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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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(Follow-up) Is it wrong/transphobic that I only feel attraction to and would go out with cis men? (lemmings.world)

submitted 11 hours ago by CatDemons4@lemmings.world to c/bisexual@lemmy.world

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I affirm trans people’s existence. As someone who lacks empathy, I honestly don’t care about trans rights, nor the suffering they faced, but I know it’s bad and that they’re people too. I don’t see a reason to discriminate, so I don’t.

I don’t deadname. I use the correct pronouns. I’m just only romantically, sexually attracted to, and would only go out with cis men.

I wouldn’t date a trans man with lady parts because of his lady parts. I like man parts. I wouldn’t date a trans man with surgery because he’s female-bodied (I’m simply not attracted to trans men).

I wouldn’t date a trans woman because she’s a woman, though I might like her man parts if she still has them.

I wouldn’t date a cis woman because I’m not attracted to cis women, nor would I have sex or date either of the identified people.

I like masculine parts with a male body. If I meet the right one, I may be bicurious and date women (cis). I like the attention, compliments, and closeness of a woman, so I say I’m bi, but I only really see men as dating material.

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[–] Dragonfruit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 11 hours ago

I don't think it's necessarily transphobic, but I also don't think you would still have that view if you had seen more trans men. You say you see them as "female-bodied", but some of the most insanely masculine looking men I have ever seen have been trans.

I remember I used to think I wasn't attracted to trans women for similar reasons and then I met more and started watching a few on youtube and instantly realized like "oh wait they are just normal women they look like women and act like women why wouldn't i be attracted to them" (which was then quickly followed by "oh wait i'm a trans woman", but that's a separate issue)

[–] breadsmasher@lemmy.world 5 points 9 hours ago

[–] tabular@lemmy.world 0 points 9 hours ago

When people would ask does X mean they are homophobic I'd say there's a big difference between people who feel sick seeing same-sex couples kiss and those who say they want homosexuals killed. I'd call the very bad behavior "homophobia" and the minor ones "an aversion to homosexuality". Does describing your (current) inability to date a trans woman as an "aversion" sound better to you?

[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 0 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, if you refuse to date trans men bcus you think they're "female bodied" call their parts "lady parts" that means you don't see them as men

This "parts" language you're using's transphobic language you need to excise . No "(man|lady|masculine) parts" . And you MUST care about trans rights