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[–] Draegur@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

On impulse my subconscious cognitive stack attempted to run this check on myself before I even finished reading it and it was kind of a pleasant surprise to find myself spoiled for choice o_o

(if i had to narrow it down just five: 1. my best friend who i met through a niche fandom in 2012, 2. the friend i've had the longest since we were in middle school in the late '90s, 3. my partner, 4. the person who owns the discord server i consider my home, and 5. someone i used to date but we've kinda been DM penpals for years because of overlapping interests and i looove the fiction she writes online ^^)

glad i'm not the kind of dipshit who would try to gatekeep someone for their interests, although i fear i might run afoul of it by accident because i'll see someone wearing a Dream Theater shirt and be SO excited that they're into a band I used to be crazy about back in the day that I blurt out dumb superlative questions in a hamfisted attempt to socialize x_x;

OH WOW WHATS YOUR FAVORITE SONG gosh i havent listened to them in way too long i used to listen to six degrees of inner turbulence on like a daily basis and they'll mistake my eagerness for aggression ;~;

i fucking hate being amab...

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There's a huge difference between "name five" and "what's your favourite" in my opinion. And if they can't name even one (I pinch band tees off my girlfriends to wear all the time) then you can use that as an excuse to be like "you should really check them out, can I show you my fav?" then pull out your phone and play it for them! :)

Yeah, there's a chasm between them.

  • "Name five" -> "I bet you can't"
  • "What's your favorite?" -> "I sincerely want to know"
[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

Woah woah woah friend, it’s okay.

I’m preeeetty sure most reasonable people will catch on to the eagerness in your tone, and going over-niche infodump is a world of difference from a short, accusatory line.

Awkward sincerity isn’t a sin.

[–] IndieSpren@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

I find niche interest infodumps cute, not aggressive. Regardless of whether I have any interest in the niche or not.

[–] Draegur@lemmy.zip 3 points 21 hours ago

Oh absolutely 💜 if they're passionate about a subject I can listen to someone talk about practically Anything! Enthusiasm is infectious in the best possible ways... I wish I had more opportunities to encourage people to let loose about the stuff they love.