Not just Dads
this post was submitted on 07 Jul 2025
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I don't have enough info to tell if this is unpopular or not, but I bloody well agree. Not just for dads either; it applies to moms
Yeah, on average, that first interaction with a newborn by a parent right after birth is going to cause a massive oxytocin dump. All the stress and adrenaline during birth makes it even more likely for that to clinch the deal.
But it isn't certain, and there's a ton of things that can interfere. Plus, unlike moms, dads aren't always there. Life can throw barriers in the way of being present for the birth. Yeah, moms can be mentally absent and that's a barrier of its own, but we're kinda focusing on dads overall.
Even if everything goes perfect, not everyone is wired the same.
It's great when someone has that instant bonding, but it really does need to be better known that it isn't automatic, nor a sign of anything wrong
I dont think that is especially controversial.
Skin-on-skin time is not only beneficial for the baby. Parents need bonding time (read: oxytocin) with the infant so they dont smother it when the little asshole wakes them up for the 500th time, screaming for no apparent reason.
My wife and I theorize that babies start smiling at around 2-3 months because that's about the time that new parent adrenaline wears off, and if they didn't start smiling the human race would've been collectively dropped off at the nearest bear's den.
Hahaha, absolutely the same theory here. Every time you are at the breaking point they do something new and cute.
Until puberty hits. Then god has mercy on one's soul.
This is up there with the love with the first sight
Also this opinion is not unpopular among anyone who lived enough of life lol