi hon, I'm really sorry that the friends you made are shite. That isn't your fault, they were just there.

Could you do me a favor and reach out to anybody you can. Think back to anybody that's made you feel seen and understood.

hey i came across this by chance. wanna let you know i felt the same about a decade ago when i was around ur age & hit rock bottom. I've tried to end my life several times & I'm glad i didn't, there's so much out there to live for and now i dedicate my career to helping animals and others in need because it gives me purpose. i still struggle, but I'm 100% better than before, & i promise it gets a little easier each day. please hold on to your hope 💓

FWIW, when I was 22 I was really close to making the decision to end my life. No job, no money, no family that gave a shit.

I’m glad I didn’t because there were so many interesting stories and plot lines that hadn’t been finished yet. I just didn’t realize there was going to be more until much later. And besides, life is already very short as it is. 22-year-old me will get his original wish soon enough.

I won’t tell you what to do because I don’t think it’s helpful for me to do so. You seem intelligent. But here’s the thing: you can always change your mind later that it’s not worth it after all. Eventually, life itself will call time. Checking out, that’s a decision you’re stuck with.

I'm sorry but what is carrierist?

I don't know how to respond. Please don't give up yet. Life can be bad for a while, but eventually, it gets better.

1. What are the warning signs in your behavior that signal that you are becoming increasingly suicidal?
2. What are the ways you have available to calm or sooth yourself that might lessen your need to suicide?
3. What can you do to make the environment safer for you (like getting rid of the means of harming yourself)?
4. What are reasons for living? Often this one boils down to “Who would be harmed if you were to die?”
5. Who in your personal life can you talk to about how bad things are?
6. Who are the healthcare professionals you can call on if things get really bad?

I know what you might be thinking! A lot of people looking at these questions have told me that they can’t see it coming, they don’t know how to sooth themselves, there are no valid reasons for living, they have no friends or people who care about them and that they can’t access healthcare because it is too expensive (which is often true in the profit-obsessed USA unfortunately). Even so, it is worth trying to engage with these questions so as to write out methods and names and resources as well as you can. Even a little bit of hope and a little bit of planning in advance can become critical in a crisis, making the difference between life and death.

A final word about reasons for living. Many times suicidal people have told me that even though they have children or loved ones, that their children will be better off without them alive. Such is the warping influence of the suicidal trance which commonly argues that the suicidal person is and can only be a burden and that children or loved ones will be better off without them. This simply isn’t true. Children get FUCKED UP when their parents commit suicide. Loved ones get FUCKED UP when their loved ones commit suicide. Particularly for children who lose their parents to suicide, the effect is to traumatize them rather permanently for the rest of their lives. I have seen it up close and personal. Nothing I might say can make the influence of the suicidal trance less strong, but at least hear me in that this part of what that trance says is a lie. Nothing good comes of suicide except maybe that your own personal pain is discharged. The others around you will suffer. If you don’t want to contribute to the suffering of others, please consider looking for another way. That other way might be very hard to find or very expensive to access, but when it is life or death, it’s a good investment to make.

General Suicide Information

https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/index.html

Suicide Helplines In the USA: call or text 988

https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp

https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/

Suicide Safety Planning:

https://www.verywellmind.com/suicide-safety-plan-1067524

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-recovery-coach/202306/how-to-develop-a-safety-plan-to-manage-a-suicidal-crisis

If you're around the Portland-metro area of Oregon, I'd be happy to meet up and chat, let you vent, whatever.

Don't.

Hun. I’m not trying to minimize your pain, fears, or experience. But unless someone is chasing you with a baseball bat for that money, deprioritize it. I wish I could give you the biggest hug. Im so sorry that so much pain and difficulty is happening to you and life has backed you into this corner right now. Please keep going. Feel free to send a DM.

It sucks that you’re in this situation where you feel this way. Everyone, including you (yes, really), deserves happiness. I wish I had some magical words to help you right now. Truth is, I’ve been in your spot a few times in my life. I can say that what you’re feeling is very real and valid. Hurting as much as you are is tough. I genuinely hope things turn around for you, but if they don’t, I hope you find the peace you are looking for and deserve. I’ll be thinking of you.

The best of life happens after 25. I know it feels impossibly far, but yes, it gets better, and yes, you have made it through the worst of it. It gets even better after 30 by the way.

Please, if you have a moment of clarity, go to a hospital and get checked in. I know that a mental health hold is some miserable bullshit, but it can save your life. Don't buy a gun. Just don't do it. Stay home.

Life used to be extremely bad for me mentally due to mental illness, traumas and a really bad life situation I thought would never change. I planned to kill myself several times in the past. Those plans weren't abstract; I knew exaclty how I would do it.

My head starts spinning when I think about how close I was to actually doing it. It spins because, while I have to deal with lots of bad stuff that sadly won't ever go away, I certainly don't want to kill myself today.

I think you should consider the possibility that things might very well get better in the future even if it doesn't seem like it right right now. Killing yourself is permanent. While you won't be able to regret it, you very well might be grateful you didn't do it. I sure am.

Consider living out of spite. Hate and hope aren't that different really and many like-minded, similar situation people have the same hatred for how things are as you do.

Hi hon, I'm really sorry that the friends you made are shite. That isn't your fault, they were just there.

Could you do me a favor and reach out to anybody you can. Think back to anybody that's made you feel seen and understood.

you should do anything else first please :c

You clearly don't want to die, because you are posting here. Keep trying new things in life. Don't get frustrated.

I don't know if there are any words that you will find comforting, so I will tell you how I cope when find myself in a spiral.

The universe is astoundingly, massively, stupid huge and you and I are here for only a fraction of a second compared to the life of a planet or a star. You matter because you are matter, but we are all insignificant and nobody is any more important than anyone else. You can kill yourself if that is truly what you want, or you could wait a little while longer and death will come for you soon enough. Try to realize just how amazing life is and consider how lucky you are to be here to experience it. I want to see what happens next, so I think I will hang out a little while longer. I can always die tomorrow.

If that doesn't help you; try to be thankful that you are not Sam Bankman-Fried! That guy's life really sucks!

Take a look at this. It may be helpful:

https://lemmy.world/post/14563584

Good luck, just know that no matter how alone you feel, there are good people out there somewhere, just gotta find em somehow

Good luck with everything

There's a lot I could say but you have a lot of replies so I ask you to take a minute and consider this