doi: 10.1037//0021-843x.105.3.440
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I feel like bisexuality is way more common than what we see. And if anything, I feel like the reason why so many women are more likely bi or willing to experiment vs men is literally just the bullshit stigma against being seen as gay.
And this may just be my experience, but being bisexual isn't as easy as just choosing one or the other. The problem is that if you repress that much of your sexuality it only grows more... Intense. And sometimes more depraved, which is never a good thing. And I feel like that's why a lot of those men end up getting caught doing "gay" things but it's never just normal stuff. It's always super crazy shit they get caught doing because it's been repressed for so long that they make awful impulse decisions on feelings they've been ignoring for years. Like holding in your anger for 30 years and then going absolutely fucking mental when your coworker takes your parking spot.
I know in my case I was open to relationships with women but dating men was so much easier it just never happened. On the outside it seems I'm hetero because that's all anyone would see.
That's kinda the situation I'm in too. Dating women has always been easier for me so according to everyone that knows me I'm hetero even though I've told them that I'm bi. They just can't see it.
I think a lot of these men are bisexual but heteroromantic, thus why suppressing their sexual desires are easier.
The amount of "straight but curious" guys I've found out in the world is a little too high for that to be the case.
It's just them not accepting their sexuality fully. Like you can be bi and married to the opposite gender and be just fine.
I think it's the denial that causes the issues
And that's how I used to be back in the day and that shit destroys your mental health. And when you do "slip" it's always worse and more exaggerated because of the repressed feelings. I would think that there was something wrong with me and I hated that part of me. I wished that I was completely straight and would internally shame myself whenever I had "gay thoughts" because I thought it made me less of a man. But at the end of the day, nobody cares about how manly you are except for people that want to feel like they are better than you or people that want something from you.
Just go on Grindr and you’ll be proven right. I’m in a tiny blue collar town. One that does burnouts on the rainbow crosswalk. 3/4 of everyone on Grindr are “DL bicurious guy” or “straight but like dicks”.