Why can't they just consciously recognize "I find them attractive and I totally would if they were up for it, but they aren't, and that's okay" and then let it go?

[–] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago

Because then their friends call them f-slurs and tell everyone they’re gay for not wanting to have wild sex with every attractive girl/woman they come across.

[–] fox@hexbear.net 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Or even just "this person is attractive but I'm not interested in changing our relationship"

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Or even "this person is attractive and I would be interested in changing our relationship, but they aren't, and that's okay"

[–] Gosplan14_the_Third@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago

I doubt most incels make it to the actual rejection part.

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago

that phrase is equivalent to "wanting sex", it's just the healthy expression of it because of all the extra words.