I am sorry but I do not have an answer for you as I have never seen something like this before. My preferred dynamic is indeed a tall dommy mommy. However, for some reason, and the reason I am commenting, this post reminds me of that time (well, there have been multiple times) where I got an AI generated ad about penis enlargement on youtube. It felt so dystopian and unreal. I took a screen recording of it. Too bad I cant post it cause of my account ago (fucking four weeks before I can upload a pic. What the fuck). But the fake ad made a lot of references to getting a ‘tool, just like those African Men’… So hot.
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I have a feeling you would absolutely love “The Gargoyle” by Andrew Davidson.
Morticia and Gomez Addams.
On and off, I've found myself watching Uyen Ninh's shorts on YouTube. Her and German Flatmate / Boyfriend / Fiance have something like that dynamic going on in those videos, maybe in real life too. That's what, or rather who, sprang to mind when I saw this post, for whatever that's worth.
The focus has been more about their cultural differences (she's Vietnamese), and the absurdities therein, presented with love and humour. Or else it's the more "relatable" content that might apply to anyone, but the dynamic is definitely there.
Bob's Burgers, Bob and Linda's marriage comes damn close to what your saying.
You can definitely find this dynamic in anime, although a lot of the romance stories are about couples getting together rather than an established relationship. "Horimya" and "My Dress Up Darling" are both series which are recent and very popular. They might be close to what you want. Some less popular titles that are more precisely what you described are "An Archedemon's Dilemma: How to Love Your Elf Bride" and "Shikimori's Not Just A Cutie".
There is a visual novel called Our Life: Beginnings & Always that may fit this. You can play as any gender, but I played as a female and I was very affectionate and doting to the boy in the game named Cove. You can choose to just be friends or create a relationship with him and it gives you a lot of control over how the relationship moves throughout your character's life. He's sensitive and shy, but as you get to know him he becomes very supportive and loving.
You play from childhood to adults and it's very cute. I highly recommend it.
That sounds lovely and quite close to the vibe I'm looking for! Thanks so much!
Pixar’s UP
Bro that short music video destroyed me
I skimmed through the Romance genre in my media server. Here's what I came up with. Not sure if any of these would work.
WALL-E
Dracula (1992)
Starman. He's not human, but don't hold that against him.
Warm Bodies, if you don't mind a zombie theme
Return to Me. A wife has to die, but there's a nice romance once she's out of the way.
On Golden Pond. There's a romance in there, but it isn't the main part of the story. And they're elderly.
The Man with Two Brains. True, she's just a brain in a jar, but none of us is perfect.
Love Story, just don't believe it when she says love means never having to say you're sorry.
Little Manhattan, but the romance is on the other end of the age spectrum from On Golden Pond
The Fault in Our Stars
Ooh, Warm Bodies is great on this list to my memory. She quite literally warms his heart with her love
Robotech has three of these relationships. They’re not very developed since it’s very early anime, but they have many of the qualities you’re describing.
The first one is Claudia and Roy.
The other two are… (spoiler)
Lisa and Rick
Myria and Max
Edit: They may not be exactly what you’re describing, but I think they’re in the right direction.
Maybe something in children’s media or Hallmark movies?
Decent amount of good romance anime that isnt onesided or exceedingly sexualized, one of the better ones i can recommend is The Angel Next Door Spoils Me Rotten. Its a nice slow burn, i think its getting another season soon?
You'll probably have an easier time you research some writers who come from more Matriarchical societies. Typically, these are gonna be places with very old cultures. Native populations (almost any country tbh) and Islanders tend to be good bets for that
True Romance
Does this girl exist irl?
You might find something like that in the Wheel of Time books. It's been a long time since I read them, but there's a lot of very strong women in those books and only a few of them have a hard time being gentle and compassionate when the situation allows.