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Yeah, exactly. The mainstream seems to be only to be able to depict abuse being kink.
The latest one is Babygirl (film) I've not seen it but based on the trailer it sure looked that way. I hope it isn't but I don't have high hopes of a mainstream film or other media ever depicting actually good consent and kinks beyond the ones most associated with the mainstream understanding of kink.
I think Secretary didn't do a terrible job. But it's been downhill from there.
There are so many kinks within BDSM that trying to lump them all together is pointless. I'm a switch, so it's never clear what role I'll take with a new partner. But going into details has in the past not worked out so well here.
I think Secretary is good bad representation. Two people figuring out how to navigate their kink, but also learning how to deal with their bad behavior. They are flawed and don't know what they are doing. It's a movie, not an inspiration for life.
I'm not saying it's perfect by any stretch, but an accurate depiction of a power-exchange lifestyle would make for terrible cinema. It's not all about whips, chains and leather. Dear god, can you imagine the critical reaction to an actual aftercare scene (no pun intended)?
Yeah, I have heard it brought up as a good example but wasn't sure. I'll check it out.
Not sure what you mean about trying to lump them all together.
This insane notion that "BDSM" is a kink. That's like saying your favourite meal is food.
Seconded - Secretary is lovely for all the right reasons.