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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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I can be bi and not like women/non-binary 💕💜💙 (lemmings.world)

submitted 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) by CatDemons4@lemmings.world to c/bisexual@lemmy.world

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I’m a bisexual 19-year-old woman. I never dated a woman before. I came close to dating a girl who matched my type (literally my type but female) at 16 but I won’t talk about why.

I can’t even name a woman I’ve ever been attracted to nor a woman I’d date, I just wanted to try it in high school.

I don’t even have feelings for non-binary people. They’re alright, but I would probably never go out with them. I know for certain that I like men.

Men are hot. They give me a spark, they make me feel that special way, and not only could I see myself dating/having sex with a man, but I would also enjoy it. (Because I know some asexual people, for example, can imagine having sex but would not enjoy it due to having little to no sexual attraction.)

Women are stunning. I’ve never really had a crush, and while I can imagine myself dating one, I can’t imagine myself having sex with one at ALL.

But I guess I sort of like it when a woman compliments me and treats me like I’m the best, and I really just want a woman who has common interests with me. (One who likes makeup, TikTok, men, etc.)

I’m not homophobic or anything, but I would not date a lesbian simply because they don’t like men and I can’t relate. But that doesn’t mean I think of women as just friends. It just means that I may prefer men to women romantically and sexually for sure.

(I realize biromantic straight women also exist, or maybe bicurious straight women, I dunno.)

(When I say I’m bi, this is a good representation of what I mean)

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 12 hours ago

Oh of course, I didn't think you were advocating for conversion therapy 😅 It's just where my mind happens to go when I think about fluctuating sexuality - just thinking through what does it mean to have a belief that sexual orientation is fixed while recognizing all the variety and fluctuations in my actual sexual experiences and desires, esp. one where I went from being only incidentally attracted to men to becoming almost as capable of feeling those desires as for women. One way to look at that might be to think I went from being mostly gay to being bi, for example.

But yeah, even past that there is a lot to think about the way sexual desire works beyond gender, like you mention. It's honestly more than I could even begin to speculate about.