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I try to read more but what else is there when I don’t wanna just read? I’ve done some notebook stuff too but I’ve found using it too much makes me be anxious about writing a lot down lol.

For instance as I lay on the bed for 10-20 minutes waiting for my child to take their nap. Do I just stare into the void?

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[–] kenoh@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 1 points 3 hours ago

That’s a cute little webapp

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 15 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (2 children)

sit with your boredom for a bit, its healthy. or rather its unhealthy to be constantly bombarded with dopamine for nothing. enjoy your freedom from the screens.

[–] Ephera@lemmy.ml 3 points 3 hours ago

Yeah, I've also found that just being bombarded with information all the time tenses me up. You might think of scrolling Lemmy or similar as "idling", but obviously your brain is still processing information when you do that.

[–] kenoh@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

theres always drugs

[–] lordgoose@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 9 hours ago

Depends on the mood I'm in. Lately, I've been drawing in a tiny sketchbook I bought because a little sketchbook isn't very intimidating, and I can just do a few quick practice drawings or commit to a small but detailed piece for an hour.

Another thing I like to do is lay on my back with my headphones on, put on some music, and do literally nothing except stare at the ceiling and listen to all the little details of my favorite songs that I don't hear when I'm doing other stuff. It's my form of meditation since "normal" meditation has never worked for me personally.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago

If I am by myself and don’t want to engage my devices or read, I will try to do something productive, like clean or organize a space that is messy. When I lay with my kids as they go to bed, I usually stare into the void and reminisce about them when they were younger. Thankfully they now fall asleep super fast, so I don’t have to spend 10-20 minutes with them. When they were much younger, I’d fall asleep with them until my wife (at the time) would wake me for my bedtime.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 28 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

You need to practice mindfulness. People should be OK with 10 minutes "staring into the void" and this is exactly the damage phones did to us

Edit: if I really want to look at my phone I open Wikipedia and check out the featured article or maybe the top read of the day list. It's not brain rot and it's not that fun either but it's time well spent

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

My goto device time killer is chess.com. It’s both educational and fun (assuming you don’t get your ass handed to you by a bot πŸ˜…).

[–] JakoJakoJako13@piefed.social 2 points 9 hours ago

I go out with my dog and kick a ball around. We both use some energy. The day doesn't seem as slow any more. I actually have more energy to want to do something after. It's not much but it works.

[–] scytale@lemm.ee 8 points 15 hours ago

Puzzles. Mini crosswords, wordle, etc.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Read the Qur'an, or Ecclesiastes and reflect upon it if the former scares you. 😁

[–] FireWire400@lemmy.world 7 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Lately I've been enjoying playing Tetris DX on my Gameboy in my spare time. Keeps the brain busy and me away from my phone.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 3 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I mean if Im having a laydown I just rest or nap. I don't really think of it as staring into the void. I love naps or taking it a easy for a bit. Moreso if I can do it outside with nice weather or even in a chair near an open window. Closing my eyes and listening to the birds and other bits of nature. Granted various noises can make that more of a no go if the timing is not right. Evening is even better with stars and the moon. If you start looking at deep breathing and mediation and having a few minutes is like gold. All that being said I like suduko and its a nice thing to do throughout a day a few mins at a time. I think tastes may vary with suduko though. Crosswords to but I have to be a bit desperate as I find they are more about me learning about the puzzlemaker than language really.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I wish I could learn to nap. I'm 30 and I've never been able to do it. Even a 14 hour flight there is no way I'm going to nod off even for a second

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 14 hours ago

Yeah im one of those folks that can sleep anywhere and it does seem like some folks are easy sleepers and some not. My wife is not. I have to be careful about making noise if she is asleep as she will wake so easily. She has to get the dog to help to get me up.

[–] sunshine@lemmy.ml 2 points 13 hours ago

It's fun to try to pick up some American Sign Language. The best resource I'm aware of is: https://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/lessons/lessons.htm

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Try origami.

Origami is always the answer.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 points 13 hours ago

I really enjoyed that as a child, even did a display in the library. Good recommendation

[–] AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world 4 points 16 hours ago

Do you count audio books as reading?

[–] TunaSlap@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

Chess puzzles

[–] Asafum 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

For instance as I lay on the bed for 10-20 minutes waiting for my child to take their nap. Do I just stare into the void?

Do you have any time that you just let your mind wander, or be mindful of your life?

If I'm sitting somewhere waiting for something and I know it's just going to be 10ish minutes I'll usually just take in my environment or let my mind wander. I usually do that when driving home/to work as well. I'm paying attention to the road obviously lol but I don't have music or anything playing to occupy my mind I just use that time to think.

It's said to be fairly healthy to give yourself some time for whatever thoughts might come up.

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 6 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

For anyone with a noisy self destructive brain like mine appears to be, I got pretty good at mindfulness by walking the exact same route through the forest the exact same time every day and by just sort of casually observing the sights and smells which somehow became a mental association with "these thoughts are normal and OK" including those extremely dark ones if you know what I mean

Basically any time a bird is making a sound now I can just enter a meditative sort of state where thoughts just come and go regardless of how evil those thoughts are. I changed the angle of my skylight window in my bedroom so that it acoustically catches the sound of the birds on the tree to my east, and if you know birds they sort of go sit on the same branch and sing the same exact bullshit on a somehow perfect schedule

Lately going through the darkest period of my life. When I manage to finally fall asleep I wake up from horrifying nightmares but there is a bird that will sit on my skylight at exactly 4am and he gets me back to sleep ez and I stay asleep

I used to have a hummingbird couple that I chilled with on my balcony every sunset but unfortunately they passed away this year

Sleep deprived ramble but maybe there's some wisdom here

[–] Asafum 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I didn't want to mention it in my initial comment, but that is something I need to work on too lol

Like 80% of the time my mind wanders it's usually some self deprecating nonsense, or extremely critical analysis of my failure in life. I figure it's stuff I need to process anyway, but the countless amount of times I call myself worthless trash probably isn't doing me any favors lol

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 2 points 14 hours ago

Yeah it's really easy to lose the plot sometimes. Lately at my desk at work the words "worthless animal" and "I trusted you" are what the voice in my head won't stop shouting so I'm slowly picking up the pieces with the forest routine again and trying to get that noise to ease up a little bit

With info overload these days everyone struggles with this to some extent I do believe

[–] otacon239@lemmy.world 2 points 15 hours ago

Find a new art, whether that’s creating or consuming. Or go to places where people hang out. Thrift shops/pawn shops can be fun to browse and sometimes you’ll find a hidden gem. Libraries are good too.

[–] MelonYellow@lemmy.ca 2 points 16 hours ago

Have a pet? Also aquariums are nice for staring at and relaxing

[–] CuddlyCassowary@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago

Most foreign language apps teach in bite sized pieces. I use Mango, but there are a bunch.

[–] Stovetop@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago

Writing, movies, video games, going on walks, cooking, depends on whatever I feel like.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 16 hours ago

If it's 15 minutes or more, I try to clean. Or I take a nap.