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Intro To BDSM: Creating A Dom Persona ft. Yaz (inv.nadeko.net)
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If you think that what you are doing to someone else is too humiliating, degrading, unacceptable to think about happening to you, there's something to explore.

Go to 45:40 for a bit more context, but this quote is enough to start the discussion I have in mind.

The idea is simple and it’s mostly aimed at the ones with little interested in BDSM. BDSM is not abuse. It might be abusive, which is absolutely bad, but that should never be the nature of the practice.

From time to time, I see accusations of abuse being dismissed with the excuse it’s just a form of BDSM that people outside can’t understand. It’s not that hard to grasp the concepts, but you’ll notice you will never get an explanation. Serious people will know what they are talking about and are able to provide you with resources for you to educate yourself. Honestly, most people would find all the education and preparation quite boring, the same way someone that just wants to cut people up would find too bothersome to become a surgeon.

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[–] Powderhorn@beehaw.org 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I'm not saying it's perfect by any stretch, but an accurate depiction of a power-exchange lifestyle would make for terrible cinema. It's not all about whips, chains and leather. Dear god, can you imagine the critical reaction to an actual aftercare scene (no pun intended)?