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Seeing this question asked is sort of sad. Did this become a less common experience? What killed it?
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Cameras on phones killed it.
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We definitely had to regulate this in college. We threw some ragers where we specifically knew it couldnt be documented where we collected phones and had a whole coat check system. Thankfully, facebook was only for college people, so nothing catastrophic ever happened
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And cameras on doorbells etc.
Yeah, no records may be kept of a house party.
Yes, but ours were usually much much more casual and in much smaller houses. TV makes everyone look rich. Broke people have parties too, but they're chips/dip and BYOB. Also, without the jocks vs. nerds.
My husband was just telling a story this weekend about when he was "ninth grade cool". Right before a party a cute girl asked if he had the new Prince album. He said yes and then begged his mom to take him to Sound Warehouse to buy it. Unwrapped it, shoved it in his pocket, and got dropped at the party. "Cool! What's your favorite song?" "Uhh, the first one."
Sad that kids now don't have that experience.
Do kids still go parking?
Do kids still go parking?
So many kids today don't want to drive or learn to drive π€·ββοΈ And based on my partners' kids, they're much less sexually driven than we were. We did a bunch of stupid shit if there was a hint of a chance of getting laid.
That's sad. The hours we spent talking, laughing, and making out in cars were the best part of high school. I wonder if some of the disinterest is from anti depressants.
It's probably from the world burning down around them. Hard to be horny when you're full of existential dread.
Yeah, absolutely no existential dread from the Cold War. And we all just instantly stopped believing that the world would end in a nuclear holocaust just because the Soviet Union collapsed. Then there was the Gulf war, then 9/11, then another Gulf war. And we've known about climate change and how capitalism is killing our planet for practically the entire time, that's not new. Oil crisis? That's been a slowly building crescendo of apocalypse since like the 70s.
I'll buy existential dread as an excuse for not wanting to breed, not as an explanation for teenagers being less horny.
Give us y2k and we'll party like it's 1999!
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Kids seems so socially anxious and isolated, making a doom loop against making friends and fucking.
Wait there arenβt parties anymore? What
Apparently kids are socializing in general less. Like it's a real trend.
My neighbors gen z kids for the last 3 years had parties like this all the freaking time.... so yeah they still happens. Maybe its just less common.
Iβm aware parties like this happened when I was a kid, I was just too much of a square to get invited (Iβm a millennial)
Home security cameras probably don't help for house parties. Parents can see everything now.
Gen Z stopped havin house parties, cause fewer of them live on their own / with a small group of roomies -- a lot more stick around with the parents, and parents aren't as keen to have a bunch of youth doing drugs and lightly misbehaving all night ;p
Sorry I was too busy being a geek to go to parties full of people I absolutely hated. That was back before gaming was popular and cool, when you had to EARN your geekdom.
Depends on how stereotypical of a portrayal is in question, but yes, I've been to what would definitely be my country's equivalent.
Houses full of people. Around when people where 15-19 or smth, sometimes even older, but average was prolly 16-17. A couple of 15 year old moped boys for every 18 year driver, but for everyone 18 year driver, prolly 3-4 16-17 year friends with them.
Houses so full you'd strike up a chat with a random person every few meters. Always at the slightly less than responsible parents who allowed their kids to be alone for the weekend in the house.
But like, pretty similar as those depicted, but with our culture, not US, so slightly different.
Yeah, in my country too, we had parties at each other houses, drinks, dancing, chatting, some food. Parents of the organiser would come from time to time to check that all is ok. We would buy our own food, make some sandwiches, buy some drinks, parents would give us some beers or wine( we could have a drink or two even before being 18). It was lots of fun. Even at our Highschool, the school would organise a disco party on Saturdays, no alcohol, but lots of dancing. We did not of course really need cars, Europe is pretty walkable.
Parents of the organiser would come from time to time to check that all is ok.
Uhm yeah the parties I'm talking about didn't have parents checking on horribly drunken teenagers.
We didn't have "a drink or two". I don't think it's just once that I've carried a person rolled up into a carpet filled with their own vomit out of the house because it was just the simplest solution.
Kinda like a horrible kebab roll, with the person as the meat, carpet as the bread and vomit as sauce.
I think alcoholism is a bit different here perhaps. If we weren't at parties or driving around drinking in cars, there'd be a youth hangout for under under 18's, so we'd hang out there. But you weren't allowed in if you had had a drink. To make sure, my own mom was sometimes at the door with a breathalyser. (My mom was in charge of youth activities in the municipality, she didn't just show up randomly.)
It wasn't every weekend there'd be a party, exactly because of how destructive they usually were. Hell, if you had a party, sometimes you'd just get people from the next town over, completely randomly basically, because someone knew someone and so forth. So if you did have a party the hardest part was usually keeping it in check and not have everyone invite everyone they know.
We needed cars/mopeds because the distances in the countryside are a bit longer.
During the summer heats like this (oh god you made me nostalgic noo) we'd hang out all day drinking at the sandpits, dozen or two little lakes and ponds ~5km north from the town center. So someone usually needed to be able to drive. Although that wasn't so much getting drunk as just having a refreshing drink in the heat and to rehydrate.
Many people lived as far away from the town centre as well, and usually in different directions, so it might be 12 kilometers from the house of one friend to another so mopeds and 125cc's and cars were kinda essential. I do understand Americans in that aspect but now that I live in the city and don't go there any more I just use a bike/bus. But in the country that isn't a thing.
I went to one in the early teens. I imagine it's harder for teenagers to have a secret party when their psrente are out of town these days
I'm slow, were these actually a real thing then?
(Younger) GenX here.
Yes, we partied hard, and we had a lot of fun. We got into tons of shenanigans, and thereβs zero video or audio evidence of any of it remaining. We said and did a lot of dumb shit, and were free to roam and make minor mistakes.
We hung out at each othersβ houses, at the mall (back when malls were cool), in parking lots, coffee shops, at railroad tracks, parks, the woods, swimming pools, whatever. We just talked for hours and really connected. Weβd hop in the car and just go somewhere, sometimes far away, just because. And we werenβt tethered to any monitoring devices in our pockets keeping us glued to messages.
We were free.
I really do feel sorry for the younger generations. Kids these days really do have it very rough. It sucks for yβall, and I do wish I could destroy the internet so you guys could be free, too.
That's a perfect description! Hanging out on empty playgrounds, running around downtown and climbing on statues, parking by the lake, going for a drive with no destination just to talk and listen to music. No phone, no texts, be home by midnight. I wasn't allowed to go to the mall and it was devastating.
Younger GenX here, can confirm all this is 100% true.
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House parties were awesome. I was never cool, but there was always room at a house party. It's a shame that these died out.
Yeah I never had this as a kid. Maybe I just wasn't invited though lol
I used to throw massive house parties. Yes. It was a vibe. I did terrible things at those parties and I am sorry what I put my family through. Silly parties to be honest.
There was always the ad-hoc couple inspecting each other tonsils over in the corner.
Totally never did that myself, nuh-uh.
Like a party with lots of people? Yes. But honestly they are way better in your 20's when people have their own places and drinking is not really an issue.
Let's party on Roblox!
π΅ Party House is in Roblox tonight π΅