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she dint even live through ww2, why is she hating from before she was born? i get boomers would be upset, but her?
i would be concerned about her prejeduce? why not question her about it, where is she getting info from.
shes also japanese, what does she say about her ancestry, does she hate her dad?
You're doing the right thing: stick to your wife and do not try to change her.
That's the first, and the most important.
unless you really drill into her opinions, simply won't talk about it.
I guess that's typical for several Asian cultures, not to be very open about opinions.
she refuses to do cute shit like wear a kimono or chops sticks in her hair. Fuck me, I signed up for an Asian chick! (That is an attempt at humor for the autistic among you.)
Good to keep your humor!
Maybe she doesn't even find that "cute". Have you learned already about the traditional clothing style of her own region?
There is a complex relationship between many Asians. Many move to Japan for a better life quality. The Japanese have done some atrocious things in the past. To be honest with you, she's allowed to feel however she wants about anything. Many multi-ethnic people have severe displacement. You can look one way, be cultured another, and have several other things. I bet you fifty bucks she does a shitton of cute stuff that is tied to her actual culture.
I am ethnically Japanese, but I am culturally American. Among other things. There are bits and pieces that have dripped through, because my family has sustained its own culture.
You will never understand the hatred, it's not worth trying. Also stop being a dick on the internet. And probably real life. But more so on the internet. People's sufferings are not something that need to equate to be worthy of sympathy (at minimum).
Ops wife was also japanese and decades removed from said ww2, which is wierd.
Huh. That’s pretty much Europe but with other names. SIL is 50% Filipino and a huge weeb, and I know that the Japanese are very racist, I hope she does too because she wants to do a one month Japan trip in the near future.
But to get back to the Europe part: Western Europeans are racist towards Eastern Europeans. You know, Schrödinger‘s foreigners: they steal our jobs and they don’t work and live off the social system. If you’re like Spanish or British and go to Germany, people treat you differently than if you were Albanian or polish. There’s exceptions like Greeks, and as of right now, racism all over Europe shifts away from Europeans and towards refugees.
Fucking stupid. I’m an American and have no problems with Germany/Germans or Japan/Japanese folks. I don’t give a shit that they did to Americans decades ago—war is hell. Like what a stupid fucking reason to hate a country. Were you around in WWII? No, so shut the fuck up.
Also, SHE’S Japanese, so she’s self-hating, which is beyond stupid. You don’t have to own every single little thing your country did decades ago. Also also, go look up Filipino history. You think Filipinos haven’t also done some fucked up shit during wartime? Gtfo.
Lastly, your last comment is weird as fuck. You married a woman so she could be your waifu? The hell is wrong with you?
Yalls are some pieces of work—stay married, yalls deserve each other.
It's an older mindset, what you're referencing. But many Americans did actually have quite the problem with people they fought against. Some still do. Also, there can be many facets to ones identity. She may be ethnically one thing, but culturally she isn't. Everyone does fucked up shit during wartime, it's why we don't want wartime. This is true.
The last comment was weird, but I also have lived it so much that it's just...ugh.
*Look at how many Americans feel about Arabs.