I mentioned this when all this drama originally started but this site falls into the same pitfalls as small leftist organisations IRL that develop cliques around vocal members and inevitably split over personal issues (Or become a Maoist polycule which I don't think will be an issue for Hexbear)
I do think if you're a moderator the most important skill is identifying the difference between wreckers/problematic users and someone who just makes bad posts once in a while. Good moderation outside of the janitor work is essentially just having the social skills to read the vibe and mediate disputes which many asocial/neurodivergent people lack. Nothing wrong with that but you should be able to look at yourself and see that if you lack those skills you are probably not suited for being a spokesperson for a community.
Caliban and the Witch is a solid read