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someone i long since cut contact with due to abusive behavior said they don’t care about other people’s rights or respect for them?

they said they don’t care if trump ruins the us (despite being american), that they don’t care about the discrimination and social disadvantages faced by minorities (they are black, bisexual too[?])

and they always say “i don’t know and i don’t care” when someone asks them something. they also talk about how bad it is to hate “illegals” (which i agree with) but says she doesn’t care ahout illegal hatred too??

Lesbians formerly had a banned mod, who got kicked and replaced with two mods who could actually run the community.

As a Toki Pona learner, I always found the language quite cute, and wanted to post in the community to make it more active and keep it that way. Not only is it inactive, but there also appear to be only like 2 posts, both from the banned mod.

I would also find it quite fitting to use as a bisexual woman with a girlfriend.

Is there anyone who would be willing to help revamp it a little? It would be nice to have more Toki Pona communities.

i know my ex probably doesn’t care, he ghosted me and never included me on anything, from a list of people he appreciates to never making gifts for me and hardly ever spending time with me.

there was a time he was romantic with me, he showed me affection and cared about me, but it later started to feel like we were acquaintances with some romantic aspects (the occasional “i love you” and being friendly). there was a time where he would never show any affection for me, and though i’d be fine with him not saying he loved me, especially not every 2 seconds (i just wanted once per day), it felt more like we were friends and there was no other indication of intimacy/romantic feelings.

he never even told people about me and acted as if he was single when a “cute guy” would ask. he would only post about attractive fictional/irl men (as in celebrities), so when i told my friends, they suspected (obv we don’t know for sure) that he might have thought he liked girls and continued to date me as a girl (he was pan) but then realized he might be gay that’s why he ghosted me. (that doesn’t make it right, just saying). i can’t talk to him at all, whether it’s romantic messages or an official breakup text, i tried talking to him about the “ghosting” several times but he just does it again. i asked him again but i can’t talk to him because he doesn’t respond. i tried getting some other socials from him, even his number, but he acted a little odd about both suggestions and said no thanks.

he keeps saying that somehow all of his socials don’t work, even though i see him post, and he reads my messages but doesn’t respond. it’s weird, i feel like i was done dirty and i feel upset, but as a lesbian now, I wouldn’t say im attracted to him either.

This is our second date 😊 Yay!

idk if they’re part of the community or saying this for attention/an excuse, plus ik not everyone is like this, but the people who are make me sick.

i have noticed an influx of highly religious internet users claiming to be bisexual with pride flags in their bio yet saying the most bigoted, vile crap. how sick do you have to be to do that?

thinking minorities are weird and saying they deserve death while playing the minority card??

i don’t care if you’re a queer person who says shit like “lgbt lives matter!! im queer and i hate when people are homophobic!! homophobia ends now” stop trying to make yourself look good.

also some of these people are women who are “anti-feminist” and also say “women just want something to complain about 🥱” respectfully shut up!!

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22063299

“dad

do you remember what i said about using the name ‘cara’ with me?

i wasn’t joking

what do you mean son

well

i’ve been having dysphoria for a while

so i want to try to present as a girl 😅

if it’s okay with you, i think im trans

oh

ok 👍

i think it’ll take me some time to get used to it but if you want to be a girl and it’ll make you happier then i don’t have any problem with that

good luck with everything my daughter ❤️“

i’m bi, but i remember when i was a younger teen, i was OBSESSED with men but also the scenecore aesthetic? i wanted to be scene but I didn’t have money/a gift card to buy the clothes. anyway, i liked the aesthetic and music but wasn’t one myself

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22098369

(found this community more fitting because im a lesbian, also because I see people get downvoted a lot in advice communities despite being made for advice)

she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

she either types “oh!” “…/.” or “erm what 😨” when i say smth

also, shes quite dry around me, often giving like one word responses and only being super energetic around her friends and when posting about video games.

idk if she’s actually just busy or making excuses, since shes usually talking to her friends or other partner (open relationships)

(im going to say that im a lesbian, first off, and maybe i just feel this way about relationships with men because i’m in a bad spot, or in other words, pissed.)

part of the reason i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years was because i figured out im a lesbian and couldn’t see myself dating nor attracted to a man.

the other part? he wasn’t there for me as of recent.

he was pansexual and i was a gay/bi trans guy. i met him through a friend, and he lost contact with the friend sometime after he met me and only we talked (our only mutual friend after that was some VERY controversial guy from tiktok but due to said controversy, we stopped being in contact with him and he blocked us).

a lot of the new friends we made on his discord server started to make silly jokes about us, like “get a room you two!” or “are you sure you guys aren’t dating?” it was very casual, i had feelings for him so i was just like “ if he wants to 🤷‍♀️” and he replied with “yeah ok why not :)”

so after that, we were a couple. we talked a lot as friends, we talked a lot as boyfriends. then i got a girlfriend (the deal was that we could date if we knew about the people, and he knew about my gf). we broke up the first time and she acted really cruel (saying i abused/assaulted her, either acted this way because i was a guy or because i was trans. maybe both). this made me feel terrible for MONTHS due to having bad-ish attachment issues.

i detransitioned after that, since the very thought of being a man reminded me of our relationship/breakup.

he, however, was there for me during it. at least, when he could be.

there would be periods that would last several weeks where i would hear nothing from him. even when i would see he read my messages and posted on social media, he would not respond to my messages. ever.

then he would be like, “sorry, i was at work” or “sorry, i was staying at someone’s house for a while”. i was quite forgiving and was honestly just worried about him.

then, it happened more frequently, again and again. he would hardly say he loved me or show any affection. my “friend” told me this was normal in relationships and thought i was crazy for thinking otherwise.

sometimes, he would say he loved me and actually be there for me, but he recently started leaving me on read again. i broke up with him and decided i was a lesbian since i kind of lost feelings and couldn’t see myself with a man or even attracted to one.

[so, im still kind of pissed at him, confused about my attraction a little, and at a rocky relationship with my “friend” and girlfriend.]

I’m in a happy relationship with a woman, but some man I talked to once kept messaging me and suggesting we be in a relationship. I blocked him once several months ago (back when I was single because I was uninterested) and then unblocked him.

Sure enough, when I went to check in with him and see how life was going, I made a mistake. he was at it again and kept suggesting again that we be in a relationship.

He seems like a good friend and he seems nice enough but he seems like he would objectify me too much even if I were to be in an open relationship if all he cares about is being mine and not who I am.

I didn’t want to deal with it, so I decided to block him, but I feel bad 😓. Plus, I’ll be friends with people but I’ll block if they suggest I date them, especially when I’m dating.

It’s a bit different now because I’m legal, but I remember during my first days of posting on the internet (c. 2014) there were guys who looked around my age now claiming to be like 15 even though they looked about ten years older. Luckily, I blocked them too and even got my first boyfriend then! 🙂

there was this one person i saw who was extremely bigoted. hated people who weren’t christian, straight americans while preaching acceptance and claiming “she just knew the truth”.

she said that she had no friends. no guy ever liked her back when she liked them. no guy ever asked her out, hardly any friends.

apparently she thought it was because she was “ugly and black”. ooorr maybe because you’re not really a good person.

I'm 23F, she's 22F. I thought I was just an ally for a while, since I only liked one girl as a teen and mistook it for admiration/hormones but I have no doubts about being sapphic now! 🙂🙂

I confessed to the woman I like that I was interested in her. She said she felt the same but was waiting for me to make the first move, and that she was interested in giving dating me a try.

We went to lunch and she kissed me when we went home. She told me our first date was amazing.

Hii everyone! I'm a 32yr old CD from Australia. I'm really wanting to book a 2 week holiday overseas (solo trip) that I intend to spend completely en-femme. Where would you suggest I look at? I would prefer a more urban environment rather than beachy, I don't really have that kind of confidence yet.

Pick is of me, sorry I couldn't think of anything else to put there.

Also sorry if this isn't the right place to be asking, I didn't know where else to ask. TIA

i honestly think mine was sometime in 8th grade when i realized that i didn’t just admire this guy, i wanted to go out with him.

i got jealous when he jokingly flirted with guys, but at the same time hoped that he was hinting that he was queer and not just joking around.

Over the last 15 years I created Lesbians Who Look Like Justin Bieber and Everyone is Gay. I was on MTV, I toured with Lady Gaga, and in September 2014 I released my first book "This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids"

I wrote about all that entertainment industry bullshit in the memoir i released exactly 10 years later in September of 2024.

What has me fucked up is... two months before my memoir was released I became inundated with memories from another reality. At first, I thought I was just having an idea for a fanfic about Vanessa Hudgens but, like, I'm not even a fan of Vanessa Hudgens. I do not write fiction, I have never written fiction. I can't come up with shit in my head. And I wasn't coming up with this shit! I was having memories. It felt like memories and I...idk...remembered it like memories. I have had memories of the future before. Small ones, little things that i could kind of talk myself out of, I talk about it briefly in the memoir I released in September.

The point of this post is, I wrote a whole fucking memoir and I physically can not bring myself to talk about it because that person is not me anymore. I know it's not me anymore because I saw myself in the future and in the future I am a time travelling teacher with a super hot wife. My wife, 44, and I travel to different realities via collective consciousness. In the reality that I remembered this summer, she took over the consciousness of someone who looked like an older Vanessa Hudgens and we manipulated Vanessa and her best friend, Dan into living their best lives (or something). And to clarify, yes, I am saying that my best friend in another reality is Vanessa Hudgens. Which is not all that far-fetched considering my bestie-ship in this reality with girls like Gabi Gregg, Shailene Woodley, Kate Nash, and Stevie Boebi... Vanessa Hudgens is honestly kind of a mishmash of all of them.

Anyway. I literally HAD to write this alternate reality shit out and it turned into My Memoir From An Alternate Reality. I finished the alt reality memoir on August 19th and that night I had this INSANE transcendental experience involving myself and an unidentified Aquarius doing a radio show. The next day, August 20th, I sent my finished book to my friend, Ashe. A few hours later I saw the hottest girl ever on tiktok and I flirted with her. After a tasteful back and forth on TikTok, she slid in my DMs and I asked her thoughts on time travel. She said, verbatim, words that 44 said in the alt reality I'd been remembering. Thank fuck I had written them down in a book and sent the book to a friend so I had confirmation it was all real.

The girl is an Aquarius and we're about to start a podcast.

I wish i was fucking lying.

Has some shit like this ever happened to anyone else?

p.s. alt reality memoir attached to this post via a proton drive link

I'm a Bi dude and I get so tongue tied sometimes I literally sound like Porkie Pig.

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