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If it was a sincere apology, I'd say yes. if they spread a rumour like that I was a murderer or something, maybe not.

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[โ€“] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

It's a one time thing. People can - just like children - come to the wrong conclusions. If they stay on your side after the first time, they have understood you, and are understanding you from their perspective.

But if they continue to gossip about the next thing about you, they just wanted to bury the shit from before.

Getting older I am able to see the cues of 'gossip' and I throw all that shit to the back, and use opportunities to address my friends or coworkers about it indirectly to get a proper perspective.

[โ€“] inzen@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Whatever I feel like. I wouldn't decide on a whim but consider my feelings properly. Forgiveness is not a rational thing IMHO. Edit: typo

[โ€“] deathbird@mander.xyz 3 points 9 hours ago

Spreading rumors about someone is a genuinely nasty thing to do to someone. But even the best of us can probably spread information that we think is true and important but is really a fabrication.

I guess to me the difference is: were they genuinely mistaken and are now aware of their error and how they can avoid similar errors in the future, or are they a gossipy bitch?

[โ€“] hyacin@lemmy.ml 6 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

No. They will go to the re-education camps with the rest of the traitors when I rule the planet as Grand Overlord.

[โ€“] Bronzebeard@lemmy.zip 4 points 15 hours ago

... No, they knew they were wrong about me because they would have had to make up the rumor in the first place. What a dumb excuse.

[โ€“] CitizenX@beehaw.org 2 points 13 hours ago

Nope. They would be DTM(dead to me.)

[โ€“] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 21 hours ago

No. That's some schoolyard bullshit. Tolerate mistreatment, and you'll risk normalizing it.

[โ€“] Nemo@slrpnk.net 3 points 17 hours ago

Forgive, yes, but I'm never trusting them again.

[โ€“] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca 7 points 21 hours ago

Did they pass on incorrect information believing it was correct? or Did they spread a rumor because they didn't like you and they knew the info was incorrect?

Huge difference.

[โ€“] JumpyWombat@lemmy.ml 4 points 20 hours ago

It happened to me at work and it was a very bad period. Even if it ended well for me, no forgiveness.

[โ€“] iii@mander.xyz 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I wonder if it's usefull if people think you don't know that they know that you're a murderer. When in fact, you're not.

[โ€“] GuyFawkes@sh.itjust.works 2 points 21 hours ago

Be helpful in prison Iโ€™d reckon.

[โ€“] razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

It depends on the situation - did the rumor cause serious damage to my close personal relationships, career, etc? Are they willing to take responsibility for lying? Did they spread a rumor because they themselves believed it was true or with the intention of causing me harm? Have they matured as a person and is the apology sincere? Iโ€™m a forgiving person so I would most likely accept the apology if it was genuine and not too harmful.