As long as you accept responsibility for your actions, sure.
edit: lmao at the downvote, if you don't accept responsibility for your actions, you are a grade A asshole. Be better than that.
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What does "accept" mean here? I agree it's vital to look at oneself with clarity and acceptance, but one shouldn't ignore the effect one's "failings" have on other people. Accepting oneself shouldn't mean stopping on trying to improve oneself.
I don't think this is that unpopular. But it's probably better to be radically honest with yourself. Notice and accept your flaws, yes, but also notice and accept your value and strengths. And if some of your flaws are reasonable to put some work into then you may wish to choose to do that. For example - I'm trying to be more kind this month.
I see it as unpopular in the sense that each of us individually struggles with our own acceptance from our own interpretation of social relations. It only takes one unpopular opinion in this case for it to be true. In this way, our flaws often become the most dominant parts of who we are in a social domain, the things that we fixate on more than anything else.
I completely agree about being radically honest with yourself. But even further, we should even question why we see certain traits as flaws and others as strengths. Not to entirely devalue their categorization, but to recognize why those traits, good and bad, and their social implications are important.
Can I do it tubularly?
The older I got, the more I understood one thing: you have to have a very good amount of Not-Giving-A-Fuck. It's essentially a superpower, as then you stop thinking about "failings". You just do things you want to do. While everybody else is nervous and uncertain, you are completely uncertain and completely unshakable. Cause truth is, we don't know anything about future. Each of us may die at any moment. So, you know, come watch TV? Relax and enjoy the ride.
What makes it radical?
That is up for personal interpretation
How do you interpret it?
No. I can go fuck myself.
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The most interesting people and characters have flaws, they fail spectacularly, over and over. Some of the best comedy comes from trauma, too. Plus, when you accept yourself with all your bullshit, no one can use it against you.
Edit: It's weird how many people equate accepting flaws with making excuses.