Apparently me saying no to this wedding was the last straw for them, because they're always asking me to do things I can't afford and they don't seem to understand why I can't despite me telling them every time that I am poor. So now I'm the bad person because I'm totally being poor and "holding myself back" on purpose.

If they want to burn this bridge they can fuck right off. I've had enough of this shit.

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[–] super_mario_69@hexbear.net 34 points 10 months ago (6 children)

for real, jesus christ. does "I can't afford it" mean something else for other people???? I remember I had an acquaintance back when who just didn't seem to get the concept of not affording something.

"come to the thing!" sorry I'm broke, I can't afford it. "yeah okay but you could still come" bro what I literally have seventeen cents to my name "oof yeah I get it, but you could come though?" What, just fucking smooth-talk my way in without a ticket? "no man the tickets are cheap, come on, it'll be fun"

They weren't even out-of-touch-levels of rich or even all that well off. I never understood, and I never thought to ask them what they think "can't afford" means. Wild.

[–] SerLava@hexbear.net 23 points 10 months ago

"I can't afford it" mean something else for other people????

Yes.

Some people have so much money laying around that they don't really have an excuse not to help people, so they put an arbitrary amount into savings so they can pretend that they don't have the money they are continually putting away. Just oh I have 1 million dollars and I put 999,999 into that one account, so I actually can't afford to buy you this hamburger right now.

[–] AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net 8 points 10 months ago

"no man the tickets are cheap, come on, it'll be fun"

Apparently not as cheap as you refusing to foot the bill for the "cheap" tickets. It's all "this isn't even that expensive" until their own money is involved.

[–] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 7 points 10 months ago

how-much-could-it-cost

[–] Flocklesscrow@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

This is just the long form of, "I don't think of you as a person unless you're equally financially secure."