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transcription: against all authority except my dom

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diplomacy is made in the sheets

[–] InfinityOfThought@lemmy.zip 4 points 20 hours ago

Sent this to my very bratty sub immediately.

What's the political ideology where you put doms in power?

[–] BigBenis@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (3 children)

As a web developer, I'm embarrassed to say how long this took me to understand...

[–] lena@gregtech.eu 2 points 16 hours ago

Thank you for your contribution to the discussion, BigBenis

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 16 hours ago

Hierarchical, no less!

[–] squaresinger@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

The meaning is very similar.

[–] Hansae@lemmy.dbzer0.com 60 points 2 days ago

No gods no masters in the streets, oh god master yes master in the sheets.

[–] Ilixtze@lemmy.ml 10 points 1 day ago

Cool for this Dominique person

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Send to my subs right away

[–] jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 day ago
[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 2 days ago (2 children)

A guy who just wants cuddles and not to dominate sure feels left out these days.

Well there are plenty of women who want that. Or wouldn’t mind dominating themselves…

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Men: Women are opressed, we need to free them! Womem: No, stop you idiot! HARDER DADDY!

[–] melmi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

me when I don't understand consent

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

No I don't. Had an erp, had so many checks it killed the erp, because I sounded like a chatbot.

[–] stray@pawb.social 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's why you set up code ahead of time. Gestures are especially useful for nonverbal communication.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

To be fair, it ended when I took too long to decide what to do next.

It was also a text based erp. I'm a virgin.

EDIT: Even better, I'm basically a sub that got convinced to be a dom, and loved it.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

u hav a dom!?????!?!?!?!!?!!!

n i thought.,.,,- u like -,.,. didn uhm.., ~like~ ~bein~ ~taken~ ~care~ ~of~..,.

[–] erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago

its complicated~ also i wish i did

[–] QueenMidna@lemmy.ca 17 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Well there's plenty of us around if you know where to look ;)

Some of us even speak bottom!

[–] Mim@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 day ago

🥺
👉👈

I hope you can find a dom for you babe ;3

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 days ago

Here's where I'd mention my dom. If I had one 😫

[–] Unlix86@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 days ago