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The saddest/funniest thing to me about this whole bit is how every. single. US. person defending their right to righteously beat the shit out of someone for picking their pocket never, ever, even considers the idea that they might lose.
It's just like gun owners in general. They all think they're a perfect shot and the other guy must be like a Storm Trooper in Star Wars and can't hit the broad side of a barn.
Everyone thinks they're the hero and that they don't need cops and laws until they're the one bleeding out in an alleyway on the verge of death because they were stupid enough to "fight back."
US Americans are completely fucking unhinged and live in a fantasy land where somehow every single one of them is the biggest and strongest with the biggest dick and will always win because their cause is righteous. What a crock of shit.
Willingness to stand up for oneself is not necessarily the same as one overestimating their ability to fight.
I was bullied regularly as a kid. I was no match at all for most of the bullies, they easily had strength, size, numbers, and fighting experience over me, but since the schools wouldn't or couldn't do a damn thing to protect me, especially when the bullies followed me well away from school grounds, the only choices I had were to either endure it, or to try to change the situation by standing up for myself. Even if I got my ass beat even worse just for standing up for myself, at the very least it made it clear to them that I was no longer guaranteed to be a frictionless target and that sometimes changes things for the better.
It's not about winning. It's about putting up the fight, because the potential outcomes of not fighting back aren't always much better than standing up for oneself.
That said, I personally wouldn't want to put a foreign trip in jeopardy by assaulting anyone if it wasn't an actual self defense situation, much like back at home. I'm just responding to this idea that willingness to fight is not the same thing as being overly confident that one will come out on top.
And a lot of times it changes it for the worse, too. What even is this argument?
I don't think you understand what it's like to be constantly bullied and constantly on guard. At some point there is no concept of "worse". At some point there is only the sense of "literally anything in the world except this."
And I think you'd be shocked to find out how wrong you are. You're describing my high school years. Guess what? Fighting back made it worse.
I'm genuinely sorry to hear that and I'm glad you made it out of there. But I stand by my point.
As do I. Sometimes the bullies genuinely have the upper hand. Like the Nazis versus the people in their concentration camps. Fighting back just lead to more violent retribution against those who were already being mistreated. You can't magic your way into suddenly winning a losing battle. It's absurdity after absurdity in here.
This is what I meant when I said there's no "worse", just "different". In a concentration or extermination camp I think it's insane to blame any of the victims for what their captors do.
I'm not assigning blame here, I'm just talking about the cold, hard reality of what actually happened.
It can also be a tie. Like you two right here, both presented fair arguments... Anyway, I think you took the "hypothetical situation" to another case. I was seeing an angry mob physically punishing 1 person (rightfully or not) accused of pickpocketing. So, the "winning" side was kind of guaranteed because it would be many against 1. And, in my case, I didn't see any weapons. At least, those were the 'real life' situations I saw in the news on my home country a few times... it always saddened me. Hence, my opinions here in this thread. Sure, I didn't consider that in the US 11 out of 10 people carry bazookas.
I think it's actually a symptom of a small penis. Huge truck, big gun, itty bitty peepee.