lots of online games are just outright badly designed, like having loads of abilities that literally just freeze you in place so you don't get to play for a few seconds.

i was into overwatch when it was still an actual game and not a storefront, and my god there was sooooo much stuff that was obviously not acceptable for a game of that size and budget. I think the most egregious was roadhog's hook that just didn't care about time and physics, you could be grabbed behind walls and whatnot and of course that resulted in instant death too, because WHY NOT!

then you compare this to something like deep rock galactic, where it's cooperative and "balance" is the player deciding how much of a challenge they want, and the devs specifically added a feature that lets you shout "rock and stone!" to build camraderie. You play that game and it's just.. fun? it's just fun, it's almost never frustrating at all, even if you get your ass kicked you just fucking try again and maybe lower the difficulty because you're not quite good enough to take on that size of horde yet.

And stun abilities? you can have tons of them, because the enemies are NPCs and thus don't care, and the enemies only have a select few stun abilities that can either be actively broken out of or teammates can help you out of them, plus you're given so much warning that getting stunned is very clearly your own fault.