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Yeah, we almost always owe a tiny bit (usually less than $100, often less than $50) to the state. I don't really understand how I can get so close but still miss it every year but overpay federal taxes when it's all based on the same W-4 I give to my employer.

The school districts get part of our local income taxes which is separate from what municipalities get (technically municipalities run wholly on property taxes, and the schools get a portion of that plus a portion of local income taxes that are split with the county. It's convoluted IMO). It depends on where you are employed and where you live, since your employer remits taxes to the municipality you work in and that municipality remits taxes to school districts based on where each employee lives (at least that's how I understand it, it all is mostly transparent other than needing to include various location codes on forms for your employer and for your local tax return).

This is great advice, and all points I've learned as well over the years in IT. I worked help desk as a T3 for a bit and it's sucked. Even when people were not asses (honestly most weren't, they were generally professional but frustrated) the shear amount of effort to fix small things was awful and it kept me from working on projects I wanted to actually put time towards. I now work in cybersecurity compliance and essentially just tell everyone they need to fill out more paperwork, slow down processes, and then tell them no. It's soul crushing. But I like my company and the people I work with (this hasn't shared been the case everywhere I've worked).

For OP:

I think the keys are write down everything, and account for all of your time. If you helped someone there needs to be a record of it. Without metrics your management can't get you more help if they want to, though it sounds like they don't want to. Those metrics also give you the ammo you need to defend why things are slower than management wants, or why customers are unhappy.

I am also a big proponent of a strong work life balance. I work 7:30 to 5, at 5:01 I lock my PC and am done for the day. Problems will still be there in the morning, or in Monday. I try hard not to complain shoot them or think about work much outside of that 7:30 to 5 period.

Finally, consider your life plan. Where do you want to be in 5 years? 10? 20? You have to begin with the end in mind, otherwise you wander aimlessly and never get traction towards your goals. For me it's moving towards management so I can effect better changes in my workplace and company, for others it's being a true SME that knows everything about a specific topic. It's likely not working help desk still though (as you note it's the bottom of the IT barrel, or the trench's as many call it; good for getting a foot in the door and cutting your teeth, but a really shit career). If you want to stay in IT, then it's worth specializing. Learn AD, networking, PKI, software deployment, virtualization, or whatever skill interests you, and learn it hard. Then make yourself indispensable (which it sounds like you've already done with help desk). Those skills are portable, and most enterprises need them and will pay well for them. That gives you the leverage to negotiate better pay, benefits, working conditions, etc. with management. But don't be afraid to look elsewhere. Keep your resume polished and apply to things that look interesting. Our world isn't our parents, it's a rare company that rewards following the 40 year tunnel. It's expected that you will jump from company to company and job to job to move up, and IME that helps with avoiding the burnout since at least the people and surroundings change.

I can't agree with this enough, though I think part of the problem is that it isn't what's easy to complete your W-4 accurately, there is an entire worksheet to use if you file jointly that is sorta difficult to do well, especially if both people make fairly different amounts. If you just choose the basic withholding it's very likely the bigger breadwinner isn't withholding enough and you'll end up owing about what the comic shows (at least that is my experience, as well as some friends).

I think the real problem in the US is that everyone is left to do their tax paperwork from scratch every year when the IRS could send you a personalized return prefilled that you then claim the deductions and credits you're due and account for any descrpenices (which sure, is what your W-2 is supposed to be, but it isn't really that, you still need to use the worksheets on the 1040 or pay someone/some software to do it for you; a prefilled 1040 would be a way better system).

It also doesn't account for the huge variations in state taxes. Many states have income taxes, some are reciprocal with nearby states and others aren't, the deductions and credits and even what is taxable is all different. The whole thing is a mess. Then lord help you if you live in a state with local income taxes or one where your local taxes are different than school taxes(like PA) and the whole thing is a half day exercise in frustration to complete and you're still left wondering if you did it right.

I bought a pair of Vivobarefoot leather shoes on eBay that are a few years old but fit and look great (I think the current model equivalent are the Ra IV). I wear them to my office job and have worn them to weddings as well with no issues. The Gobi IV look good too if something with more ankle coverage if that's your look.

I really like that they are super flexible (you can literally roll them up) which makes packing them for trips super convenient too (which was really nice on a cruise to Europe where space was at a premium and I otherwise would have needed a ton of room for a normal pair of bulky oxfords).

Agree 100%. Most of the former Plex users turned Jellyfin users I have come across did so better Plex was broken in some way for them. For me it was the general lack of care in creating/maintaining a good Apple TV app. Over the past few years it's just gotten buggier and buggier with a lot of complaints on the Plex forums where devs would essentially stop by to say they weren't working on any fixes.

Jellyfin doesn't fix 100% of the issues, but at least there is active development on Swiftfin that showed a desire to fully support all devices.

Honestly, the majority of key points to talk about can be found online from respectable sources (for example, this article from Johns Hopkins, though there are many others). There is a better than even chance he has shady looked up the "Is this normal" stuff himself if he has normal internet access.

From a social standpoint it's going to be different for everyone, teenage years are hard and kids are often cruel. I'd advise to just be there for him on this front, but don't be pushy. He is going to be moody, lash out sometimes, and act differently. That is all normal. He is going to want to push boundaries and get in trouble (rather do things that will get him in trouble, most folks don't actually want to get in trouble). Give him safe room to explore who he is and to try new things without letting him fall down too hard.

Lastly, you say there are no trusted male figures in your life, but that doesn't have to be family. Good friends can also fill that space. I have to imagine there is some guy in your life that could have heart to heart, even just with you to then talk to your son. It's worth trying to broaden your expectation of what a trusted male figure is perhaps.

I have done this for our past two moves, and now that we own a house I keep them in our non-climate controlled cellar off our basement. My wife thought I was crazy until we moved and had good a good way to move a bunch of stuff.

Arugula is known as Rocket in most of the rest of the world.

Cilantro is the herb, coriander (seed) is the spice/dried powder. Often you can tell by what you are making and how it's being used/added, but typically they are differentiated as above in American recipes.

Genuinely confused as well about the pepper, a bell pepper is a pretty universal name for it as far as I knew. Folks also refer to them as green/yellow/red peppers here, or sweet peppers occasionally (usually when used in Italian food), but bell pepper is the generic name.

Sure, but not wanting to go through withdrawal is different than being unable to stop taking a substance. In this case it's doubled because for most people SSRIs help them feel and function better and can have strong withdrawal symptoms, so most people wouldn't want to stop taking them because they are helpful and stopping sucks, not because they have a chemical dependency on them.

As someone on an SNRI for ADHD, I don't want to go back to how things were before I started on medication, and stopping taking it can be unpleasant to a degree (not to the same degree as an SSRI, but they work in similar ways in your brain).

Junior here is just being malicious misinformed and cruelly telling folks with metal health struggles that they just need to work harder to be happy, ignoring settled science showing that the vast majority of mental health dusorders (and neurodivergent disorders for that matter) are tied to physical and chemical differences in the brain compared to typical individuals.

I would guess they are looking to use it with pagent to support login with PIVs which is likely required by the servers they want to access. It's a pretty standard login setup in federal IT honestly.