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I live in a tourist trap area of the US and got pick pocketed once shortly after moving here. So I am real cautious of strangers getting close. After doing to Pokemon go rounds one night some dude started following me, and the girl I was dating at the time, from the gas station. I come from a much more densely populated area of the US so I immediately recognized it as a threat, and told her to keep walking and I would catch up. I'll admit I was a little too aggressive given the situation, cause I saw a "come to God" moment in homie's eyes when he realized how big the dude he was stalking was(I'm easily two standard deviations to the right of bell curve in terms of largeness, but I'm also proportional so most don't realize it on sight).
I would say I felt bad, but after getting my walker taken and having to go through the bullshit involved, I wasn't about to take a chance. Funny thing is, the girl actually broke up with me cause of that incident and immediately got with a meth head who took her and her family for what they could.
This story, much like life, has no point other than keep your wallet in a very noticable area.
It's weird moving to places where the relative danger of different crimes vary.
I grew up in a place where I was mugged at knife point a couple of times. It was a pretty socioeconomically deprived area where this wasn't normal, but it wasn't super abnormal either. One of the times I was mugged, I was in a pretty bad place with my mental health, and I said "if you want my phone, then just fucking stab me for it, because I don't give a fuck anymore". The guy mugging me seemed to recognise me as someone going through some shit, and became super sympathetic. He even asked me if there was anything he could do to help. A friend who was mugged (at knifepoint) in the same rough area one responded by saying "oh come off it, mate" and continuing walking. It's like there was a weird sense of solidarity, because we all knew we lived in a shit hole place with no prospects.
I later moved to a much safer city, where being out at night felt tremendously safe. Now, I live in a larger city, and none of my previously cultivated instincts for safety are the right fit. I know that I must be more cautious here than I was in the small, posh city I lived in, but also I feel that the kind of caution I need here is quite different to what was necessary in my home town. Without a calibrated sense of risk in this new city, I often find myself being overly cautious. I suppose that's a safer side of caution to err on.
You know what's funny? I got robbed at gunpoint in front of my house. I was wearing a knock off Ulysse Nardin watch, and they didn't even touch it. They got about $30 from the wallet before being arrested. And no, the cops never gave me my $30.
If I had my wallet stolen, the worst part of it would be having to renew id and stuff. It's a lot of faff
Real talk. I would've gladly given up the money for an easier time getting everything back together.