On this day, 4 years ago the site was first launched (then a day later the first post made), Formed from chapotraphouse remnants, the old admins decided to make a site using Lemmy as its base. Originally called chapo.chat, Hexbear has grown into one of the biggest instances in the lemmyverse.

Despite various sitewide struggle sessions, wrecker incursions from other forums and federation drama, Hexbear has keep growing strong in its 4th year, now with 4 megathreads, over 4 million comments, 300k posts and much more.

Its being great running the general megathread for a bit over 3 years, since i took over i have tried to get it mostly in time and just one unlike during the old times, i like to think i have done a decent job, plus i have also added a bit of reading material to them so you nerds can learn from them and i like to think you have been reading them garcia-cock-shotty , its also nice to see the new megathreads how they have slowing grown up to the size to the old general mega in the time of the old admins.

dont have much else to say so have a good day nerd. also

Whats has been your favorite post/event from last year (july 2023-july 2024)?

I wont lie, all the fedidrama has been fun to read, especially when libs wander here

Megathreads and spaces to hang out:

📀 Come listen to music and Watch movies with your fellow Hexbears nerd, in Cy.tube
🔥 Read and talk about a current topics in the News Megathread
⚔ Come talk in the New Weekly PoC thread
✨ Talk with fellow Trans comrades in the New Weekly Trans thread

reminders:

💚 You nerds can join specific comms to see posts about all sorts of topics
💙 Hexbear’s algorithm prioritizes comments over upbears
💜 Sorting by new you nerd
🌈 If you ever want to make your own megathread, you can reserve a spot here nerd
🐶 Join the unofficial Hexbear-adjacent Mastodon instance toots.matapacos.dog

Links To Resources (Aid and Theory):

Aid:

Theory:

❤️Foundations of Leninism
❤️Anarchism and Other Essays

Also 24 hours after this is posted the admins are closing the site for a day, sorry

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[–] HelltakerHomosexual@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

the emigration of the transgenders has been devastating for the usual megathreads, luckily tourism from the trans megathreaders have allowed a recovery of comment income

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[–] thelastaxolotl@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

Very funny how this comm has have more active daily users than the site as a whole

[–] miz@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

happy M-26-7 day to everyone

fidel-salute

[–] WhatDoYouMeanPodcast@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I believe in myself and I trust myself. I feel secure in my ability to get through tough times, listen, and make changes when I need to. I am smart and adaptable. I care for others and for myself. The things I like and the things I do are worthwhile.

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[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Some people might think it's petty and cringe for me to laugh at the Yankees losing three times to the Mets while not mentioning the deeply embarrassing loss the Red Sox had to the Rockies, but keep in mind that the Yankees are literally Adolph Hitler

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[–] LeylaLove@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

The boy on pokemon showdown has been a pleasant surprise. We just vibe and play pokemon together sometimes, it's really nice.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

just woke up. had this dream where i was at a dispensary in oregon trying to buy weed and this guy did NOT buy my ID. He grilled me over it for like 20 goddamn minutes before eventually saying "nah, it's not real" and now I'm pissed off

[–] Creamsicle@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I wrote a song!

🎶 The hip bone is connected to the whale bone 🎶
And the whale bone is connected to the—whale bone
And the whale bone is connected to the—other bone
And that’s all the parts of a whale!

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[–] vertexarray@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

Busteing a Nutte

[–] Grownbravy@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago

Year 5 we’re bringing back the Megamega thread.

[–] SexMachineStalin@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I remember seeing an emoji roundup post like 3 years ago. Would love to see just how much PIGPOOPBALLS we had posted

Death to AmeriKKKa

[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

Red Sox beat the Yankees quokka-smile

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

Every time I remember that the 1981 ultraclassic Joysticks actually exists, it gives me moderate to severe psychic damage in a way that "meatspace" or Michelle Tea do not.

[–] miz@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

recently on chapo they mentioned something about the conservatives being idiots with something about Kamala and throat goat. what the fuck is the deal with the allusions to Kamala and oral sex? is it related to this Hawk Tua thing?

I tried to search for anti-Kamala stuff with "Kamala sucks" and that was a mistake

[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 10 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Conservatives are claiming she slept her way to the top, which got turned into memes about her giving blowjobs. I'm not sure what that rumor is based on other than pure sexism.

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[–] sewer_rat_420@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (3 children)

Anyone with experience with Lexapro and SSRIs specifically long term and apathy?

CW medical gaslighting, depression

spoiler

I started Lexapro about 5 years ago. I wanted to, I was a bit unsure but my psych ensured it would help me and it did for a time. It took the edge off my depression, and lessened the suicidal ideations I was having.

What I didn't know at the time was that I have ADHD which wasn't being treated, and which was the root cause of a lot of my problems at that time. Actually, my psychiatrist doubted I had ADHD for a year until I basically got the diagnosis myself. Now I take Concerta which helps a lot and anyone who has or thinks you have ADHD consider trying a stimulant for it if you can.

Over time, I have had sometimes debilitating loss of motivation. This has made finishing my PhD quite difficult. It has also affected a lot else in my life.

Relationship problems have also arisen that are quite related to what I now know is common in SSRIs known as "emotional blunting". More or less, it has been very hard to be emotionally available to my partner and is something I have had to work on very hard despite no major problems in our relationships.

I had no idea until just yesterday these two things can be related and caused by long term use of SSRIs. I have had the idea of getting off Lexapro for a while, mostly based on vibes and the fact that I actually treat my ADHD now (and know I have it)

Any time I bring up motivation issues to my shrink, he usually blames it on cannabis and says to really pay attention to how cannabis affects my motivation. I am a daily user, and have agonized quite a lot over how I might be sabotaging my entire life. I don't necessarily want to stop using it though, and I don't usually use it during working hours. Also, it has almost entirely replaced alcohol for me, and it is essential to treat my partner's chronic pain.

After already having him doubt my ADHD (despite me describing ADHD symptoms to him for years) he never considered doing something to help me outside of increasing SSRI dose. Now I have found out there is actual research about SSRI apathy and emotional blunting that are really similar to things I experience and this motherfucker never bothered to bring it up. I don't want to get into to many details but I really hate my shrink sometimes, I usually leave there angry and it's also far away since I moved across town. I just haven't found a new one yet and need to go every month to get my meds (especially concerta as it's a controlled substance)

I'm already going to ask him about dropping my dose of Lexapro. I take 15 mg right now, 10 mg is usually the "starter dose" so it shouldn't be a big issue to just drop it down a bit and see if it helps. Are there any online spaces or communities where people have shared similar experiences? Or anyone else here experienced these symptoms and stopped taking an SSRI?

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[–] DengistDonnieDarko@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

"ijbol" makes me so unreasonably angry every time I see it. worst acronym to pop up on the internet in a very long time. it sucks so much.

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[–] Yor@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

the new porter robinson album is so good susie-dance

stayed up till midnight to listen and now listening again :>

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Neuro-linguist Programming is such a goofy theory. It's like the woo people just threw a bunch of sciency words together to make it look smart. If it was made today, it'll be called non fungible language model therapy, or something.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (7 children)

absolutely terrible idea that won't leave my head: watch every episode of mr. birchum and them do a write up of every last thought i have about each episode and post it to !effort@hexbear.net

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[–] Kestrel@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

Libs in my circle getting more and more maybe-later-honey maybe-later-kiddo to me the closer we get to the election

I can't wait for them to get back to brunch

[–] Philosophosphorous@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (2 children)

armor plate mechanics have gone from ruining COD's multiplayer to ruining its campaign as well. like i was expecting to hate the game's campaign because of political brainworms and the stupidest writing ever wrought by humans, not because i'm constantly getting cockblocked by 'heavy armor' enemies that completely interrupt the gameplay flow. like every single other enemy goes down in 2-3 shots but suddenly a guy that looks exactly the same as the other enemies (they all wear black tactical gear so at a distance they are all a black silhouette) takes 3 magazines of full auto headshots to put down. completely destroys any sense of flow or smooth movement through the environment and combat, you have to like dance around the heavy guy or play the peakaboo game with a piece of cover and reload between magdumps. literally the most annoying gameplay i have ever experienced, like its intentionally obnoxious. even aside from the realism aspect it just completely fucks the flow of the game, like even the halo games shield systems play better than this and i fucking hate halo.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

The juggernaut LMG guy from original MW2 has really risen thru the ranks!

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[–] Black_Mald_Futures@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago (4 children)

I think i could win a cooking competition but i don't want to have to do some bullshit like every competition i've ever seen has some fucked up game show bullshit added on and i don't want none of that. I just wanna cook the same dish as another person and be told how much better mine is

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[–] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

Phrase I'm really enjoying putting between my loud mouthed blythe theses and examples to show that I'm right is 'history has shown this to be a demonstrated fact'. Feels nice.

[–] GVAGUY3@hexbear.net 9 points 9 months ago

TikTok algorithm is better today. Getting more pushback against the vote scolds

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