Alice

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[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 47 minutes ago (1 children)

Vantablack isn't really paint, it's a coating of nanotubes the size of an atom. I wonder what that would feel like.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 53 minutes ago

Listen to that ick!! That's the part of you that knows your worth

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 7 points 6 hours ago (3 children)

You don't genuinely like him, you're just lonely. Plus, he doesn't respect you at all, or his previous girlfriend. He won't treat you right, but let's be honest, even if he was the greatest man in the world, you're not actually into him.

It sounds like you're having a really hard time and you just want some tenderness and support, but you won't get it from a misogynist.

Keep him blocked, and take care of yourself.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 6 hours ago

Lol pretty much, the typos usually get way more extreme.

I've been guilty of it in the past because I used to get so mad I'd stop correcting for my dyslexia or my general terribleness on mobile keyboards. Reason #∞ not to argue on the internet.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 10 hours ago

Hundreds of Beavers!

I'm not even sure what to say about it. There sure were hundreds of beavers.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 10 hours ago

The cat has cabin fever due to the snow. I took her for her first walk in a while yesterday and she somehow slipped under the neighbor's fence and refused to budge. I wasn't going to let her run away with the leash trailing behind her because that sounds like a good way to let her get tangled somewhere, so we just sat at a stalemate on opposite sides of the fence for god knows how long.

We eventually finished the walk, and in spite of that, she still had the zoomies until 4:30am.

I guess she's doing well? She keeps life interesting, at least.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 7 points 10 hours ago (4 children)

Not too sure about gringo but I know yankee is correct, I hear that one a lot from folks I know in the UK.

There's some weird linguistic drift where in the southern US, we call northerners yankees, even though in the rest of the world we're all yankees. Now I'm curious how that started.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I guess it's more of a Tumblr term. It refers to when someone starts typing really sloppily to signify they're having a breakdown.

I guess it's kind of a mean term but I really think people should walk away from the keyboard if they get to that point.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 1 day ago (5 children)

That's so mean! I wish people were nicer about stammers, and speech impediments in general. When I got my first service job, I had a handful of customers like that, and I got a glimpse of how much it affects their daily lives. People got impatient and walked away from customers and hung the phone up on them all the time, they were excluded from everything just because they didn't speak as clearly.

And that's just what I noticed from waiting on customers. If they're friends, why isn't OP empathetic?

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago

Oh that sounds like a nightmare! I'm not even attractive for a heterosexual woman (I'm a short, chubby, muscle-dyke-in-training with a missing front tooth) and I still have random straight guys try to get in my pants. If I end up "dating" one, we're both gonna be disappointed.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago

Back when I wore it long, the problem was getting it in my pants?? How did I have that problem but not getting it in my mouth

 

Title. I signed up for a queer speed dating event recently and I have no idea what to expect. Not really looking for a how-to guide, just curious about others' experiences. Was it fun, would you do it again, did you meet anyone cool... That sort of thing!

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 6 points 1 day ago

Narcissism, like all personality disorders, is a trauma response and also not indicative of someone's moral character as you can get help and learn not to act on your worst inclinations.

Asshole is a behavior.

 

A paper published Monday in Nature Medicine found that the tiny fragments of plastic are passing the blood-brain barrier and into human brains, and the amount of microplastics in the brain appears to be increasing over time. The concentration of microplastics in analyzed brains rose by about 50 percent from 2016 to 2024.

 

Genuinely can't figure out how other people develop active social lives. The most common advice I get is to look on Meetup, but I found pretty much one group and while I had fun, halfway through the event they started making fun of liberals for not having friends. I'm genderqueer so that ain't gonna work out. Everything else on Meetup is scientology garbage.

I go out and do things on my own and try to be open to people who approach me, but on the rare occasion someone wants to talk to me it's because they're horny and they've mistaken me for a straight woman. I can be out in the mud picking up litter and someone will strike up a conversation about the environment, something I'm interested in, and it turns out it's because they think I'm doing this to get the D.

I'm getting crazy bored. Does everyone just work a 9-5 and then go home alone? Except for when they have sex with the occasional random straight man??

 
 
 

I tried /r/suicidewatch on that other site, but even though I made it clear that I was looking for advice and encouragement, the only two replies I got were in agreement that it doesn't get better. 😐 /r/depression is even worse by the look of it.

Does anyone know of any good websites, or is it the nature of all of them that they just turn into a crabs-in-the-bucket nightmare? I'm trying to get better but it also gets isolating pretending I'm not depressed all the time.

 
 

Never done this before, turned out to be a lot of fun :)

 

I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice.

I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera.

Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back.

The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical.

I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of.

So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick

 
 
 

‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union.

Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, was murdered the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.

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