Bisexual

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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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I affirm trans people’s existence. As someone who lacks empathy, I honestly don’t care about trans rights, nor the suffering they faced, but I know it’s bad and that they’re people too. I don’t see a reason to discriminate, so I don’t.

I don’t deadname. I use the correct pronouns. I’m just only romantically, sexually attracted to, and would only go out with cis men.

I wouldn’t date a trans man with lady parts because of his lady parts. I like man parts. I wouldn’t date a trans man with surgery because he’s female-bodied (I’m simply not attracted to trans men).

I wouldn’t date a trans woman because she’s a woman, though I might like her man parts if she still has them.

I wouldn’t date a cis woman because I’m not attracted to cis women, nor would I have sex or date either of the identified people.

I like masculine parts with a male body. If I meet the right one, I may be bicurious and date women (cis). I like the attention, compliments, and closeness of a woman, so I say I’m bi, but I only really see men as dating material.

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My apologies for posting again. I’m actually just curious.

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I’m a bisexual 19-year-old woman. I never dated a woman before. I came close to dating a girl who matched my type (literally my type but female) at 16 but I won’t talk about why.

I can’t even name a woman I’ve ever been attracted to nor a woman I’d date, I just wanted to try it in high school.

I don’t even have feelings for non-binary people. They’re alright, but I would probably never go out with them. I know for certain that I like men.

Men are hot. They give me a spark, they make me feel that special way, and not only could I see myself dating/having sex with a man, but I would also enjoy it. (Because I know some asexual people, for example, can imagine having sex but would not enjoy it due to having little to no sexual attraction.)

Women are stunning. I’ve never really had a crush, and while I can imagine myself dating one, I can’t imagine myself having sex with one at ALL.

But I guess I sort of like it when a woman compliments me and treats me like I’m the best, and I really just want a woman who has common interests with me. (One who likes makeup, TikTok, men, etc.)

I’m not homophobic or anything, but I would not date a lesbian simply because they don’t like men and I can’t relate. But that doesn’t mean I think of women as just friends. It just means that I may prefer men to women romantically and sexually for sure.

(I realize biromantic straight women also exist, or maybe bicurious straight women, I dunno.)

(When I say I’m bi, this is a good representation of what I mean)

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To add more lightheartedness to this community, I’m so excited for my friend Karl to not be sick so I can see him.

(I may not know if he likes me or not, and he may act a little strange, but I know he likes me as a friend and that’s great!)

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Not my favourite Moonchild Sanelly track (Gwara Gwara), but it's fun and just I love the revelling in bi-ness here.

Edit: also riffing on her older and more fun (and sexual) track Boys and Girls.

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submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/bisexual@lemmy.world
 
 

I’m 18nb but amab, guy I like (Karl) is 18M and quite religious.

He seems to be fine with LGBT and makes a lot of gay jokes (he flirts with all his friends except me, save the one time he said I was cute) but also has a religious family + culture and internalized homophobia.

He calls the guys his boyfriend/hubby and the girls his girlfriend/wifey as a joke. He also calls them hot or smacks their butt/holds their hand (consensually) but seems shyer/less willing around me.

I know he’s not straight because he went out with a guy, so I at least have some sort of chance with him.

Anyway, regardless of whether or not he actually likes me, he was very reluctant to admit it to his now ex-boyfriend, and with religious parents and internalized homophobia, I’m not sure how to follow through if I do confess.

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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/bisexual@lemmy.world
 
 

Marilyn Monroe and The Fonz, my childhood crushes

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My friend who I kinda like is always making gay jokes, especially towards his other friends (he seems nervous to around me though??)

He claimed he was straight and had a GF but he would also “hint” to being into guys and flirt with his friends.

I had no idea whether or not he was one of the straight guys who jokes around or if he was actually into dudes.

I was too nervous to ask him such a personal question in person (I’m quite embarrassed to ask him anything 😅) so I asked him over text earlier and found out he’s pansexual.

I may have a shot with him, guys!!! (I’m nb)

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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by voytek709@lemmy.ca to c/bisexual@lemmy.world
 
 

So, this guy I’ve been friends with for a little bit and who I kind of like called me cute 👀 I was kind of flustered, to be honest, since I’m not used to being called cute.

I don’t want to overthink things but I’m so happy.

For anyone curious, I'm 18nb, he's 18m

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I, personally, am on the verge of passing out.

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i’m bi. so is my gf katya.

however, katya is also a HUGE right-wing Trump supporter. she literally follows him on every single account and says stuff like “no one cares abt lgbt rights” which is an odd thing to say as a bi person.

Katya is also very nice to me and very much in love with me, though, despite our differing opinions, and I know she’d be offended if I questioned them.

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so i (13f) am friends with nadya (14f). i desire a connection with her and i’ve noticed i get jealous when nadya does things like touch her attachment’s arm (she develops attachments).

i want someone to connect with me like that. lately, i’ve been having dreams about her. nadya has insomnia, so in one, she called me on the phone and told me (after i told her to get a doctor’s appointment) that she slept a full 8 hours and thanked me for the advice.

nadya gives me eye contact, listens to me, and is very sweet to me in my dreams. i even went to her house, which i notice is a common dream i have with people i’m “in love” with.

i haven’t been to her house in two years because she’s so busy. i can’t believe i feel THIS way about the girl i used to be jealous of. (she used to be rude to ppl and i was jealous bc she dated my crush at the time.)

when nadya tells HER she loves her, it makes me kinda wish she was like that w me but idk if i just desire connection or what

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by insomniacalmond@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/bisexual@lemmy.world
 
 

Oh, did I say, "my girlfriend Kate", family? Yeah, Kate's my friend and she's a girl!

"Girlfriend of ten months"? We've been friends for ten months, guys!

You see how we hug a lot, hold hands, sometimes kiss? Kate is a very dear friend to me. We're closer than anyone else, and we show that by doing all that!

Oh, you saw me flirt with her? Friends do that jokingly! I wanna move in with her due to how expensive it'd be if we each got our own place! We'll be ROOMMATES.... who sometimes make out.

We just practice kissing! Ya think guys will date us if we're bad kissers?

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How’s everyone doing today? :)

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HUGEEEE HUG 🫂 for everyone! Hope you are doing well. 🫂💜 love you all!

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The quality of the art, story, and choice options for this title make it a surprise it's free on Steam. I finished it in one sitting and it was a relaxing four hours. There are multiple endings so there's a decent amount of replayability.

While the character creation is bare, the options available are good. Players can choose between a feminine or masculine appearance, then move on to choosing their pronouns and then sexual preferences which drilled down even further making it surprisingly specific.

The story was enjoyable and relatable. It follows the MC as they begin pulling themselves out of depression by taking small steps to take better care of themselves, make new connections, and being productive towards their goals.

I was disappointed that I couldn't play this on Steam Deck due to not being able to use the keyboard to type. There were a few spelling/grammar errors but not many. There were also several scenes that had no music or audio which had me at times wondering whether I muted the game on accident.

I recommend this game to those looking for a light-hearted dating sim about art, mental illness, and getting good at adulting.

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.zip/post/18177525

[Fan Art] Kirby in the Clouds by David Pavon

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This community has mostly been dead so when the old mod asked for help because he was leaving I said I could keep an eye on it, but that I couldn't be fully committed. After the recent popular post and a number of reports generated by it I realized I'm out of my element trying to mod an LGBT board. If anyone would be interested in helping out or taking over please let me know!

Edit: I've added Odium and Remy Rose as mods. If you would like to moderate here as well please comment or reach out!

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I reported them for harassment with the following statement:

The purpose of this group is to review bomb any game that has gay representation. Their discussion threads talk about using other platforms to discriminate against LGBTQ+ communities and individuals to circumvent Steam's TOS policies. This type of behavior promotes discrimination, review brigading, and toxicity. It is surprising Steam is tolerating such open homophobia on this platform.

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Hello nice people,

Im in my early 30s and only came out to myself and wife a couple years ago during lockdown.

Fast forward to now, a few years later. I’ve only been with 2 other dudes and basically only once. I’m talking with a guy and we seem to mesh pretty well but I’m feeling sick to my stomach with anxiety over the prospect of meeting him in person. I’m way in my head about it. I definitely want to meet and enjoy what I enjoy but I’ve got a huge mental block which makes me feel like I’m doing something bad and immoral. Even with full permission from my wife and I’ve done this before and thoroughly enjoyed this. My stomach aches and it’s like I hold myself to crazy standards that I myself would look down on someone else if they had those standards too. It’s like I’m homophobic to myself and myself only. I don’t see other gay or bisexual dudes as weak or less than but if I indulge in anything homosexual, it feels like I’m weak and less than.

If anyone has experienced this or knows someone who feels this or if ya have some wisdom or even just a related story, I’m all ears. I know a therapist is arguably the best person to deal with this but I’m curious what the community thinks.

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I recently got some Pride merch from my work, a Hoodie with our logo in the flag colors and a tumbler to go with it. We've also been starting regional teams groups and doing poetry and pottery events. Its nice to work somewhere so accepting.

I usually go to a smaller community Pride event and this year my recently out sister is going with us so I am pretty excited for that.

Anyone else got big plans??

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