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There’s no right or wrong answer here. I’ve been meaning to stock up on 711 gift cards for situations where I do feel like giving.
My last run in with a beggar she told me she was gonna eat my face off if I didn’t give her money for some Black & Milds.
Wow, that's intense.
A few things. My policy for all people is that if they ask me for something specific, then I will not give it to them on the spot. Doesn't matter whether it's panhandling or selling something or asking for signatures. I don't like being put on the spot, so I'm going to either research it on my own or follow some policy.
My policy about panhandling is to give money to food charities instead. Not because I think it's wrong to give them things, but because it makes more sense for me logically and emotionally.
Emotionally first. I don't get that emotional rush that other people seem to get for giving out money to a needy person, but I do feel a lot of remorse if I think it was a mistake. Sometimes, their response to a donation makes you feel really bad, and you don't ever get that if you just ignore them.
Logically next. A person without a home cannot buy food as efficiently as even a badly run charity. They don't have a refrigerator or even a safe place to store food, so they're forced to buy ready to eat food at several times the cost. Even if I did hand out money to individuals, I wouldn't do it without a budget. It just makes a lot more sense to give the same money to a charity, instead.
The issue here isn't about charity for the less fortunate. Many of the people begging make a decent living (from begging), and moreso than those working shitty service jobs. I don't want to give money to someone that dresses homeless and puts on an act. I would happily give money to anyone that genuinely doesn't know where they will sleep next week, or where their next meal is coming from.
The problem is that I'm not in a position to evaluate that. As such, I would rather give money to food banks and the like, since they are in a better position for that.
This is such a bad take. If it's so profitable why don't you quit your job and go beg for a living? Someone is asking for help and your response is to question their worthiness or intention?
Someone is asking for help. Help if you can. It's not easy to get out their and hold a sign belittling yourself and putting your fate in the hands of strangers. Have a little humanity.
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I give money because it is the decent thing to do.
I had a job that paid stupid well. I'd give some money to almost anyone who asked on the street. They need it. I have plenty. I'm not going to notice the $1 or $5 or even $20 that I gave away. I make more than that in interest every day.
Rarely, I'll talk with them a little. Ask their name or their story. There's a regular around me that seems delighted that I remember his name.
Sometimes someone will seem unsafe, but most people are alright. It helps that I'm a bearded man, so certain classes of danger and harassment are rarely pointed at me.
I got laid off in February. I still give to people who ask, but I carry less cash so sometimes I don't have anything to give.
When I'd be out with coworkers, before we all got laid off, none of them would give anything to people asking. I know they made as much or more than I did. I don't judge people for not giving cash out when they're in debt or struggling to pay rent, but I do judge my coworker for like wearing a high five figure watch and never helping the poor.
talk about how the beggars might spend their money on, how they might be lying
Only thing that I ever heard: they use all the money for alcohol and nothing else (I don't know, cannot prove it)
they should be looking for a job instead (My commentary: finding a job is impossible for them this days
Around here everybody who wants to work (and is legally allowed to) finds a job.
I pretty much never have cash. So, if I'm buying a 'to go' lunch/coffee I'll offer to get them something.
really shitty look for the mods that this is still up
exactly which slurs count on here, gang? who counts as people to "be nice" to, exactly? @Bluetreefrog@lemmy.world @TheSaneWriter@lemm.ee @Asudox@lemmy.world
