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They haven't. They have grown up in the same country as I, they just moved about 10 years ago.
People forget where they came from, after a while.
Most do. But it's hard to blame them considering how painful such memories can be. It takes enormous strength remembering your roots. Most people never develop that strength.
"Blinded" may be a little strong, but they've forgotten what it's like to live with significantly less. It happens - I'm sure people who went to school and then found a decent job and improved their situation, ten years on, probably have different financial reflexes than they did just a few years prior.
I think an honest and direct conversation is warranted. Explain it just as you have here, and tell them that you love to come visit them but simply don't have the means to do the same activities and dine at the same places as they're used to. Maybe offer to cook for them in their own home - who wouldn't love a home cooked meal from their home country? A 20x income disparity is significant, and unfortunately for you the decision may be that you have to visit less frequently if you need to save up for activities.
I'm in relationships with people that have much more and people that have much less financially, and I work to be mindful of it. If I'm going somewhere to eat with someone who isn't as financially stable I insist on paying, and likewise I fight a little (but not too much) when someone insists on paying for me.