Asklemmy

Spreading rumors about someone is a genuinely nasty thing to do to someone. But even the best of us can probably spread information that we think is true and important but is really a fabrication.

I guess to me the difference is: were they genuinely mistaken and are now aware of their error and how they can avoid similar errors in the future, or are they a gossipy bitch?

No. They will go to the re-education camps with the rest of the traitors when I rule the planet as Grand Overlord.

... No, they knew they were wrong about me because they would have had to make up the rumor in the first place. What a dumb excuse.

Nope. They would be DTM(dead to me.)

No. That's some schoolyard bullshit. Tolerate mistreatment, and you'll risk normalizing it.

Forgive, yes, but I'm never trusting them again.

Did they pass on incorrect information believing it was correct? or Did they spread a rumor because they didn't like you and they knew the info was incorrect?

Huge difference.

It happened to me at work and it was a very bad period. Even if it ended well for me, no forgiveness.

I wonder if it's usefull if people think you don't know that they know that you're a murderer. When in fact, you're not.

It depends on the situation - did the rumor cause serious damage to my close personal relationships, career, etc? Are they willing to take responsibility for lying? Did they spread a rumor because they themselves believed it was true or with the intention of causing me harm? Have they matured as a person and is the apology sincere? I’m a forgiving person so I would most likely accept the apology if it was genuine and not too harmful.