Oh don’t worry! Us trans gals definitely recognize how strong and cute you are! We are just shy and struggle approaching people, but we’d love for you to show us how strong you are…
I am also grieving the loss of REI as my go to outdoor supplier. I’d personally say Huckberry isn’t a full replacement as REI also does climbing gear, cycling, small boats, not just apparel and camping. I’m working on a list of my own of different businesses specifically to replace REI, because the reality is it was near unique in its offerings as a one stop shop.
I have some bikini shorts combos I like. I wear them over bikini bottoms and tuck tape. Plus a sheer coverup I’m generally very comfortable and confident. Gives me options depending on setting, like if I’m just lounging/tanning I can take the shorts off, or walking a public beach I might toss the shorts and cover up on. Some of my favorites are from Prana, but they can be a tad pricey.
Been using this for years, it’s good, but probably not for everyone. I like being able to manually sort the order of my folders, and it forces a maximum folder depth of like 3 or 4 depending on how you interpret one part. This makes it very quick to navigate, particularly from the command line. Add something like Zoxide on top and I can fly through all my notes and projects.
Could you cross post this to !ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone? I thought about doing it myself, but I think having it come from you is more important. People often default to referencing and addressing trans femme folks as the sort of representatives of all trans people, and that often ends up making our siblings feel very unseen.
Within the silly metaphor I made with languages, the “colonizer” approach would be to make the people use a non-native language for potentially complex cultural concepts best described with their words.
If not knowing how to communicate with people makes someone feel left out or something, they shouldn’t blame the people speaking their native language for that divide, they should put in the effort to find common communication tools and willingly accept knowledge from the native speakers without pushing back on how to use language that is unknown to them.
To tie this back to pronouns and queer theory and what have you. When people say “I don’t understand neopronouns” then they are just saying they don’t know a language. That language is a subset of a language they might consider themselves a speaker of, but it is a portion of that language they do not yet know. It is also language they can choose to adopt so as to communicate with the people that use it, or choose to not learn, and reasonably expect to not be communicated with.
If someone decides they are willing to start learning that language they need to be prepared to self teach. It’s not every queer person’s responsibility to educate people. Some folks have the emotional capacity to help teach, but there’s also tons of resources on queer theory and inclusive language that can be easily found with a google search without ever having to expose a queer person to inaccurate or harmful language.
Let’s be real—the vast majority of us were raised in a very cisnormative culture. And there was a lot of conscious and unconscious bigotry that most of us absorbed from that
Hi, another trans person here.
I was also one of those vast majority of people raised in cisnormative culture. Just like you. After a lot of thought and introspection I realized the person I am in my mind, did not match the corporeal form I was given. So I am taking steps to make that vision of my self a reality. That often means using language that is not used in “cisnormative culture”. As with any language you don’t speak, you have two options. Learn to speak it yourself and come back to converse with those people OR choose not to learn it and move on with your life, leaving them be. Some people think there is this funny little third option called “colonization”, but it’s generally frowned upon. /lh
Yeah fair. A big part of my interest in it is that it split from Opera Software through a staff buyout, which to me says the people working there and maintaining it care a touch more than some companies. From the literature I consumed when signing up they seemed very privacy forward, and as a Proton VPN user I didn’t want all my eggs in one basket should Proton turn out to be a honeypot. That all being said, I agree with your point that they are subject to a legal system that doesn’t put users first compared to other countries, though for anything really sensitive I’m not really sure I would be using email to begin with, particularly not one I use for general clear net personal communication like banking and such.
Considering sex a binary is in fact a social construct. Intersex people exist, “male” seahorses get pregnant. Some frog species can changes sexes to help balance population. A universal biological sex binary is not what nature shows. Claiming such a binary exists is necessarily a social construct, or at least social simplification of reality. Much in the way saying one magnetic pole is positive and the other negative, or “spin” on electrons. They are all social constructs.
The queerness of nature does not care about the mental gymnastics we humans have to jump through to try and make sense of things.
Fastmail has been treating me well. Unlimited aliases and masked emails are really the only features I use, but it’s got sort of the classic suite of productivity tools you’d expect. I self host equivalents of these, but for a drop in replacement for most of the g-suite it’s good without trying to be more than it needs to be.
Hi. I’m transfem and lurk here (posted once I think). I want this space to grow for y’all too. I’ve got a bunch of my own ideas of why I think there’s a disproportionate transfem presence on Lemmy, and in online spaces in general, but I won’t get into that right now.
I just wanted to say I (and I think I can say “we”) want you here. The rare transmasc meme that goes by on !egg_irl@lemmy.blahaj.zone or !onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone always gets a smile out of me.
I struggle convincing a lot of my masc friends to join Lemmy because they really don’t rely on online spaces the same way I do, but I will keep working to convince them. If we want the platform to survive, the early adopters need to go through a period of kind of blah user counts. This happened broadly, but it also happened with specific and niche communities.
Stick to BlueSky if you’re liking it, but please check in here now and again!! Hopefully it only gets better with time!
Lots of love from your trans siblings ❤️ 🏳️⚧️ ✊
I’ve got a bit of a back log to post, but I figured I would start strong with one of my better sourdough bakes.
Hello!
I'm Arkhive (they/she), one of your new mods and I've just got a sort of update from the mod team.
We, the mods of Onehundredninetysix (hereby referred to as OneNineSix for my own sanity), would like to introduce ourselves. The members of the mod team that are interested will post a comment below this post and hopefully mingle a bit. Something that has come up in our discussions is a general interest in owning our actions, even in online spaces. That means putting people behind the names you see in the sidebar.
As the OneNineSix community coalesces, things have been quite good from our end. While we could be quicker at processing reports, a lot of that stems from us discussing choices as a group before making final decisions...and probably a bit more fear to use our power than is good for us, but time I'm sure will fix that proceeds to power trip. We are absolutely not infallible, and we also strive to admit wrong when necessary and work to rectify it. There is a degree of patience that necessarily extends both directions between mods and users, and in the end we are all users of the same space. We will work to be good stewards of this space for all those being good stewards with us.
And so! This thread. If this idea goes over poorly, please take it out in the replies to my comment, and we will assess and hopefully the other mods will dive in on the discussion too. We have also floated the idea of an irregularly occurring, semi-regular, mod chat thread. My pitch is for "Modly Mondays" but its still an idea in its infancy and feedback is welcome;)
Thank you for your time, thank you for the memes (the cat included), and I'll ~~remove~~ see you ~~from~~ in the comments.
TL;DR I'm Arkhive (they/she), I'm a mod, there's more of us (surprise!), and we'd like to introduce ourselves in the comments.
Side note: I realize this is being posted on a day there are protests happening across the US and presumably throughout the world. While this is not an explicitly US comm, I want to remind people to stay safe. Know your rights, know the ACLU phone number, have an exit plan, go as a group, and don't talk to cops. We keep us safe.
For some reason I can only find stock images of this pill case. I have it on good authority it makes a satisfying clicking noise and my gay, neurodivergent ass wants one.
Ideally not an Amazon link, I deleted my account a bit ago and I do not plan to make a new one.
UPDATE: It would seems this is a prepackaged way E is sometimes distributed. Thanks to folks that pointed this out.
Somehow this was a fitting first screen out of the terminal…
I could have sworn I wasn’t wearing thigh highs a moment ago…huh continues typing
picture is of a Hatsune Miku edited to be sitting at a table from a Calvin and Hobs comic, with a sign on the front of the table reading "Hatsune Miku (creator of Minecraft) is very deserving of this meme format"
I’ll try to keep tracking down more, but these were some tabs I had open.