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Older comrades in here. I have a question. Need some advice. (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by GloriousDoubleK@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I have a partner in my polycule relationship that is going to date someone from Ukraine. 😒

I have a problem. I can respect that ANY Ukrainian is likely pissed about the Donbas war and the Russian SMO.

I dont know this man. And Im already disgusted with myself for being prejudiced.

My partner is a socially progressive liberal. And they once tried taking me to task about China once before.

I told them it was best we never talked global politics.

But I will absolutely 100% lose my entire shit if my partner starts going openly rah rah for Ukraine.

My partner says they love and adore me. But they dont have a deep appreciation of me being a Tankie and they deserve to know. They deserve to understand or at least know who I am.

I cant abide a lover living in a lie and giving their love on a misunderstanding.

How do I approach this diplomatically and in good faith? Because Im probably gonna have to meet this guy and frankly... He is a Ukrainian in the US. Im being prejudiced; but I am automatically expecting this guy to obviously be against Russia and at best; reactionarily supporting Azov and Banderites simply because they're the ones fighting.

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[–] GloriousDoubleK@lemmygrad.ml 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

To be fair, Im admitting to being prejudiced. But the chance of this guy being a stoic, principled, based anti-NATO dude... In the USA is just.... 🙁

At any rate... I owe it to my partner to understand who I am and my world view. It would be wrong for me to allow them to misunderstand me.

[–] freagle@lemmygrad.ml -2 points 2 years ago

You're not in control of whether others understand you. You can make an attempt, but if you have a liberal partner falling for a Ukrainian in the US after they already gave you shit over China, I wouldn't hold my breath for them to understand you