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Ok, Lemmy, let's another play a game!

And I honestly think this one’s more important.

Post how many languages in which you can say Please and Thank You, including your native language. If you can, please provide which languages and how to phonetically say them so the rest of us can learn!

I spent a fair amount of bopping around Europe in the early Aughts and as a native English speaker, I found everyone appreciating my bad mangled attempts at politeness.

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[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

I can only speak three but I really used to try to learn some others but suck at it. I praise people who can learn grammatically challenging languages

[–] showmeyourkizinti@startrek.website 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I’ve found that most people really appreciate even just the attempt at their own language. The fact that you’re trying goes a long way with most people.

Excepting Americans and sometimes the French. /s

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I fully agree! Paraphrasing the Nelson Mandela quote that got me into college and grad school “if you speak to a man in a language he understands it goes to his head, but if you speak to a man in his language it goes to his heart.”

Idk I feel my partners English is received well by Americans but yes French and Parisians are something else

I actually really like most Parisians the only people in France I found to be rude were those who worked in the tourist areas like the Riviera. But honestly I can’t blame them tourists can be so annoying

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Only English. The words are entirely different in the other languages I know.

You know don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Just trying fucking it up is still heaps better then not even trying.

[–] stelelor@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

In the order I learned them:

  • 🇷🇴 Romanian: Vă rog / Mulțumesc (native)

  • 🇨🇵 French: S'il-vous-plaît / Merci

  • 🇬🇧 English: Please / Thank you

  • 🇪🇦 Spanish: Por favor / Gracias

  • 🇯🇵 Japanese: Onegai / Arigato

  • 🇨🇳 Mandarin: Qing / Xiè xie

  • 🇮🇹 Italian: Per favore / Grazie

  • 🇩🇪 German: Bitte / Danke

  • 🇷🇺 Russian: Pozhalusta / Spasiba

Thanks I knew spasiba but Pozhalusta I just learned.

[–] Texas_Hangover@sh.itjust.works 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Ah yes the Texas thank you 😝

[–] RandomVideos@programming.dev 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Please and thank you

Te rog si multumesc

Bitte und danke

I dont know how to explain how to say a word to someone if they dont speak romanian

Thanks Romanian sounds quite challenging

[–] josteinsn@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Define language… Norwegian, Swedish, Danish, English, French, German, BHS (Bosnian Croatian, Serbian), Esperanto, Czech, Russian, Dutch, Italian, Portuguese, Spanish… i think that’s it.

But what about cobol and C++? /s

[–] stoy@lemmy.zip 3 points 18 hours ago

Swedish, German, English, Spanish,

[–] SeekPie@lemm.ee 3 points 19 hours ago

Estonian: Palun / Aitäh

English: Please / Thank you

[–] randombullet@programming.dev 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Mostly thanks because that's the only word I learned when I'm visiting.

obrigado, obrigada - Portuguese Bitte/Danke - Deutsch dack - Dutch Gratzi - Italian Por favor/Gracias - Spanish Takk - norge Merci - French 不好意思。/ 謝謝 - Chinese ありがとう - Japanese Oi cunt / thank ye cunt

[–] lucg@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

dack - Dutch

Dutch is alsjeblieft (informal), alstublieft (formal), thanks (informal), dankjewel (informal), or dankuwel (formal). The former probably means "as you desired" in old Dutch, the latter "thank you well", and the formal/informal variants simply insert the right word for "you" (je or u). And then there's thanks being commonly used. Or also bedankt, sounds kinda formal to me as well, not sure when you'd use that instead of dankuwel

Just "dank" (maybe you wrote that and autocorrupt kicked in?) is not really a thing we say, it just means "thank" which you'd also not say by itself in English (unless you're Rocky)

Edit: writing "dank" in an English sentence feels like everyone will think our thank-yous are like dank memes. The pronunciation of the "a" there is as in Clark; the English pronunciation of dank would map to denk in Dutch and means think!

[–] jwr1@kbin.earth 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Do programming languages count? :)

Here's Go:

package main

import "fmt"

func main() {
    fmt.Println("Please and Thank You")
}
[–] jwr1@kbin.earth 1 points 12 hours ago

Why is it that this got the most upvotes, compared to the more genuine comments in this thread? :)

[–] showmeyourkizinti@startrek.website 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But how do you do it in Rust?

[–] jwr1@kbin.earth 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Here's Rust:

fn main() {
    println!("Please and Thank You");
}
[–] Thaurin@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Here it is in Commodore 64 BASIC:

10 PRINT “PLEASE AND THANK YOU.”
20 GOTO 10
[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Languages I'm fluent:

  • Spanish (Por favor, Gracias)
  • Portuguese (Por favor, Obrigado/a)
  • English (Please, Thank you)

Languages I can mostly understand but I'm a disaster speaking:

  • Italian (Per favore, Grazie)
  • Catalan (Si us plau, Merci (Technically Gracies, but most people use Merci))

Languages I can speak small child like phrases and express some simple things (although I'm very rusty in both of them):

  • Russian (пожалуйста (Pajalsta), спасибо (Spaciba))
  • German (Bitte, Danke)

Languages I can say "I'm sorry, I don't speak X, do you speak English?" (Which I think is more important than just please and thank you)

  • French (Si vous plat, Merci)
  • Dutch ( [don't know this one], dank je)
  • Finnish ( * , Kiitos)

Languages I can say Please and thank you (because I've seen enough TV in this language):

  • Japanese (Onegai, Arigato)

* There's no word for please in Finnish, which you'd think makes the language sound harsh, but I think it's the other way around, it makes everyone be polite by default, when going into a coffee shop and saying "one coffee" is the equivalent to "hello, can I please have one coffee, thanks" it's hard to be rude.

[–] NightFantom@slrpnk.net 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Can you expand on the Finnish? Is it engrained in the language somehow?

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

I don't really speak Finnish, so probably someone can expand better, but AFAIK they don't have a word for Please. When I was in Finland I went to a coffee place with a friend, and noticed he said "yksi kahvi" which literally means one coffee, when he got his coffee he said "Kiitos" (thanks), I noticed no one used any recurring word that could mean Please, so I asked my friend and he said something like "They're all being polite, we just don't have a word for please, one could say something like: I would like a coffee, Thanks. But that's just overcomplicated"

[–] umbraroze@slrpnk.net 2 points 11 hours ago

Native here. I think this is pretty accurate. Politeness is usually tied to other phrasings or modes of speaking, and as an ESL speaker I just think "please" is just a word that gets sprinkled in. In everyday conversations like buying something, it's kinda more polite to get the thing over with as fast as possible. If you just want a coffee, you don't need more than "hey" and "thanks" to be nice, right?

That said, it's definitely not impossible to be explicitly polite: "Ole hyvä"/"Olkaa hyvä" ("[You] (2p. sg./pl.) be kind") is basically "please" as in "could you do..." or "here you go, have this" or "go ahead and do that" depending on context. "Ole kiltti" ("[You] (2p.sg.) be nice") is "please" as in "would you be especially kind to do..." But as you can see, these are basically direct orders, it's "be kind", not "please be kind".

[–] NightFantom@slrpnk.net 2 points 16 hours ago

So like impolite would be "give me a coffee", polite is "would you give me a coffee?" instead of "coffee please". Makes sense, thanks!

[–] bufalo1973@lemm.ee 1 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (1 children)

Gracies -> Mallorca

Mercés -> Cataluña

Mercí -> ¿cerca de la frontera con Francia?

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

The place I hear Merci daily is Barcelona

[–] bufalo1973@lemm.ee 1 points 17 hours ago

🤷‍♂️

[–] DeuxChevaux@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Bissäguet, Merci (Swiss German)
Bitte, Danke (German)
Please, thank you (English)
S'il vous plait, merci (French)
Par favore, grazie (Italian)
Bonvolu, dankon (Esperanto)
Onegaishimasu, Arigatougozaimasu (Japanese)

[–] Mr_Fish@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Two languages. English and Maori.

Thank you in Maori is "kia ora" (key-ah or-ah, but mostly said more like k-your-ah). Literally translates to "be well", kia meaning be, ora meaning life/wellness.

Please in Maori is a bit less clear. There is the word "koa" (I don't know how to phonetically write it, but all the letters are pronounced the same as above), but that's a concept that came with pakeha (European settlers). Before that, it was more about the tone of the request.

Edit: actually I do know more, but English and Maori are the two main languages I know any of.

[–] redbr64@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

In order of fluency (for languages spoken, although German was only studied and any fluency has rusted out):

Portuguese: Por Favor/Obrigado

English: Please/Thank you

Spanish: Por Favor/Gracias

Farsi: Lotfan/Merci (plus many more elaborate ways of thanking)

German: Bitte/Danke

For languages I don't speak at all, but only know because of friends who are native speakers:

French: s'il vous plait/merci

Romanian: Va rog/multumesc

Italian: Per favore/Grazie

[–] showmeyourkizinti@startrek.website 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh I like the Romanian please. That sound fun to say.

[–] redbr64@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, Romanian is so weird to me as a native Portuguese speaker - there are so many cognates. I am good friends with a Romanian family and when they talk all sorts of words are completely understandable coming from Portuguese....

[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

For me: English, Irish, french, German, Indonesian, Malaysian (same as Indonesian), japanese I've thank you in Turkish, Thai,

For Irish Please is: le do thoil (é). Translates as; by your will (it). Pronounce : le duh hull ay.

For thank you: Go raibh (míle) maith agat. Translates as may (a thousand) good things be/fall upon you. Pronounce : guh rev mee-la moh a-gut

For pronunciation, I'm using Munster dialect. It can be quite different for other dialects.

Other languages seem to be covered by others, so I thought I'd add the Irish in more detail.

[–] owatnext@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

"Please" and "thank you". English.

(Pleez ahnd thank yehw)

"Oes gwelwch chi'n dda" ac "diolch". Welsh/Cymraeg.

(Oys gwel ook kheen thza ak deeolkh)

"Por favor" y "gracías". Spanish/español.

(Pour fah vour ee gras ee AHS)

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Real languages only, please!

/s

[–] adarza@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

thought i missed the klingon..

went back..

ohhhhhhhhh..

Welsh is amazing I never knew them but I love how “Welshman” they sound.

[–] jimmux@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Interesting, I seem to know "thank you" in a few languages, but not "please". I wonder what that indicates...

Spanish: por favor, gracias

French: sil vous plait, merci

Indonesian: ?, terima kasih

Mandarin: ?, xie xie

Japanese: ?, arigato

German: ?, danke

Italian: ?, grazie

Aussie: oi, cheers/ta (/s)

Ah yes the classic Aussie Thank you - Ta, ya cunt!

[–] Onionguy@lemm.ee 5 points 1 day ago

German Bitte, Danke

English U KNOW

French S'il vous plâit, merci

Spanish Por favor, graçias

Italian Per favore, grazie

Czech Prossim, djekuju

...6 ig :D

[–] JohnnyCanuck@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

So, this is an odd one because I travel a lot and try to learn basic words in local languages, usually hello, please, thank you, sorry/excuse me, and numbers are my basic go to. For some reason, in a number of languages "please" isn't something you get by default. I've found this particularly in southeast Asia.

I can say please and thank you (and generally converse and read) in French and Spanish. In Spanish I find myself using "por favor" a lot. "You're welcome" takes different forms in Spanish depending where your are, and what's polite in one place can be confusing or even rude in another.

I can say hello, please, and thank you in German, Italian, and Greek. I mostly said hello and thank you in Greece and Italy, rarely please. I've never actually used German in situ, I just know it from pop culture I think.

I can say hello and thank you (and various other things) in Japanese, Chinese (Mandarin), Malay, Thai, Lao, Khmer, and Vietnamese. I might need to think hard for a minute or get a quick refresher so that I don't mix some of them up sometimes, especially when I'm moving from one country to the next... I don't think I ever learned please specifically in any of these, though I think it's kind of built into the other things you say in a lot of them (especially Thai).

So, please and thank you, 6 for sure. But if the goal is to talk about language basics for getting around as a visitor, I would say 13 :)

[–] Semjaza@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 1 day ago

Please & cheers.

S'il vois plait & merci (beaucoup)

Terog & multzumesc/multzumeme (singular vs. plural thank you)

Bitter & danke

-- & spaseba

-- & tak

Qîng & xìexìe

-- & diàhdiah

Had more, but forgot them. Have forgotten at the Turkish and a Miao language phrases.

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