Is that comeback considered "good"? Why? It doesn't even make any sense.
this post was submitted on 07 Jun 2025
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Him asking her to name 5 songs is nasty, it shows he's a bully whose looking to embarrass her. That indicates women are less likely to trust him
Because it's an asshole thing to say. Any comeback will be good.
Agree. I'm thinking "why do you even care whether I'm a big fan or not?", or "I don't need to prove anything to you", would work better
That still leaves you as the subject. The meme response puts the focus on the asshole.
I wouldn't engage with someone who did that. Win!
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"I have not made any attempt to memorize song names"
"I don't want to share names of family and friends"
If I was asked to give names, I would strongly consider listing names from Mambo No. 5. While humming the tune to remember the names.
Bold of you to assume I associate with 5 people!
On impulse my subconscious cognitive stack attempted to run this check on myself before I even finished reading it and it was kind of a pleasant surprise to find myself spoiled for choice o_o
(if i had to narrow it down just five: 1. my best friend who i met through a niche fandom in 2012, 2. the friend i've had the longest since we were in middle school in the late '90s, 3. my partner, 4. the person who owns the discord server i consider my home, and 5. someone i used to date but we've kinda been DM penpals for years because of overlapping interests and i looove the fiction she writes online ^^)
glad i'm not the kind of dipshit who would try to gatekeep someone for their interests, although i fear i might run afoul of it by accident because i'll see someone wearing a Dream Theater shirt and be SO excited that they're into a band I used to be crazy about back in the day that I blurt out dumb superlative questions in a hamfisted attempt to socialize x_x;
OH WOW WHATS YOUR FAVORITE SONG gosh i havent listened to them in way too long i used to listen to six degrees of inner turbulence on like a daily basis and they'll mistake my eagerness for aggression ;~;
i fucking hate being amab...
There's a huge difference between "name five" and "what's your favourite" in my opinion. And if they can't name even one (I pinch band tees off my girlfriends to wear all the time) then you can use that as an excuse to be like "you should really check them out, can I show you my fav?" then pull out your phone and play it for them! :)
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I find niche interest infodumps cute, not agressive. Regardless of whether I have any interest in the niche or not.
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Woah woah woah friend, it’s okay.
I’m preeeetty sure most reasonable people will catch on to the eagerness in your tone, and going over-niche infodump is a world of difference from a short, accusatory line.
Awkward sincerity isn’t a sin.
They are the one wearing a band T-shirt, advertising that they are fan. They opened themselves up to a conversation about it, and bringing up the person's relationship experience is 100% irrelevant.
Asking someone to name 5 women who trust them, and then challenging those choices as wrong, when the subject and the people they are naming are totally unknown, isn't winning the argument.
This is why women get accused of being unfair debaters.
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I could name 5x that. I don't wear band shirts nor that level of pettyness and distrust tho