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"person I pay to pretend to give a shit about my problems" is such a reductive and unhealthy view of therapy that it should be immediately apparent why therapy has not been helpful and why you're unable to see why an Autocorrect word regurgitation machine wouldn't be helpful.
If you have an accountant, is that a person you pay to pretend to give a shit about your taxes? Is an orthopedic surgeon someone you paid to pretend to give a shit about your broken leg? You should be able to recognize why this would be an unhealthy and unhelpful framing device.
10% odds the problem is that you haven't found the right therapist. 90% odds you're building up mental barriers that are actively preventing you from engaging with the therapeutic model in a beneficial way. Acknowledging this and working to overcome these barriers was life-changing for me and has resulted in an astonishing level of change in not only how effective talk therapy has been, but also in how I feel and think about myself particularly in regards to my mental and physical health.
if therapy was rigorous we wouldn't have to suffer through dozens of wrong therapists.
There definitely are crappy providers out there but if you're at the point where you've personally bounced off of multiple dozens of providers, it might be time to start thinking about the "why" of the problem and about your actual needs. Like, what do you want out of therapy? What are your goals? Maybe you need a specific therapy method, or maybe talk therapy straight up cannot meet those needs.
probably this. drugs didn't help either,
The classic model of a sufferer of depression has them numb to or unable to see positive stimuli in their life and both talk therapy and SSRIs can help people recognise and maximize the positive things in life.
There's a scenario colloquially referred to as "shit life syndrome" in which a sufferer is living in untenable and seemingly unchangeable circumstances, which are impacting their mental health. Therapy is largely ineffective here because it doesn't affect the material aspects of life. It doesn't stop abuse, it doesn't put food on the table, it doesn't make your workplace more tolerable, etc. There also seems to be a high level of correlation between this type of depression and cPTSD.
Interestingly, SLS-type depression may be a major cause of paradoxical reactions to SSRIs, where symptoms actually worsen. Unlike the traditional model of a depression sufferer, it's not that SLS-type sufferers unable to see the positive stimuli in their life: they're just overwhelmingly exposed to negative stimuli. Heightening the ability to engage with stimuli that were being missed instead results in a worsening of symptoms.