My therapist says I have to take a mental health day on Friday. The nerve of that woman...
But yeah I'm on the verge of mental collapse so it's probably for the better. Thinking about just marathoning Mad Max or something.
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The nerve of that woman...
She's right tho. Please do take the mental health day, you need it, love 
Yes, ma'am!
I'm going through it, but I'm trying my best.
I can't always be me, I hope people understand.
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Tiny human on public transport: :D
Tiny human having a meltdown on public transport: D:
How is the tiny human still melting down. I want to help you little human but your mom can't get you to say what's wrong.
People are already starting to study up for next semester. It starts in the beginning of september/very end of August. I am one of the late starters of the nerds because I am just starting myself.
You start in your own time and as long as you feel prepared, the time you start is irrelevant 
I thought I was getting a head start 
oh no 
After three days of trying to get a GP appointment or see the pharmacist for antibiotics for my infected surgical site, finally I managed to see the pharmacist and get some. It shouldn't be this hard to access medical treatment. And of course the infection has spread in that time.
Did you get an answer on your blood test
No, the only thing she said was that the kidney function was a bit low. Also the TSH was low, but it's meant to be kept low to stop the cancer coming back, so that's acceptable. But she was a nurse and said she didn't necessarily know how to read all the blood tests. She said she would get the doctor to look at it but that doctor never replies or follows anything up. I have an endo appointment in August, I'll ask her what she thinks.
I guess its good she didn't try to diagnose you based on a blood test she didn't understand. Sometimes when places are overworked nurses will step into more and more of the doctor role until they're clearly out of their competency zone, and it sounds like they're fucked for doctor.
Yes, there used to be 4 regular doctors, but three retired recently. Now they have the one regular and a load of locums. It's chaos and awful.
I hate the vicariat in the healthcare system. Just employ people, not everyone can be a substitute. 
A supermajority of the nurses at the place i usually get shifts are substitute, on temporary contracts or some employment agency workers on perenially renewed contracts, and as a result there's a huge organisational mess that they need to hire more short term workers to sort.
Sorry for the rant, I'm not trying to redirect from your issue, I just have a related issue.
What country are you in?
Denmark
I thought things would be better there.
Some problems we have, some problems we don't. The reason we have so many part time nurses is a direct result of union negotiations so stupid it makes you doubt the entire concept of organised labour.
I always thought the Nordic countries seemed like a utopia, but then I haven't been there since about 2008. maybe things have changed a lot.
A lot of things are as you remember them i imagine. Most of our cool institutions came out of a strong social democratic movement in the 20s and a dissident left in the 60s and 70s. But the social democrats embraced liberalism hard in the 90s and 00s. Thorning was big on think tanks, consultants, "efficiency" and instituted damaging policies that require yearly savings from every institution but barely allow for investment, Mette Frederiksen explicitly did not want a left wing coalition and has basically disavowed all parties to her political left while forming a government with the right, and is so ideologically committed to austerity that she refuses to spend budget surpluses on anything but the military.
We got the labour right virus too, just milder
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Fuck :/ I'm glad you got the antibiotics and I hope they'll help, but seriously, this took way too long
Considering the state of the NHS now, I actually feel amazed I got them at all. I really thought the situation would deteriorate to the point I had to go to hospital.
That is an upside, despite everything. Please take care of yourself ❤️
You too.
Too scared to call therapist
Still too scared to call the therapist. I don't know if it's going to be a consultation or if I'm just scheduling the consultation. I want to just go in person but I don't know if it's an option.
I'm too scared to pick up the phone. I'll just never make calls again. I feel like an idiot. Like I can't make myself do this, I keep trying and sitting on the website and staring at it. I would rather dissociate and daydream for 10 hours than make this call.
I do not think I can make myself do it. Which means I'll never make autistic friends or queer friends. Fuck. Like I'm completely fucked. I'm fucked.
Like in my brain it would be easier if something happened to me, and then it's out of my hands. People would care about me because the situation demands it. It's not me chipping away, wearing people down with inane questions for months because people said "ask questions" and "be persistent". The war of attrition that is neurotypical socialization is a fucking travesty.
I can't do it. I'd literally rather cry and scream and break things. I wish I could spontaneously combust. That would feel better than this. I can't make the phone call and will get worse until I do and I'm selfish for hoping anyone has anything uplifting to say, if previous attempts to open up are anything to go off of
Idk what to do anymore. I can't make myself do this. I can't. I don't know how. I'm too scared. Like I'm gonna throw my phone out the window or something or like scream idk. I can't.
The office is closed for the day. Guess I'll do drugs and watch porn or something until it's time to be too scared to call tomorrow. Like I'm gonna fucking die holy fucking shit
Is it possible to send an email instead and explain that you have phone anxiety? I’m really sorry you’re going through this :/ It’s not as urgent but I’ve been procrastinating calling my dentist for half a year now due to anxiety. It’s weird how something that is so easy on paper can be so difficult in reality.
a few days ago I was going to discuss with someone about my death, for a few moments I genuinely believed I died a long time ago and I was going to discuss it.
Sorry to hear that. Do you have Cotard's syndrome?
no, I don't want to clarify what disorder(s) I have, just needed to vent.
I haven't been too active here the past few days as I haven't been feeling great. The pins and needles/tingling spread to my face, maybe it's a migraine? No idea. One of the surgical wounds on my feet is infected and I can't get medical help. I tried to get a doctor's appointment yesterday, the receptionist said a doctor would phone me, I waited all day but they didn't. So I asked the pharmacist to prescribe me antibiotics but he said he can't do that because he's a locum and I have to wait for the regular pharmacist to come back. As I am waiting for the car repair I can't travel any further (the GP/pharmacy is about 10 houses down from me so I can get there without a car, although even that is difficult right now with my foot issues) so I am not going to the hospital for this - I don't want to sit there for 10 hours waiting to be seen anyway. So I've put an iodine patch on it and I'm hoping that will get rid of the infection. Normally I prefer not to use antibiotics for infected surgical wounds and prefer to use iodine patches instead but the iodine doesn't seem to be working quite as well this time.
The neurologist gave me a follow-up phone appointment about my migraines and has pressured me into accepting a new migraine preventative drug. The big problem with this is, it's not safe to take an acute treatment with it. So if the preventative doesn't work and I get a terrible migraine, am I supposed to just grin and bear it? And I mentioned my pins and needles, as it could be neurological, and asked for an appointment to get checked out and she said she doesn't deal with other neurological issues, she only deals with migraines! What the hell? I thought if you're a neurologist you deal with all neurological issues but apparently not. She said if I want a neurologist to check me out for this I have to ask the GP to refer me and be on a waiting list for about a year. Not to mention how difficult it is to even get a GP appointment now. It is just so difficult and exhausting trying to access medical treatment these days.
And due to the foot/leg issues my further foot surgery is going to be postponed. I don't know how long for. At least the previous surgeries got rid of most of the problem, what remains will have to be treated with topical treatments.
Oh UK, just hurry up and legalise assisted suicide already. 
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As a white atheist who can handle stairs is it my place to point out that the prayer room only being accessible by stairs is odd. I wouldn't care except the priest is handicap accessible.
Also its weird that basically every public institution in this country has a staff priest.
I would prefer it if everywhere had a staff Druid.
It would definitely be more fun for starters
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I'll be less active for the next few days while I attend a funeral out of town. Probably back later in the week since I'll be driving. Wishing all of you a better week, stay safe and keep lovin on one another.
My condolences, and stay safe on your trip
Sorry for your loss.