Shelena

Zou best kunnen dat het zo werkt. Ik vraag me dan wel af hoe je in de rest van het leven functioneert als dat je niveau is. Het lijkt me dat je dan enorm vastloopt. Maargoed. Misschien zijn ze daarom zo boos.

Ja, klopt! Ik probeer af en toe er wel wat tegenin te brengen, maar het is alsof je tegen een muur praat. Ik doe het soms toch, want er lezen ook mensen mee en hopelijk trekt het hen iets minder de fuik in. Alles waar je enigszins asielzoekers de schuld van kan geven kom je ook de meest racistische bagger tegen. De bot laat echter blijkbaar geen comments door waarin je zegt dat iemand een racistische uitspraak doet. Dat gaat blijkbaar dan wel te ver. Echt enorm frustrerend.

Gelukkig is het niet de doorsnede van de NL samenleving. Het is een flink deel, maar ik denk nog steeds dat de meeste mensen meestal wel verstandig en sociaal zijn.

Beetje dezelfde retoriek als die van de AfD zelf. Waarschijnlijk hebben ze het daar ook vandaan en verder is het elkaar opruien en nakakelen. NuJij is ook wel echt het afvoerputje van het internet in NL. Heel laag niveau en vooral veel onderbuik. Wordt er echt een beetje depressief, maar vooral ook heel boos van als ik daar te lang kijk.

Ja, absoluut. Echt niet te geloven dit. Ik ga st eds minder begrijpen van de mensen die hierop stemmen en nog steeds achter staan.

Ik ga eens kijken. Bedankt voor de tip!

Ik heb een offline systeem in mijn auto. Hij krijgt wel info via radio, maar dat is zo langzaam dat je er niks aan hebt. Als er file is of een wegafsluiting dan gebruik ik soms wel Google Maps nog. Ik heb tot nu toe geen alternatief gevonden voor dat soort gevallen. Weet iemand iets met betrouwbare live-info?

Wat goed dat je helemaal overstapt naar Signal. Het is mij nog niet gelukt. Ik ben toch te bang om dingen te missen. Er zijn echt weinig mensen die op signal zitten in mijn omgeving nog. Hopelijk komt het nog.

Thank you! 😊

I checked and I think it is only for the Netherlands (https://www.meerdangewenst.nl/category/oproepjes/oproepen-wensouders). I am not sure what country you are from, but I hope that there is something similar. I do not think that this is unique for the Netherlands probably.

Same!

Thank you. I really hope you do find another couple or woman who you can have children with. I have seen it work very well in practice. I think my uncles went on a website that matches people and there was some process a bit similar to dating on beforehand when they tried to find a match. However, in the end, of was a friend that was interested.

She wanted to have children, but did not have a partner. She also wanted to make sure the children had a father, so this was a good solution for her as well. Now they even have two fathers!

I hope you can find a solution like this or surrogacy. I think that everyone that is capable of taking care of a child and who wants it should be able to have one. I think it is one of the most fundamental experiences you can have in life. Good luck!

The problem has likely to do with the quality of my egg cells. They are not certain about this, but it is the most likely explanation. This means that surrogacy would not solve that problem. An egg cell donation might. However, in my country it is quite difficult to have access to that. There are large sperms banks, but not large banks for egg cells. So, we would need to find someone in our environment to donate an egg cell to me.

Are you a male or female couple (biologically I mean for making the child)? What happens here is that there are some women who do not have a partner, but still want a child. They often get a child together with a male gay couple and they raise the child with the three of them. I think government is even working on it to be possible for a child to have three parents legally. This is how my uncles got their twins. I am not sure whether this works the same with female couples. I see them often at the fertility treatment center, so I believe that they probably use the sperm bank.

In my country adoption from other countries is impossible as there have been several cases in which children were taken away from the parents illegally. They cannot check for that informing countries, so now adoption is not allowed anymore. Adoption within my country also is almost impossible. It is believed that children are best off with the biological parents. If they cannot live there, everything is focused on creating better circumstances so they can go back. The goal for children who cannot live at home is always to go back to the biological parents, so adoption almost never happens.

There is foster care and in soms cases children are in foster care for a very long time. Although the idea is still to get them back with the biological parents once the situation is safe, in practice that might not happen. You can just never be certain about that. However, I was abused by my parents and I got CPTSD from that. While my psychologist believes I would be able to be a foster mom, maybe even better because my experiences allow me to understand these children better, it is a really big obstacle to becoming one. The foster care organisations in general believe that if you have trauma in your past that you are not well-suited to take care of a child. They already told me it is not impossible for me to be a foster mom, but not to count on it because of the CPTSD.